Relationship Questions

[Chseeads]

Boy, I'm splittin that mold wide open.

[Called_&_chosen]

To bring us back on topic.  There are some things that I've noticed among Apostolics:

- If your not 18 and have a g/f or a b/f something is wrong.
- If your an Apostolic girl or guy and not married by the time your 18, something is wrong.
- If your single after 18, there is no hope for you, your condemned to a life of singleness.

This is all tongue in cheek of course

Ta prove this point let me relay this.

Example (1)
one of my GOOD friends is 17 she is engaged she is not getting married for a few years but still she is engaged.

    (Example 2)

One of my other friends she is 17 she is getting married this august i think it is to a 30 something year old.

  (Example 3)

  yet another one of my friends she is getting married some time this year she is 18 but i think she will be 19 at the time of the marriage.

all three of these girls will be 18 just 18 or maybe 20 at the oldest at the time of there marriage's.

I also know of a guy that is 19 maybe 20 and he is getting married next Month.

ONE of my Good friends is getting married in June she is (20) i think


I  to was practically engaged about a moth and a half ago,But i am not now just to make a long story short. There is this unwritten rule that once you are 18 you MUST get married or you are uncool or you are not marriageable, this is NOT true and it is getting people married WAY to fast. Wait on GOD he has the perfect ONE for you. 

   

[RainbowJingles]

Hmmm...

I'd like to put out a few examples on the flipside.

• I have a friend who is older than me by several years (I am 35).  She is well-educated, has a degree from a Bible college and a secular college, and is a school teacher.  She is still single.  She is normal.  Nothing wrong with her, unless you count the fact that she's my friend.
  


• Another friend is 26 years old.  She is gorgeous with a wonderful heart for God and an incredible spirit.  She is intelligent, well-mannered, somewhat silly with a great sense of humor, and clown-y tendencies.
  Nothing wrong with her at all.  She's just picky.


• Several guy friends made it until they were in their 30's before they got married.  Picky picky picky.  Most of them made it that far because *I* was so picky and it took them many years to find someone who would measure up. 
  
• Of course, I've remained single so long because the precious few who have truly caught my eye are too picky, as well.  Either that, or they just don't appreciate my family of clowns who love to make puns and play word games.

What about my friends who got married at a young age?
One got married around age 18.
She now has two ex-husbands and four children.
She is a wonderful lady with a beautiful spirit, but she made some bad choices.

Another very close friend got married straight out of high school.
She is now divorced, I think.  At least she and her husband have both found other people, anyway.

I could give a million and a half more examples.  Of course, there are some who make it, as well.

Hey, Seth!  Hope they don't the mold with you in it!

[apsurf]

being single is very depressing at times, but considering the last time I officially dated and the last time I did court someone....it has been quite a while.  But I just haven't met anyone that caught my eye, and their eyes were caught by me. 

But it does really seem that many say I should be married by now, Even had someone comment the other day that since I am adopted, there needs to be an adoption in reverse.....

Find some kids to tackle me and drag me home to their single mom.

[TRAV]

I sure hope so. lol  I know for a fact there is a woman out there God wants me with he just hasnt put her in my life yet.

Sounds like the problem is solved! PHEW! Glad I've followed the thread to this point! NEXT THREAD!!!

[louanna]

Thanks RJ! That sounds accurate. Up here, some girls might be married by 18. Most aren't. And it's ok (thank goodness).

[RainbowJingles]

Thank you, Louanna.  Where is "up here"?

By the way, Welcome to GP!  :-)

[Kyle]

But you will never counter the doctrine of "Married by 18 or Your Single for the Rest of Your Life" and extracurricular "Coping With Singleness 101 After 18" classes that a lot of our kind like to teach lol.

[Newsman]

Y'all are witnesses..he's asked for it...


John 

Find some kids to tackle me and drag me home to their single mom.

[SippinTea]

*thinks of several ladies (and kids) that would qualify* 

[Newsman]

btw, Lady SippinTea,

   You might want to check the welcome thread for Lady Shoecreazy........


John 

[SippinTea]

I did.

[Raecheal]

But you will never counter the doctrine of "Married by 18 or Your Single for the Rest of Your Life" and extracurricular "Coping With Singleness 101 After 18" classes that a lot of our kind like to teach lol.

Exaggeration (x 1000).

Truly.. Why let it bother you? To the extent that you monitor the ages of friends that are being married and compare yourself? They that compare themselves amongst themselves are not wise.

Much like RJ - many I know that married at 18 or 19 .. have split, are going through marital difficulties, are unhappy. I didn't say all - I said many. Elona's post more accurately depicts the majority of single people with the UPC.. aside from the young ones who should be single still. *grin* Opinion only.

[Kyle]

Rae, I don't let it bother me in the first place.  I am a big advocate of finding humor in everyday situations.  Thus, I find humor in seeing people I grew up with, and people growing up behind me get all frustrated and exhausted over their endless search to be married by the time they are 18, when in fact they have no idea how big of a step marriage is and should instead enjoy life and whatever comes with it.

Plus I think some of you guys take things to serious anyways.

[Newsman]

   I recall a woman I was interested in, at a time when a much younger  cousin of hers was getting married, talking to me and telling me they had no idea what they were getting in to.

   Well, they've been married a few years now, have a child, so I guess it's the two of us that don't understand it!


John 

[Sis]

I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! 

[Cody P]

These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more.

[SippinTea]

These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more.

Spoken like an early-20's-something guy. 

[Cody P]

lol I am 22.

[Sis]

When a 22-year-old finds "miss right" he rarely waits too long before marriage.

[TRAV]

These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more.

Oh, is that all? Why didn't you just come out and say that from the very beginning? I was just about to give you her name and phone number, too. PHEW! Almost messed that one up. Well, she's out there.

TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say.

[wire2john]

I think there should be less chick-flix. They give a distorted view of the real work in a marriage! 

Chick-flix are pornography for women. 

[wire2john]

These are some good threads. However let me say I am not looking for marriage yet. I am just wanting to meet Miss Right and get to know her more.

Oh, is that all? Why didn't you just come out and say that from the very beginning? I was just about to give you her name and phone number, too. PHEW! Almost messed that one up. Well, she's out there.

TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say.

Harsh, but in a sense I agree. I can tell you what "Miss Right" is doing. She's watching "Mr. Right" out of the corner of her eye till she's ready for him to notice her (women are so sneaky )

[newkris]

TRAV:IS advice:
Just don't be stingy with the love. Love everybody you can and she'll be attracted to your ability to love. The rest will be herstory, as I say. [/color]

very good advice.  you might just find that someone else who you show love and grace to knows the perfect Ms. Right for you.  networking is good.  you might even be too busy enjoying the people around you to realize that you're alone.

love is never as extravagant to give as it is to receive, sincerely.   

[Cody P]

These are really good things to keep in mind.