I have been thinking the last few weeks about relationships. I have never dated a apostolic/pentecostal girl. And I was just wondering if anyone else out there feels like God wants you to be single the rest of your life?
would that be such a bad thing?
once you come to accept the fact that you may never marry and find ways to be happy without a "significant other" you will find yourself happy in whatever state God puts you.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 01:07:50 AM
I have been thinking the last few weeks about relationships. I have never dated a apostolic/pentecostal girl. And I was just wondering if anyone else out there feels like God wants you to be single the rest of your life?
Try dating an apostolic/pentecostal girl. You might change your mind about the whole "eternally single" thing.
I would but I cant find any that is interested in me.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 03:12:23 AM
I would but I cant find any that is interested in me.
What is it that people in general like about you? That's what girls will like anyway. Shoot for the stars!
It was interesting that you specifically mentioned "apostolic/pentecostal" girls. It shouldn't make a difference. If non-pentecostal girls like you, then pentecostal girls will like you. They are the same human beings, just
hopefully a bit more spiritually aware.
Lady Newkris,
Of course it's not great being single without prospects , unless
1) God has called you to be single
--or----
2) You are single at a particular point in your life for a particular and non-permanent purpose..either personal or God preparing you for something.
That said, UPC guy, I have found, in general, women like a guy who is friendly, not stuck on himself, but with the self-assurance to be able to ask someone out, who can with grace accept either a 'yes' or a 'no' answer.
Getting a date is one thing..treating a woman like the Lady she is will be your best chance of getting second and subsequent dates.
Good luck!
John :waving:
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 03:12:23 AM
I would but I cant find any that is interested in me.
I know that feeling...
Quote from: Newsman on January 02, 2008, 03:25:18 AM
Lady Newkris,
Of course it's not great being single without prospects , unless
1) God has called you to be single
--or----
2) You are single at a particular point in your life for a particular and non-permanent purpose..either personal or God preparing you for something.
That said, UPC guy, I have found, in general, women like a guy who is friendly, not stuck on himself, but with the self-assurance to be able to ask someone out, who can with grace accept either a 'yes' or a 'no' answer.
Getting a date is one thing..treating a woman like the Lady she is will be your best chance of getting second and subsequent dates.
Good luck!
John :waving:
i guess i was trying to say that if you're not happy with who you are . . . . and what life has brought you . . . then you probably won't be happy in a relationship either.
if you are happy with who you are and your lot in life, you automatically become more attractive to other people and you might possibly find it easier to find someone to date and begin a friendship with. and if you don't find someone interesting enough to date . . . then you're happy with life in general and you'll be okay without a date.
at least, that's what i think in my "mom's opinion"
Quoteif you are happy with who you are and your lot in life, you automatically become more attractive to other people and you might possibly find it easier to find someone to date and begin a friendship with. and if you don't find someone interesting enough to date . . . then you're happy with life in general and you'll be okay without a date.
Wow, i like that! what a statement, mind if i quote you on another site?
Quote from: newkris on January 02, 2008, 04:15:55 AM
i guess i was trying to say that if you're not happy with who you are . . . . and what life has brought you . . . then you probably won't be happy in a relationship either.
if you are happy with who you are and your lot in life, you automatically become more attractive to other people and you might possibly find it easier to find someone to date and begin a friendship with. and if you don't find someone interesting enough to date . . . then you're happy with life in general and you'll be okay without a date.
at least, that's what i think in my "mom's opinion"
The part in bold, I have found isn't always true...even when I was happy in the lot I have in life...then there still wasn't anything to be found. But then again, I have gotten where I don't really care either way any more!!!! LOL!
go ahead and use the words if you find them helpful, sunlight.
and nwlife, it's not that you are "guaranteed to find your mate" it's more like . . . you are content with where you are and who you are and so if someone is interesting to you, you will be more interesting to them if you are happy. does that make sense? there may or may not be someone eligible and interesting around you, but you'll be okay with that because you are already content.
at least . . . that's what i see from my aged perch. :pwink:
actually nothing really makes sense any more..... :smirk:
The problem I am really having is that all the apostolic / pentecostal girls in my area are either dating someone or they are to young for me. I have had several girls tell me that was old enough for me that I wasnt there type one reason being that I am not skinny. Which I dont belive is really fair because you shouldent judge someone by there looks.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 01:07:50 AM
I have been thinking the last few weeks about relationships. I have never dated a apostolic/pentecostal girl. And I was just wondering if anyone else out there feels like God wants you to be single the rest of your life?
I've been faced with the possibility that God wants me to be single the rest of my life. That doesn't mean I don't sometimes ache watching my peers marry off and start their family.
Apparently some remain unmarried for the kingdom's sake...
Matthew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 04:44:22 PM
The problem I am really having is that all the apostolic / pentecostal girls in my area are either dating someone or they are to young for me. I have had several girls tell me that was old enough for me that I wasnt there type one reason being that I am not skinny. Which I dont belive is really fair because you shouldent judge someone by there looks.
If they're judging based on looks they're not the sort you want because they're still immature.
Look around you. There are lots of overweight people with a mate. Many (I hate to use the word but...) homely people have mates.
It's not the looks. You must project yourself as unworthy or not sure of yourself. People don't like to be around that. Do you try too hard?
You need to let your true personality show. Don't be concerned with how you look or what you are. Be interested in others. That's what usually draws people together. I'll tell you that people who are concerned with others will have friends all around them. One day one of those friends can become more than that, but you need to get to know people and what they're interested in first.
Now, you all are pretty young to be worried. If you were 50-60, that would be different. I know many people who didn't get a serious relationship going until they were in their 30s, and now they are more settled and really happy.
Spend your time on group outings in the meantime. Don't cut yourself off because you're not a couple. That's how hermits get started! LOL :laughhard:
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 02, 2008, 01:07:50 AM
I have been thinking the last few weeks about relationships. I have never dated a apostolic/pentecostal girl. And I was just wondering if anyone else out there feels like God wants you to be single the rest of your life?
I'm planning on being single the rest of my life. Not because I think it's something "God wants" for me, but it's what I want compared to the alternatives.
Well I dont really try to hard. I am thinking about joining a apostolic/pentecostal dating website. However im not sure what my philosphy is on that.
I donno. It just seems coming in here looking for women, and going to dating sites sounds desperate to me. Relax. Go out and find a way to meet people in real life.
I am currently doing that also. However it isnt working that well for some reason. I need someone with connections. lol. :lol:
I don't think finding a relationship is worth the hassle.
But I'm not a good one at all to give positive advice about such things, so if you want someone to encourage your search, don't listen to me. lol
Oh ok well dont feel bad. I have had nothing but bad luck usually with the whole dating scene.
Well, I can kinda sympathize with that.
lol yea join the club. :hi:
Whether looking online or at youth gathering, its a lot of how you present yourself the first time you talk to someone. you cant talk to them and right away know that you are falling for them. you have to take things slow. I think you have to try being friends first and let God do the rest. ;)
as far as bad luck in the dating scene -- me too!! lol
I know Trina , I am sorry for coming onto you so quickly, please forgive me. :cry:
i do forgive you...
all im saying is just dont rush into things because you are tired of being single. :)
What you need is friends. A group to be with to relax with where someone will find the real you. When you're "looking" you're not being yourself. Join some church ministries.
Everyone I've known who has set out to "find a woman" has failed. It usually happens when you're not looking. When you're acting like your real self and relaxed.
Try imitating anyone of these smileys:
:biglaugh: :great: :thumbsup2: :grin: :cool: ;) :freaky2: :hi: :viking: :king: :angel: :party: :afro: :hip: :supercool: :ugly: :guitar:
Each of those smileys represent a personality type - and THEY all have girls who like them, so there must be someone out there for you. Also, start finding good reasons to be single...HEY GUYS! Got any positives about being single? I'll start with one...
1. Being single saves you a lot of money. Your turn... :thumbsup2:
Quote from: Sis on January 02, 2008, 11:32:33 PM
What you need is friends. A group to be with to relax with where someone will find the real you. When you're "looking" you're not being yourself. Join some church ministries.
Everyone I've known who has set out to "find a woman" has failed. It usually happens when you're not looking. When you're acting like your real self and relaxed.
Amen!!!
I know I need to join some ministires however I dont have much time to join any b/c I work alot. and there isnt any in my church.
cheaper to be single, really, trav? hhhmmm . . . . :pwink:
Hello I am new here, but i have some advice to give. I too am single I have tried to look for someone always to go away empty handed. However, I took a cna class and I did not go there to look for a date. Coming to the end of the course two of the girls in my class were interested in me and i just being myself and not looking for a girl. Point is as others have stated don't go looking for someone just get out and socialize and met people. I know that sometimes in certian areas there are little to no choices with churches with single people but if you get the chance go to single events and special services and meet people.
And also if you wanted to enroll in Bible college in am sure you find a girl there easliy
Im going to take some of this advice. However starting bible college would be hard for me b/c of my current job. :offtopic:
Quote from: WhySoSerious on January 03, 2008, 02:24:35 AM
And also if you wanted to enroll in Bible college in am sure you find a girl there easliy
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To the nuthouse! Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 03, 2008, 02:45:24 AM
Im going to take some of this advice. However starting bible college would be hard for me b/c of my current job. :offtopic:
You would give up on school because of your present job? Not a good idea. Get all the education you can. Actually, you should be concentrating on that this time of your life rather than trying to settle down.
I know and I have prayed to God about me enrolling in a bible college or any kind of college and I dont feel like thats what God wants me to do right now. :lol:
Cody,
Being still a huge guy, despite losing weight, and having been a huge guy all my life, I won't lie to you. Being huge won't help a guy with the women.
However, that said, your avatar pic doesn't look like that of a huge guy.
Also, even a huge guy like myself can get dates, and there's nothing that says a big guy can't get a nice/great-looking/whatever the adjective is of the type of woman he is looking for.
At our radio stations Christmas party last month, I had a drop-dead gorgeous And NICE Lady who immediately agreed to go with me to it when I asked her.
Don't be arrogant, but don't count yourself out, either.
Good luck!
John :waving:
Thanks John thats very comforting. May I ask you if your radio station has a website?
Bible college may not be the place for you but getting some kind of advanced education is always a good idea while your still young. In reality its preparing yourself to be able to better care for the special lady you seek.
I know how to take care of girls. I have dated before just not girls who are apostolic / pentecostal. :pound:
www.mcalesterradio.com
John :waving:
Thats cool.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 03, 2008, 06:46:03 PM
I know how to take care of girls. I have dated before just not girls who are apostolic / pentecostal. :pound:
She means take care of them by having a good job and keeping the lights, gas and water on.
Quote from: Sis on January 02, 2008, 09:04:14 PM
I donno. It just seems coming in here looking for women, and going to dating sites sounds desperate to me. Relax. Go out and find a way to meet people in real life.
ummm... so joining Apostolic Singles Network was a desperate thing for me to do? :-\
Quote from: RainbowJingles on January 03, 2008, 10:50:14 PM
Quote from: Sis on January 02, 2008, 09:04:14 PM
I donno. It just seems coming in here looking for women, and going to dating sites sounds desperate to me. Relax. Go out and find a way to meet people in real life.
ummm... so joining Apostolic Singles Network was a desperate thing for me to do? :-\
Depends on why one is doing it. If you're just looking for new friends, as most do, it's fine. But if you're looking to hook up with someone, like a life partner, it looks desperate. And it usually shows by your posts which camp you're coming from.
lol now THAT was a nice political answer fer sher! lol
I dont think there is anything awrong with joining a christian singles website. What would be the differece between joining one of them and going to a singles confrence?
I believe in spousal predestination! If you pray for it sincerely God will work together your life, and the life of your future spouse, perfectly.
Check back with me in a year or so for the testimony. :thumbsup2:
I for one will be very interested in hearing that testimony ;)
Quote from: InChristGirl on January 04, 2008, 02:37:50 AM
I for one will be very interested in hearing that testimony ;)
Oh..I'm sure it's coming along....
:hypocrite: ....course....I never said whether it would be my testimony or not...although that will be coming too.
There's always the Eeyore Club.
I do NOT believe in the general concept of spousal predestination, nor do I believe it can be proven Biblically.
John :waving:
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 04, 2008, 02:12:57 AM
I dont think there is anything awrong with joining a christian singles website. What would be the differece between joining one of them and going to a singles confrence?
Rainbow has been around as long as I have been, so she knows I don't think there's anything wrong with single's anything. But what are YOU using it for? Most people don't go to singles conference to meet a potential wife. They go to learn and to meet people they know from other states that they only get to see during conferences. And to meet new friends, both male and female.
I knew a guy in my home church that went to General Conference with us, one year. He went to the singles dinner and came back all depressed and said it was a waste of time. He didn't meet THE girl. He went with the wrong idea. He didn't go to meet other people to connect with, he went to LOOK for Miss Right. That's not the way to find a wife. This guy had a list of things he wanted. Blonde, a certain height, a certain weight, etc. He finally found a girl to fit his imagined description. He got married to her, They got divorced a year later. She found out that he didn't want HER, (among other problems - there's a long list) He wanted someone to fit a list of attributes. It doesn't work.
Going to a conference to meet THE girl for you, isn't what conferences are for.
Quote from: TRAV on January 04, 2008, 03:05:36 AM
There's always the Eeyore Club.
There ya go! That's it! :laughat:
It's my night to disagree with folks.. :)
I believe most singles DO go to singles evenets, conferences, etc., TO find a mate. I think it's the really long-time singles, or younger ones who have already met friends that will be there, that are the tyoe you described, Sis, in that they are there for the fellowship, not the search.
I was at a singles banquet at a General Conference, where the speaker was a well-known minister. One of his first remarls was to the efftect that/ "The thing I like about these types of events is that no one comes here looking for a mate."
Unless he was attempting humor that I didn't get, I think he was WAYY wide of the mark on the observation.
John :waving:
well lets agree everyone goes with that thought at least somewhere in the back of their mind...
what are the chances its going to be love at first sight and you are going to be married before the conference is over? I would say right about close to NIL!
You meet people, people know other people, you develop friendships with a broad range of people - it broadens your horizons and opens up your world and ideas which in turn usually makes you a more interesting and well rounded person with a great network of friends - and one day God may put the finishing touches on a friendship of a friendship and turn it into the relationship you've been dreaming of
being around a group of new people should NEVER be considered a failure or pointless or worthless - NETWORK! LOL the only time it would be a failure is if you stand to the side and write off everyone immediately 'cause they couldn't do anything for you instantly
instead of trying to meet Ms Right immediately... how about befriending Ms Right's cousin's mother's brother's son's girlfriend's brother eh?
Quote from: Newsman on January 04, 2008, 03:18:36 AM
I do NOT believe in the general concept of spousal predestination, nor do I believe it can be proven Biblically.
John :waving:
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you......
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering: for he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed..
Not trying to give you a hard time John :updown:
Well I agree with some of these comments and I disagree with some of them as well. However I think I may have left the wrong impresion on some of you in here. I do not have a list of attritbutes girls I wanna date must have. I just want the girl God wants me with in my life. I am just ready to find my mate and get on with life.
Ladies Z & SJ, please don't think of this as me attacking either of you..I disagree, but with the statement, not the persons!
I figured the scripture regaridng the desires of the heart would be brought out, but I see that Lady SJ has gone with the 'ask' verse.
All verses folowing KJV
We find this passage in two companion accounts in the New Testament
Luke 11:5 And he said unto them, Which of you shall have a friend, and shall go unto him at midnight, and say unto him, Friend, lend me three loaves; 6 For a friend of mine in F27 his journey is come to me, and I have nothing to set before him? 7 And he from within shall answer and say, Trouble me not: the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot rise and give thee. 8 I say unto you, Though he will not rise and give him, because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him as many as he needeth. 9 And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. 10 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. 11 If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? 12 Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer F28 him a scorpion? 13 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
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It begins w/ a specific request o (three loaves) stressed is the persistence/importunity of following after the need, and it being granted. The bread goes to the Heavenly father, but the passage ends with the gift of the Holy Ghost, though I certainly believe and agree that other needs are granted as well
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Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. 9 Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? 10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?
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The stress here is placed on the Heavenly Father giving good gifts to those that ask him
Now, I agree that every good gift cometh from above (James 1:17) and that he that finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22)
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Now, while I believe firmly one should marry someone acceptable to and pleasing to Giod, I reject, except in certain special circumstances, where there is One Person And One Person Only For You. Because, if there is One Person Only, what happens if that person is out of the will of God when God when it was His timing, and stays out of God's will, are you doomed forever to be without a mate because he wouldn't listen to God? I think not.
Further, there are no verses I find in the Bible that specifically tell a person how to seek for a mate that fits with the One Person And One Person Only school of thought.
John
We didn't seem to be specific enough I guess in saying which theory of spousal predestination we subscribed to.
We meant that if it's God's will for someone to marry that it would also be God's will that He would "hand-pick" that spouse for you. And if your praying...fasting...seeking God's will than He will bring that person to you.
Like Zizi said though, we'll get back to you'all in a little while when we have proof :freaky2:
Well, you two Ladies certainly deserve to have someone special! :thumbsup2:
John :waving:
Awww....thank you.
And like Sarah said, not that there is "One person and only one person eternally predestined" for you to marry....but, that if you ask God to "Hand-pick" that person (because he can see peoples hearts and knows our future) that he will. Then it will become (pre)destined for your life. Spousal predestination...by request. Just as we seek God's will and intervention in other areas of our life. :)
I was just saying that people shouldn't go to those types of services with the express purpose of finding a mate right then. Man, some guys who go act like they're going to get married a month after attending. No thought to getting to know someone or getting to know a bunch of friends.
Not saying it doesn't happen, just saying the majority of young people go to connect with friends they don't get to see often, and to meet new friends of both sexes.
If you act desperate, girls will see it and stay away. *Shrug* I used to be a girl, :laughhard: And every time a guy started acting like that, I was like, UM, see ya. Even if some girls want to meet guys and vice versa, they don't act like they're looking for a mate. Most of them are looking for a date. LOL
That guy I mentioned was acting like he was going on a hunting trip. Wasn't planning on getting anything from the speaker. He was hunting for a woman and didn't bag one. Acted like he'd come home without a deer (DEAR). Women don't want to be "bagged" they want to be wooed.
Quote from: Sis on January 04, 2008, 05:16:55 AM
Women don't want to be "bagged" they want to be wooed.
:laughhard:
I do have a list of atributes I look for, many are negotiable and many are not. Though I have to admit most ladies I did date didn't meet most of that list.
they just had a grandma or mom that could cook very well!!! :laughhard:
On the serious side though, my first statement is true, alot of the girls were not ones that most people would have thought I would have been attracted too. but there was just something that caught and held my attention, and it wasn't a plate of speghetti in their hand either.
Well I have been praying alot about this situation because there is a girl who I really care for and really at one time cared for me she told a friend of mine she loved me to death but she didnt want to ruin the friendship that me and her had. However she has quit attending church and is living with her boyfriend. But with saying that I know we are not supposed to be unequally yoked but everytime I hear her name or her voice my heart skips a beat and I cant help but wonder what she is doing and how she is doing. I have even gotten mad at some of my good friends at times because they were treating her bad. Alot of times when I pray and ask God to put the right lady in my life. I hear a voice and image of this girl. What should I do? :pound:
It's a very real possibility that God has put you in her life so you can intercede for her soul. Focus on that for now, and pray for her, but give the rest of it (including any inkling of a relationship with her) to God, especially considering the fact that she's not in any condition for you to pursue her.
Easier said than done, though. How can you do that?
Begin to pray the Word.
Lord, I know You said in Your Word that it's not good for a man to be alone.
Lord, I know that You have said that he who finds a wife finds a good thing.
etc.
Lord, I also know that Your Word tells me that singles can focus more on You and Your work.
So, Lord, please allow me to focus on Your Word and Your work until I find the lady that You approve of for me.
Begin focused prayer for your particular situation.
Pray the Scriptures that say it is not God's will for anyone to perish. Pray for that lady's soul, but try not to fixate on her. Allow God to speak to your heart about other people. Allow Him to speak to you about things in your life that you may need to take care of before He will show you the right one for you.
I have been praying for her and for other things in my life. I have been trying to read my bible and pray more. I have a buring desire to get the way I was when he first fillled me with the Holy Ghost. However sometimes I feel like I have done things wrong over and over and he has given up on me.
Let's see... where is that story in the Bible where the Lord totally gave up on someone who had a right heart and a desire to serve Him even though they failed over and over?
Maybe it was David?
Was that suppose to be funny?
:-) It was designed to be a bit sarcastic. I'm sorry I didn't put the smilies or the laugh in to show that. :-)
I was just trying to say - in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way - that I don't think the Lord will give up on anyone whose heart is right and who is trying to continually please Him. King David is a prime example of someone that the Lord still loved in spite of his failures - adultery and subsuquent murder. Obviously David paid for his sin, but he sought the Lord and pursued a close relationship with Him afterward.
I am trying to live for the lord day after day. But sometimes I feel like a hipocrit because I ask him to forgive me for the wrong things I done and then the next day I turn around and do the same thing again. I really need help.
There was a time in my life that I had crazed patterns of sin cycles. I'd do something wrong. I'd ask for forgiveness, but not repent (repentance, by definition, meaning to turn away from the sin). Later, I'd allow the devil to convince me that I was already a rotten sinner, so why bother trying to live right? The pattern would begin to repeat itself until the guilt would wear me out and I'd feel like I was beyond God's grace.
I finally remembered the Scripture (I think it's in James) that says to confess your faults to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. I finally faced the fact that I needed help, and talked to a trusted [REAL LIFE] friend who could keep me accountable. Confession to someone Godly who could pray specifically about my strugles really helped me to rise above the cycle. I knew that, if I messed up, I'd have someone asking me about it. I emphasize the REAL LIFE friend because someone online can't really know your life as you live it on a day to day basis. Someone that you trust in real life (pastor, mentor, best friend) should know you well enough to see that you're down, depressed, and/or falling into old patterns.
Thats what I need to do ! However I dont have any true friends around here that is willing to help me with that. :cry:
I know it's a tough suggestion, but what about your pastor or youth pastor?
Well im no longer in the youth group so that wouldent really help me much. And as far as my pastor goes I dont really feel comfortable talking to him about the sins im doing over and over. I need a friend someone in my age range who isnt always real busy.
A mentor is usually better than a friend for these things. Even though you're no longer in the youth group, your youth pastor would likely be willing to at least listen to you and pray for you.
I dont feel real comfortable talking to him about it. My mentor is now a pastor at another upc church and I can never get in touch with him. Would you like to help me?lol
It's probably best to find someone that you know well in real life who is the same gender. I'd strike out on all counts! :-) I will keep you in prayer, though. I pray that you will find someone that you can trust who will help you.
I understand. And thanks for praying for me I greatly appreciate it. :lol:
I was looking back on the first page and matthew 19:12 was posted. I thought I would share this translation cause i think it puts that verse in a more perfect way.
Matthew 19:11-12 (Message)
But Jesus said, "Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn't for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked—or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it."
I think that paraphrase says it the best.
Thank you. :lol:
That paraphrase brings out some interesting points but also seems to very much go against what Paul writes in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 encouraging single men and women not to get married. The way I hear that particular paraphrase it makes it sound as if the one that doesn't get married is inferior to the one that gets married.
Lady Tia,
What translation is that? Not attacking you, but I do NOT like that translation of that passage.
John :waving:
Quote from: Backseat Radio on January 05, 2008, 05:38:06 AM
That paraphrase brings out some interesting points but also seems to very much go against what Paul writes in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 encouraging single men and women not to get married. The way I hear that particular paraphrase it makes it sound as if the one that doesn't get married is inferior to the one that gets married.
Reminds me of this idea:
http://godplace.com/forum/index.php?topic=26611.0
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 04, 2008, 05:49:47 PM
I am trying to live for the lord day after day. But sometimes I feel like a hipocrit because I ask him to forgive me for the wrong things I done and then the next day I turn around and do the same thing again. I really need help.
If I may say a word on this.
you need to live in your Victory, if you have truely repented God does not know what you are talking about when you keep repeating I am sorry for....... thy have been cast into the sea of forgetfulness.. But if you are having trouble not doing the things you just repented of it may have something to do with your environment,
your fiends your every day route ten is there a way of not doing the things your friends are doing....that is if it is your friends that are influencing you......If i can say this
your victory can be hindered by you if you don't make changes in you life if you need to end a relationship or stop doing something or saying things than do it and YES i know it is easer said than done but if that is what you need to do DO IT.
as to your original question.
Just be your self
Don't go to church just to meet Miss RIGHT
Keep your options open DON'T steal for second best you can get the BEST
Worship like you have never worshiped before
Cry in the alter be the first one down and be the last one up be committed to God and prayer
If you become what God wants you will get what you want
above all just PRAY.... seek God ask him to make HIS will the desires of your heart ...it says in the Bible that He will give you the desires of your heart so ASK and it shall be given unto you seek and ye shall find.......
1 Corinthians 7 (The Message)
To Be Married, to Be Single . . .
1 Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? 2-6Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. 7Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.
8-9I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single.
10-11And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master's command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife.
12-14For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages—Christian married to non-Christian—we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God.
15-16On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you've got to let him or her go. You don't have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God.
17And don't be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. Don't think I'm being harder on you than on the others. I give this same counsel in all the churches.
18-19Were you Jewish at the time God called you? Don't try to remove the evidence. Were you non-Jewish at the time of your call? Don't become a Jew. Being Jewish isn't the point. The really important thing is obeying God's call, following his commands.
20-22Stay where you were when God called your name. Were you a slave? Slavery is no roadblock to obeying and believing. I don't mean you're stuck and can't leave. If you have a chance at freedom, go ahead and take it. I'm simply trying to point out that under your new Master you're going to experience a marvelous freedom you would never have dreamed of. On the other hand, if you were free when Christ called you, you'll experience a delightful "enslavement to God" you would never have dreamed of.
23-24All of you, slave and free both, were once held hostage in a sinful society. Then a huge sum was paid out for your ransom. So please don't, out of old habit, slip back into being or doing what everyone else tells you. Friends, stay where you were called to be. God is there. Hold the high ground with him at your side.
25-28The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don't get married. But there's certainly no sin in getting married, whether you're a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.
29-31I do want to point out, friends, that time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, so don't complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple —in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things—your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you. This world as you see it is on its way out.
32-35I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.
36-38If a man has a woman friend to whom he is loyal but never intended to marry, having decided to serve God as a "single," and then changes his mind, deciding he should marry her, he should go ahead and marry. It's no sin; it's not even a "step down" from celibacy, as some say. On the other hand, if a man is comfortable in his decision for a single life in service to God and it's entirely his own conviction and not imposed on him by others, he ought to stick with it. Marriage is spiritually and morally right and not inferior to singleness in any way, although as I indicated earlier, because of the times we live in, I do have pastoral reasons for encouraging singleness.
39-40A wife must stay with her husband as long as he lives. If he dies, she is free to marry anyone she chooses. She will, of course, want to marry a believer and have the blessing of the Master. By now you know that I think she'll be better off staying single. The Master, in my opinion, thinks so, too.
And, now I'm interested in what translation the above is from.
John :waving:
Quote from: Newsman on January 05, 2008, 10:40:03 PM
And, now I'm interested in what translation the above is from.
John :waving:
"The Message" is the translation that that last portion of scripture is from
"The Message" isn't a true translation.... it's a paraphrase.
:beret:
i love reading The Message. it reads like a story. although, because it's a paraphrase, it isn't always "technically" correct. it gives the feel of the words and i like that. kjv is still my favorite, though, when i'm praying. something about the traditional language that's comforting to my spirit.
now we have gotten totally off topic. :pwink:
Quote from: WhySoSerious on January 05, 2008, 09:03:48 PM
1 Corinthians 7 (The Message)
To Be Married, to Be Single . . .
Noted from above
I can't believe how many post this topic is getting. :biglaugh:
Dood! Maybe this is one of the cool skills to help you find a cool girl!
"Girls like guys with forum thread skills !!!" - TRAV Dynamite
lol yea if that is the case where is all the ladies at? lol jk. :lol:
Quote from: TRAV on January 07, 2008, 05:17:01 AM
Dood! Maybe this is one of the cool skills to help you find a cool girl!
"Girls like guys with forum thread skills !!!" - TRAV Dynamite
:laughat:
To bring us back on topic. There are some things that I've noticed among Apostolics:
- If your not 18 and have a g/f or a b/f something is wrong.
- If your an Apostolic girl or guy and not married by the time your 18, something is wrong.
- If your single after 18, there is no hope for you, your condemned to a life of singleness.
This is all tongue in cheek of course
Hat, that is some good stuff there. Yeah, that seems to be the thinking that if your not married by at least 18 your never going to marry. I am always told by people here at church it is better to be single wishing you were married, then to be married wishing you were single.
I sure hope so. lol I know for a fact there is a woman out there God wants me with he just hasnt put her in my life yet.
I am sure this is used over and over. In sermon on the mount Jesus said to not be worried about the daily concerns of life such as food and clothing. Yet rather to be focus on the Kingdom of God and seeking his righteousness and he would supply the rest. I think that is the key to it all, he warns us not to get all caught up in the cares of life which relationships is one who am I going to marry and what not.
Quote from: Hat on January 07, 2008, 03:55:19 PM
To bring us back on topic. There are some things that I've noticed among Apostolics:
- If your not 18 and have a g/f or a b/f something is wrong.
- If your an Apostolic girl or guy and not married by the time your 18, something is wrong.
- If your single after 18, there is no hope for you, your condemned to a life of singleness.
This is all tongue in cheek of course
Tongue in cheek but true............ maybe even true of most of society.
Boy, I'm splittin that mold wide open.
Quote from: Hat on January 07, 2008, 03:55:19 PM
To bring us back on topic. There are some things that I've noticed among Apostolics:
- If your not 18 and have a g/f or a b/f something is wrong.
- If your an Apostolic girl or guy and not married by the time your 18, something is wrong.
- If your single after 18, there is no hope for you, your condemned to a life of singleness.
This is all tongue in cheek of course
Ta prove this point let me relay this.
Example (1)
one of my GOOD friends is 17 she is engaged she is not getting married for a few years but still she is engaged.
(Example 2)
One of my other friends she is 17 she is getting married this august i think it is to a 30 something year old.
(Example 3)
yet another one of my friends she is getting married some time this year she is 18 but i think she will be 19 at the time of the marriage.
all three of these girls will be 18 just 18 or maybe 20 at the oldest at the time of there marriage's.
I also know of a guy that is 19 maybe 20 and he is getting married next Month.
ONE of my Good friends is getting married in June she is (20) i think
I to was practically engaged about a moth and a half ago,But i am not now just to make a long story short. There is this unwritten rule that once you are 18 you MUST get married or you are uncool or you are not marriageable, this is NOT true and it is getting people married WAY to fast. Wait on GOD he has the perfect ONE for you.
Hmmm...
I'd like to put out a few examples on the flipside.
- I have a friend who is older than me by several years (I am 35). She is well-educated, has a degree from a Bible college and a secular college, and is a school teacher. She is still single. She is normal. Nothing wrong with her, unless you count the fact that she's my friend.
:redclown:
- Another friend is 26 years old. She is gorgeous with a wonderful heart for God and an incredible spirit. She is intelligent, well-mannered, somewhat silly with a great sense of humor, and clown-y tendencies.
Nothing wrong with her at all. She's just picky.
- Several guy friends made it until they were in their 30's before they got married. Picky picky picky. Most of them made it that far because *I* was so picky and it took them many years to find someone who would measure up. :D
:hypocrite: - Of course, I've remained single so long because the precious few who have truly caught my eye are too picky, as well. Either that, or they just don't appreciate my family of clowns who love to make puns and play word games.
What about my friends who got married at a young age?
One got married around age 18.
She now has two ex-husbands and four children.
She is a wonderful lady with a beautiful spirit, but she made some bad choices.
Another very close friend got married straight out of high school.
She is now divorced, I think. At least she and her husband have both found other people, anyway.
I could give a million and a half more examples. Of course, there are some who make it, as well.
Hey, Seth! Hope they don't :pound: the mold with you in it!
being single is very depressing at times, but considering the last time I officially dated and the last time I did court someone....it has been quite a while. But I just haven't met anyone that caught my eye, and their eyes were caught by me.
But it does really seem that many say I should be married by now, Even had someone comment the other day that since I am adopted, there needs to be an adoption in reverse.....
Find some kids to tackle me and drag me home to their single mom. :o
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 07, 2008, 05:15:57 PM
I sure hope so. lol I know for a fact there is a woman out there God wants me with he just hasnt put her in my life yet.
Sounds like the problem is solved! PHEW! Glad I've followed the thread to this point! NEXT THREAD!!!
Thanks RJ! That sounds accurate. Up here, some girls might be married by 18. Most aren't. And it's ok (thank goodness).
Thank you, Louanna. Where is "up here"?
By the way, Welcome to GP! :-)
But you will never counter the doctrine of "Married by 18 or Your Single for the Rest of Your Life" and extracurricular "Coping With Singleness 101 After 18" classes that a lot of our kind like to teach lol.
Y'all are witnesses..he's asked for it...
John :waving:
Quote from: nwlife on January 07, 2008, 10:19:46 PM
Find some kids to tackle me and drag me home to their single mom. :o
*thinks of several ladies (and kids) that would qualify* :freaky2:
:beret:
btw, Lady SippinTea,
You might want to check the welcome thread for Lady Shoecreazy........
John :waving:
I did. :couch:
:beret:
Quote from: Hat on January 08, 2008, 12:35:38 AM
But you will never counter the doctrine of "Married by 18 or Your Single for the Rest of Your Life" and extracurricular "Coping With Singleness 101 After 18" classes that a lot of our kind like to teach lol.
Exaggeration (x 1000).
Truly.. Why let it bother you? To the extent that you monitor the ages of friends that are being married and compare yourself? They that compare themselves amongst themselves are not wise.
Much like RJ - many I know that married at 18 or 19 .. have split, are going through marital difficulties, are unhappy. I didn't say all - I said many. Elona's post more accurately depicts the majority of single people with the UPC.. aside from the young ones who should be single still. *grin* Opinion only.
Rae, I don't let it bother me in the first place. I am a big advocate of finding humor in everyday situations. Thus, I find humor in seeing people I grew up with, and people growing up behind me get all frustrated and exhausted over their endless search to be married by the time they are 18, when in fact they have no idea how big of a step marriage is and should instead enjoy life and whatever comes with it.
Plus I think some of you guys take things to serious anyways. ;)
I recall a woman I was interested in, at a time when a much younger cousin of hers was getting married, talking to me and telling me they had no idea what they were getting in to.
Well, they've been married a few years now, have a child, so I guess it's the two of us that don't understand it! :)
John :waving:
I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! :laughhard:
These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more. :lol:
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 09, 2008, 04:29:12 AM
These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more. :lol:
Spoken like an early-20's-something guy. :updown:
:beret:
lol I am 22.
When a 22-year-old finds "miss right" he rarely waits too long before marriage.
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 09, 2008, 04:29:12 AM
These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more. :lol:
Oh, is that all? Why didn't you just come out and say that from the very beginning? I was just about to give you her name and phone number, too. PHEW! Almost messed that one up. Well, she's out there.
TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. :thumbsup2:
Quote from: Sis on January 08, 2008, 09:11:19 PM
I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! :laughhard:
Chick-flix are pornography for women. :twocents:
Quote from: TRAV on January 09, 2008, 04:50:10 AM
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 09, 2008, 04:29:12 AM
These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more. :lol:
Oh, is that all? Why didn't you just come out and say that from the very beginning? I was just about to give you her name and phone number, too. PHEW! Almost messed that one up. Well, she's out there.
TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. :thumbsup2:
Harsh, but in a sense I agree. I can tell you what "Miss Right" is doing. She's watching "Mr. Right" out of the corner of her eye till she's ready for him to
notice her (women are so sneaky :biglaugh:)
Quote from: TRAV on January 09, 2008, 04:50:10 AM
TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. [/color] :thumbsup2:
very good advice. you might just find that someone else who you show love and grace to knows the perfect Ms. Right for you. networking is good. you might even be too busy enjoying the people around you to realize that you're alone.
love is never as extravagant to give as it is to receive, sincerely.
These are really good things to keep in mind. :freaky2:
Quote from: wire2john on January 09, 2008, 10:16:20 AM
Quote from: Sis on January 08, 2008, 09:11:19 PM
I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! :laughhard:
Chick-flix are pornography for women. :twocents:
You mean
Love Story is porn? Man you shoulda told me that before I saw it. Chick flix are sappy sad stories about love and marriage. ???
Quote from: newkris on January 09, 2008, 12:27:55 PM
Quote from: TRAV on January 09, 2008, 04:50:10 AM
TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. [/color] :thumbsup2:
very good advice.
Yeah, Trav. What's happening to you? *Shakes head* You never know about some people.
Quote from: Sis on January 09, 2008, 07:22:57 PM
Quote from: newkris on January 09, 2008, 12:27:55 PM
Quote from: TRAV on January 09, 2008, 04:50:10 AM
TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. [/color] :thumbsup2:
very good advice.
Yeah, Trav. What's happening to you? *Shakes head* You never know about some people.
I haven't changed.
You slowing down as you age? *Sis hides*
I am going to let God put the right lady in my life. I have been praying about it for the last few days now and I am giving it to him its in his hands. When the time is right I am postive I will know. :lol:
Quote from: Sis on January 10, 2008, 03:30:02 AM
You slowing down as you age? *Sis hides*
no. *lets Sis hide*
:couch:
oh, sis, don't hide from trav. he might be getting older, but don't worry. he isn't growing up. he's still harmless. :pwink:
You have the broadest defintion of porn I have ever heard or read of.
John :waving:
Quote from: wire2john on January 09, 2008, 10:16:20 AM
Quote from: Sis on January 08, 2008, 09:11:19 PM
I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! :laughhard:
Chick-flix are pornography for women. :twocents:
LOL - I was thinkin' that seemed.. new. I've heard Dr. Hughes (Webster, TX) say that trashy romance novels are like pornography for women, but I've not heard that about chick flicks.
Anyway, done being off-topic. ;)
I would have to addmit this subject keeps getting :offtopic:
Congratulations, UG21! :-) You now understand the GP culture. If a topic is popular, it will be :pwink: ed several times before it's locked.
:pwink: is the term now used in relation to being totally knocked off-topic.
SO...
if your thread is knocked :offtopic: a time or two, you should be flattered, for such is the nature of good conversations. :-)
:party:
Congrats and welcome! Look at that post count GO! :-)
We allow conversations to go the way normal conversations go. Sometimes people wander off topic then someone brings them back on. We're not as strict on that as some boards around us are. Threads rarely get locked for being off topic unless there's a war going on, and the off topic is the excuse to lock it. But people have to be getting pretty nasty before that happens.
So, general rule, as long as you're playing nicely, get back to talkin'. If you want it back on topic, don't complain, bring it back with something new or something you want to rehash.
When a conversation is pretty much talked out, this kind of thing happens. Go with the flow! :goodmod:
Quote from: Newsman on January 10, 2008, 01:25:54 PM
You have the broadest defintion of porn I have ever heard or read of.
John :waving:
Quote from: wire2john on January 09, 2008, 10:16:20 AM
Quote from: Sis on January 08, 2008, 09:11:19 PM
I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! :laughhard:
Chick-flix are pornography for women. :twocents:
I consider some of the stuff people get in their Sunday (why Sunday??) morning newspapers pornographic too. Just like chick flix it's all very "mild" by today's
standards, but a couple of generations ago they would've been shocked. If my memory serves when Ozzie & Harriet (sp) was on TV their bedroom showed to have seperate beds and they never kissed. Now look at what goes on in most "chick flix" and tell me it's decent.
I was around a couple of decades ago, that's when I saw Love Story! :laughhard:
I don't usually watch modern movies because of what they might have in them. There are so many good classic movies out there, I'm content in watching them. People weren't offended by Ozzie and Harriet. The studios laid down those rules.
Did you know they had to use the word "Enceinte" rather than saying Lucy is expecting. Most people of the day used Expecting but the studio wouldn't use it.
The first couple to be shown together in bed was on the November 18th debut of "Mary Kay and Johnny." "Mary Kay and Johnny" was similar to "I Love Lucy" that showed from 1947 to 1950 (According to Snopes)
pinkwinking is always a good sign that people like to come in and hang out.
at least from what i know.
and relationships stem from so many different facets of conversation that it's impossible not to stray a little in the discussion.
at least, that's my explanation. and i'm stickin' to is. :pwink:
Quote from: wire2john
Chick-flix are pornography for women. :twocents:
Ridiculous.
There are so many good new shows on televison that dont show anything that is consider pornograpich. However I have to admit I find myself liking alot of the older shows more. :lol:
Some of the chick flix go back to the 30's for heaven's sake!
Speaking of chic flix..... We went to see the movie "P.S. I Love You" the other day. It turned out to be a very good movie and when it was over there wasn't a lady there with a dry eye.
Now there were a few things about the movie that would be considered improper, but (speaking for myself) I was in no way threatened by these things. As such, it allowed me to really enjoy the experience.
Relationshi...relations..err, relatio..oh, you know, like in commitme...commit..com...oh, never mind!
Hmmppphhhh!!!!!
John :waving:
Maybe I saw P.S. I Love You, too, and maybe I was the only female there who didn't even sniffle. Is that ok? *grin*
Maybe I should go see that movie. I am hearing alot of good things about it. Alot of my family and friends make fun of me because I watch the Life time channel which as we know is the channel for women. But I really do like alot of the shows on there. :thumbsup2:
You're just wanting to go there to pick up chicks. :P
Where?
:copcar:
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:copcar:
Even tho it WAS funny, I have to delete it
:copcar:
BTW, Trav: The pic in your av seems to indicate that you have a sort of... er... BLANK look on your face.
:cow: says, "I like relationships."
i'm a little worried about trav. he seems so blue all the time lately.
Quote from: alohilani on January 11, 2008, 03:19:41 PM
Maybe I saw P.S. I Love You, too, and maybe I was the only female there who didn't even sniffle. Is that ok? *grin*
Maybe, Huh?
No you definitely sniffled at one point or another. I might have even had to choke back a few times myself.....maybe, But I am not admitting that.
*grin* Nary a sniffle, a tear, or a shimmery eye, my friend. I wasn't feeling it. :biglaugh:
:-?
Is your sniffer broken?
:biglaugh: I suppose it is possible. Maybe next time.
Quote from: alohilani on January 12, 2008, 06:12:53 AM
*grin* Nary a sniffle, a tear, or a shimmery eye, my friend. I wasn't feeling it. :biglaugh:
wow, lani, i didn't know you were a tough one. you don't look so tough on your pic, but . . . hhhhmmm . . .you must be!
Quote from: upc_guy21 on January 11, 2008, 05:12:47 PM
Where?
To where that movie is playing and all the sniffling women are.
No, it's definitely not broken! *grin* I've had a cold for 6 weeks now, and I can report with full confidence that I'm well able to sniffle!
I'm probably not as tough as I'd like to think I am, but I tend to be more expressive with happy emotions and more reserved with sad ones. So even if I did find it intense and emotional, I wouldn't have shown much negative emotion about it.
But that time, I was really only paying attention halfheartedly. ;)
i tend to make fun of chick flicks, mostly.
i watched a lovely little love story on christmas day with a friend. she is a new friend and i wasn't quite sure if she would be sappy, but . . .i am who i am. i just couldn't help but make fun of the shallow plot and silly lines. it ended up being hilariously funny because we both kept adding comments and new subplots to the movie.
it's a pretty rare movie that can make me cry.
Chick flicks are nice at times...(how's that for revision, Admin?) :teeth:
trav gets a star for playing nicely with others . . .
although i'm sure curious about what i missed . . . . :pwink: