When Is the right time to start a family ?

[JonathanHarper]

    So my wife and I have been together for four years and married for three months and we're wanting to start having children, but aren't really sure if we should start away, we've pretty much decided that we're not going to try to stop from having a baby, but not really sure if now is the perfect time.

[Sis]

Our youth pastor back home waited four years and they felt it was perfect for them. They got to know each other before having kids. Too often people don't get to know each other really well, and the kids come and they just don't have time to be alone much anymore.

But I guess the time is right when a couple decides it is. Pray about it, first of course.

[MelodyB]

I think I wanna watch this thread.

[JonathanHarper]

I think I wanna watch this thread.

and why is that ? 

[Chseeads]

My answer would be Never.

:grin:


But since you're already in the boat and up the creek without a paddle in sight....At LEAST a year before popping a baby out...a few years would be good.

[sunlight]

* sunlight agree's with mel... this could get interesting... lol

[iridiscente]

My answer would be Never.

Never may apply to you anyhow. 

[MelodyB]

I think I wanna watch this thread.

and why is that ? 

Just cause I feel like I need to.

[Scott]

    So my wife and I have been together for four years and married for three months and we're wanting to start having children, but aren't really sure if we should start away, we've pretty much decided that we're not going to try to stop from having a baby, but not really sure if now is the perfect time.

There is no good time and no bad time.

When you WANT to have kids, have them! PERIOD!

[Ashlee]

I agree with Scott.  No one can actually tell you when to have children.  That has to be a personal decision between you and your wife.  My only suggestion is that you still make time for each other even after the baby is born.

[NessasMama]

My husband and I had our daughter nine months to the day from our wedding night!!!! So, IMHO, if you want kids now, go for it!!!!!!  I'm not really sure there is ever a "right" time. I've known some people who get married and have waited for 5 or more yrs. to have them and they wished that they hadn't waited so long. I guess it's different with each couple!!!!!

[JonathanHarper]

  Thanks everyone !  We'll we've talked about it and we really want to have a baby so we're going to start trying.   

[Sis]

*Sis raises water glass* Here's hoping you are successful!   

[Ashlee]

*Sis raises water glass* Here's hoping you are successful!   

Don't drink the GP water.....oh wait, you're already married, and WANT to have a baby.  Guess it won't hurt ya then.   

[Sis]

[Babs]

*decides to stop drinking water of any kind* 

[Sis]

You gonna shrivel up, especially if you substitute coffee for water!

[Chseeads]

My answer would be Never.

Never may apply to you anyhow. 

It does.   

[TwirlyGirly]

My husband and I waited till our second anniv. to officially start trying. Not because we were waiting for perfect timing or anything, but just because we had a lot going on those first couple of years of marriage. I think it was the perfect timing for us. Our little girl is the light of our lives and we both have benefited from having her.

So the time to have kids....is when it's right for you. Only you can determine when that is. And if now is the right time, then yea for you!  The fun is in trying.

[JonathanHarper]

    we'll this past weekend my mom got married to this really great guy (a long history in itself another story for another time) and my brother's birthday ... so we told my family that we are officially trying to start a family.  My mom said it was about time and my grandmother asked if we could have a girl, i almost asked her if she remembered out children are conceived, but decided to for the fear of her telling me something I really didn't want to know !!!


And Sis. melody, i am pretty sure you'll be one of the first to know if we are !!!

[MelodyB]

BOL!!  Sis. Melody.


Thank you, I am honored to be among the first to know.  

[JonathanHarper]

well you know how it is.... lol have to respect those older than me :-/

[Sis]

Sooo you gots me and Mel married or what?    When you use a capital S dat be me, not short for sister... LOL&L&L&L&L&L&L&L&L

[JonathanHarper]

Sooo you gots me and Mel married or what?    When you use a capital S dat be me, not short for sister... LOL&L&L&L&L&L&L&L&L

    What does that mean ?

[Sis]

Sis is me, Melody is her.