What do you think are some good ideas for keeping in touch if you have a long distance relationship? I know my husband and I had several different things we did when we were dating, since we were 8 hours apart and I wanted to share them in case *somebody* needed any encouragement. So, my thoughts are coming soon... what are yours?
:freaky2:
Relationshi...relati..rel
BAH!
Communicati..communi..commu..
BAH!
Commitme...commit...com
ARGH~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :flamingmad:
:bustamove: John :bustamove:
:pharoah: :waving:
Quote from: Newsman on July 14, 2008, 08:52:11 PM
Relationshi...relati..rel
BAH!
Communicati..communi..commu..
BAH!
Commitme...commit...com
ARGH~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :flamingmad:
:bustamove: John :bustamove:
:pharoah: :waving:
ROFLOL!
Also, why the :pharoah: ?
:lurk:
This thread could one day prove to be useful perhaps.
:hypocrite:
Quote from: iridiscente on July 14, 2008, 08:36:44 PM
What do you think are some good ideas for keeping in touch if you have a long distance relationship? I know my husband and I had several different things we did when we were dating, since we were 8 hours apart and I wanted to share them in case *somebody* needed any encouragement. So, my thoughts are coming soon... what are yours?
:freaky2:
What are you doin' looking for a long distance relationship? OOPS! :couch:
Quote from: iridiscente on July 14, 2008, 09:13:33 PM
ROFLOL!
Also, why the :pharoah: ?
ES has Farrah, and Newsboy has Pharoah, I guess!
:sing: Pharoah Pharoah oooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh let my people go! Yeah yeah yeah yeah... :sing:
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled posts. (As Louie Louie is going through my head.)
Nai
Quote from: Sis on July 14, 2008, 10:46:55 PM
Quote from: iridiscente on July 14, 2008, 08:36:44 PM
What do you think are some good ideas for keeping in touch if you have a long distance relationship? I know my husband and I had several different things we did when we were dating, since we were 8 hours apart and I wanted to share them in case *somebody* needed any encouragement. So, my thoughts are coming soon... what are yours?
:freaky2:
What are you doin' looking for a long distance relationship? OOPS! :couch:
Quote from: iridiscente on July 14, 2008, 09:13:33 PM
and I repeat "I wanted to share them in case *somebody* needed any encouragement."
Schedule time for each other; phone time can be quality time. ;) Send sweet random texts and do things together over the phone, even if that means watching a TV show while on the phone.. Send emails, send cards, send special little gifts with meaning (a favorite t-shirt, for instance) and....
That's all I've got. :biglaugh:
I can personally vouch for all of those methods, though. ;)
Phone calls, IM's, and e-mails, yes.
I'm not into texting (except to have needed phone numbers from directory assistance sent to me when I'm working on the road.)
While talking, IMing, and e-mailing, you may want to regularly discuss the next time you get to meet IRL.. something that the two of you will attend/do/experience while you're sharing that special time... a way to make that special time have extra memories.
While remembering, that at some point, you must be comfortable with them, in person, even in the quiet, calm, non-speaking times..or you will not be happy together, because long-term happiness depends more on excitement, emotion, and wit.
John
Plus, flowers from the guy, without a particular reason, other than you enjoy being with her, appreciate her, and want her to know that.
John
There must be trust and comfort in that moonlit stroll or stargazing, as well as the flutter of the heart, for it to be truly right.
John
Wow, John, you sure sound knowledgeable! :freaky2:
:lurk:
We used to talk a lot - call each other, chat on the internet, send stuff to each other (less often...) - but one of my FAVOURITE things to do was playing some online game with him. It was like we could do something TOGETHER and have fun - but just enjoy doing something rather than just talking all the time. I know other people will watch a movie together or something... or watch a TV show... and you can be on a call at the same time and comment/chat throughout... but things like that can sometimes feel more like "being together" than just chatting... *shrugs*
We were only 2 hrs apart though when we were dating so we saw each other most weekends...
John...you sound like you are describing a couple of specific people in those posts. Hmmm.
Knowledgable, but Grumpye..in fact, the Grumpyest of the Grumpye! :thumbsup2:
John :waving:
Quote from: practicalme on July 15, 2008, 02:27:17 AM
Wow, John, you sure sound knowledgeable! :freaky2:
"Him" and "her"?
John :waving:
Quote from: MelodyB on July 15, 2008, 03:18:30 AM
John...you sound like you are describing a couple of specific people in those posts. Hmmm.
We also sent some really silly letters... I always tried to do something goofier than him. For example, one of the letters I sent I wrote on a striped sock (I kept the mate in hopes that they would one day be together...) It was entertaining and made good memories. We've actually framed some of the best and wittiest of the old letters. :)
Send him something personal with your perfume on it. A cute teddy bear or something. Have him send you something with his aftershave on it.
Send letters via carrier pigeon.
Quote from: Sis on July 14, 2008, 10:46:55 PM
ES has Farrah, and Newsboy has Pharoah, I guess!
AW! I love my Farrah-Boo.... shes for real my BFF!
Quote from: Chseeads on July 15, 2008, 12:57:17 PM
Send letters via carrier pigeon.
That's more like it. *grin* That's one of the best ideas I've seen in here yet.
And no, I'm not being sarcastic. I like off the wall stuff.:beret:
Quote from: SippinTea on July 15, 2008, 04:23:35 PM
Quote from: Chseeads on July 15, 2008, 12:57:17 PM
Send letters via carrier pigeon.
That's more like it. *grin* That's one of the best ideas I've seen in here yet.
And no, I'm not being sarcastic. I like off the wall stuff.
:beret:
I'm sure the "Carrier Pigeons" would be glad to deliver your messages... maybe they would sing them. ;)
Quote from: practicalme on July 15, 2008, 04:29:40 PM
I'm sure the "Carrier Pigeons" would be glad to deliver your messages... maybe they would sing them. ;)
:searching: Who said I needed any messages delivered? I just said I like off the wall stuff. :cool:
:beret:
Right. *snicker*
Ruby likes off-the-wall STUFF and off-the-wall PEOPLE!!! :grin:
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Well, I don't know if Ben was copying my dad because I liked what he did for my mom when THEY were long distance dating or what, but one day I went to the mailbox and found a box with a tiny little potted cactus. It was SO CUTE! And, it lasted a LOT longer than flowers would've, and had more personality in my opinion! I really liked keeping the tradition alive just because it was funky too.
My boyfriend lives in the same town as Okie, Minnie, and Chelle... It's about 3 hours from my home, which is far enough!! But I'll be moving closer to him soon. Not just for him, but for a better job. ;)
Quote from: SippinTea on July 15, 2008, 04:36:10 PM
Quote from: practicalme on July 15, 2008, 04:29:40 PM
I'm sure the "Carrier Pigeons" would be glad to deliver your messages... maybe they would sing them. ;)
:searching: Who said I needed any messages delivered? I just said I like off the wall stuff. :cool:
:beret:
Quote from: Ness on July 15, 2008, 08:06:59 PM
My boyfriend lives in the same town as Okie, Minnie, and Chelle... It's about 3 hours from my home, which is far enough!! But I'll be moving closer to him soon. Not just for him, but for a better job. ;)
OH OH! :yikes: You're going to be THAT close to Minnie? EWWWWWW! :couch:
Quote from: iridiscente on July 15, 2008, 07:23:50 PM
Well, I don't know if Ben was copying my dad because I liked what he did for my mom when THEY were long distance dating or what, but one day I went to the mailbox and found a box with a tiny little potted cactus. It was SO CUTE! And, it lasted a LOT longer than flowers would've, and had more personality in my opinion! I really liked keeping the tradition alive just because it was funky too.
Yall have a lot more options now than we did. We didn't have cell phones, text messaging, IM or email. At least we had telephones. ;)
Quote from: Sis on July 15, 2008, 09:33:32 PM
OH OH! :yikes: You're going to be THAT close to Minnie? EWWWWWW! :couch:
Lol. Yep. I actually lived in the same town as him for a 1 1/2 years. I lived with his aunt, uncle, and cousin. I had to move back home though because my little sis was gonna have surgery. I seen his kids more then him. Lol.
Oh you poor thing! *Sis prays for Ness*
I know you'll enjoy that! While we were dating I got to see Ben about once a month in person because of the eight hour trip.
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time ago I was in a long distance relationship with someone from Canada. A five hour drive. He came down every weekend. I was working so I didn't have time to miss him too much during the week. He called every night, though. LOL
*sappy sigh*
How sweet...
I wish I could see Ralph every weekend... We both work during the week and he races horses on Sundays so it's hard to meet up when he's 3 hrs away.
Yeah. I wish I could see *my* boyfriend every weekend, too.
*sappy sigh*
lol
(http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d40/rainbowjingles/smileyinabox.gif)
So where is yours, RB? With Vince's red-haired girl? :laughhard:
:o I dunno, Sis! I just wish he'd hurry up and get here, wherEVER he happens to be!!
move, or
get a different guy
:biggrin:
I think my sil & bro only saw each other 3 times in rl visits before they got married - week or two each visit I think
they talked on the phone from 12:00am fri morn to 11:59 fri night (free calling fridays) for like a year, then he finally met her and her family, she came and met us and he proposed, 6 months later met again for wedding
I kinda figure if you're ready and know what you're looking for its not that hard to tell if you've found it - if you know you can get along for a week its probably more efficient to go pray like crazy and then do something about it rather than worry about more follow up interviews.
Mom and Dad only saw each other 4 times before they got married. 2-3 day trips each time. It works. :)
Yeah, it may not be a way I'd RECOMMEND... but I do know that it works!
Creative Long Distance Relationship Communication Tactics
First:
Find a man.
Second:
Ummm... I think I need a little help on step one before I try to figure out how to communicate with him!
Maybe step one should be: Find a man who CAN communicate. In which case, step two should take care of itself. ;)
:beret:
*revises her list*
Step One
Find a man who can communicate
Step Two
Will take care of itself
Step Three
Hey, RUBY!!! I STILL have to work on step one!!!
*laugh*
*thinks of men to introduce Elona to*
*wonders how soon she could manufacture an excuse to introduce them*
:beret:
Manufacture?!?!?!?!?!
lol Who needs to wait for an excuse to be manufactured? Do you know how long the manufacturing process can TAKE!?!?!?!
Manufacture an _excuse_ Elona. Not manufacture the guy. ;) And contrary to popular female opinion... there are indeed men who can, and do, communicate. *grin*
:beret:
Who was it.... Nike or someone that had the slogan "Just do it" ;)
Quote from: RainbowJingles on July 18, 2008, 08:04:44 PM
Manufacture?!?!?!?!?!
lol Who needs to wait for an excuse to be manufactured? Do you know how long the manufacturing process can TAKE!?!?!?!
Yeah. Nike!
lol and I saw that part, Ruby. Don't manufacture an excuse. Just send him out here and say, "here's her address."
:laughhard:
Alrighty then! You asked for it!
*calls Bob* :hypocrite:
Of course, you might not like his methods of communicating. But I'll have to admit, handing a gal a marriage seminar on CD was certainly the most unique method I've seen of saying "You really need to change a whole lot before I could marry you" BOL!
:beret:
Quote from: SippinTea on July 18, 2008, 08:11:56 PM
Alrighty then! You asked for it!
*calls Bob* :hypocrite:
Of course, you might not like his methods of communicating. But I'll have to admit, handing a gal a marriage seminar on CD was certainly the most unique method I've seen of saying "You really need to change a whole lot before I could marry you" BOL!
:beret:
:pound: Ruby
lol
*shaking my head*
:boing:
:o
It's not worth it.
Define "It" and "it" please.
:popcorn:
:sofachair: *waits to hear words of wisdom from the Sethers*
:beret:
Did someone just use "wisdom" and "Sethers" in the same sentence?
lol
The first it would be the relationship that is long distance specifically, and any relationship in general.
The last it would be all the trouble, time, effort, and other things such as emotions, money, heartaches, stress, and everything else involved, that is required to go into such an undertaking.
*whew*
Da Wooby is ever so glad she still believes in the power of love. Otherwise, the world would be pretty bleak.
S'okay, Sethers. We can still be friends, even if we don't agree. ;)
:beret:
Love! Love! Love! Ain't it grand???
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:sing: Love is all around, no need to waste it
Aww. Those are cute Sis! I love animal pics. :clap:
Awwwwwwwwwww. *sniff*
I feel like I'm on Noah's ark.
Too cute, Sis! :-)
It was worth it for me!!!!!
hey! hey! :hyper: I wanna post my animal picture too! :hyper:
This is from when I went to the zoo here. I ended up framing a few picts and put them in my room... cause they matched! :grin:
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Awwww! Ain't it sweeeeeeeeet?
:grin: I think so!
I have some sweet pictures of a certain grandbaby I'm wanting to frame for Christmas!
You're wanting to portray pictures as a criminal conspiracy??
John :waving:
Quote from: Newsman on July 19, 2008, 09:18:46 PM
You're wanting to portray pictures as a criminal conspiracy??
John :waving:
BOL! That would make a good Yankee Bear story....
I have been in a few long distance relationships myself , and have seen some of them turn out good. But on the other hand none of mine has. But anyways , I just want to share some advice with anyone who is thinking or is involved in a long distance relationship.
1. Make sure you can trust the person . ( Ask The Person To Send You A Recent Pic of Them )
2. Always Be Praying For The Relationship. ( The Reason I Say This Is Because You Will Need To Stay Prayed Up So You Can Tackle The Issues That Are Coming Up )
3. Make Sure You Keep Your Eyes And Ears Open For Warning Signs or Red Flags About The Other Person Or The Relationship. ( I Say This Because I Had To Learn The Hard Way )
* Thats all I have right now , BUT if anyone needs some more long distance relationship advice or anything please message me on here and I would be happy to help you !
Quote from: Cody P on September 12, 2008, 01:42:46 PM
1. Make sure you can trust the person . ( Ask The Person To Send You A Recent Pic of Them )
I'm not really sure how seeing a picture of someone is going to help you trust them. Especially considering that the picture may or may not actually be of them. But thanks for the chuckle. :P
Praying is always good advice.
:beret:
Well one of the reasons I said to make sure you see a picture of them is because I was lied to.
You'd be better off finding someone in their city to stalk them ;) hehe
Four hours away works, too.
*cough*
:hypocrite:
:beret:
Obviously this one is old... and probably worn out... but just to put a little 2 sense in...
0. Obvious... but pray long and hard before starting one... LDR are not for everyone... lol
1. Don't write them for 5 months before meeting them... or even talk for 5 months on the phone, Someone on the phone or net, or good 'ole pigeon mail, may not be the same type of person in person!
2. Don't rush it... if your going to marry them, you got the rest of your life to be mushy-gushy, sweet nothings in their ears!
3. Make sure they are your best friend or can be it... Marriage is tough enough to begin with...
4. Try to visit often enough to get to know them, but not too often that you end up wanting to rush it cause your tired of being alone!
5. Hang out with Dad, Mom, Sisters and Brothers... BBQ, go to the Zoo... do all the normal things you would do if they lived next door...
6. Prolly more... but I think they got covered... :)
Have a few of your friends who you trust talk to the person and see what they think about them too?
To see if they see any red flags you don't care to admit to?
Haven't read the entire thread, but my wife and I were very much a long distance relationship. We did it the old fashioned way, letters and a couple of phone calls per week.
Of course we met in March and Married in August of the same year.
Quote from: Scott on February 28, 2010, 07:23:43 AM
Haven't read the entire thread, but my wife and I were very much a long distance relationship. We did it the old fashioned way, letters and a couple of phone calls per week.
Of course we met in March and Married in August of the same year.
Sounds like our whirlwind romance. LOL We met in in early February, six years ago -were never officially engaged, just sort of started talking about the wedding in a matter-of-fact way, which occurred early May of that year, in Vegas. :) Best decision we ever made! (Getting married AND getting married in Vegas.)
The funny thing was our first son was born 4 years later, on the very date we were engaged.
How many people who had successful had LDR's are on here?
Um, Angel and Trey got married. Desert Flower married Solo Man. Who are some of the others?
Adina and Ben.
The couple in belgium - I'm drawing a blank on their name - bart and.... Help me someone LOL
Trav and terp
A bunch of the old AYN'ers - monica and chase
Of course the current "it" couple: puddle and soggy
Mary, you may want to hide after that comment. I got the icy glare from the melted maiden when I tried a version of that nickname. lol
Indeed. *icy glare*
Besides, we're not married YET. And neither are Trav and Terp. So I'm not sure we really count. *lol*
:beret:
*has an idea for Ruby's wedding reception*
Make flowers out of papertowels. lol Don't want anything to be soggy from the puddles.
*groan*
No.
Just. No.
:beret:
*innocent look*
What's wrong?
:bigcheese:
You could make a gorgeous white bouquet out of paper towel flowers, you know.
I don't see anybody calling anything off and I see people committed to getting married to each other so I'm gonna count them as successful, on faith
I know Elona, I thought it was great so I stole it :-)
The twinkle in her eye from Soggy makes the icy glare not so believable anyway
Icy cold water just isn't quite the same as razor-sharp ice, is it? :bigcheese:
Right, and at this point she's been puddlefied so long that its really more like cool water gaze
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on March 05, 2010, 02:36:27 AM
Right, and at this point she's been puddlefied so long that its really more like cool water gaze
quite refreshing...
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on March 04, 2010, 11:05:24 PM
The couple in belgium - I'm drawing a blank on their name - bart and.... Help me someone LOL
Trav and terp
A bunch of the old AYN'ers - monica and chase
Of course the current "it" couple: puddle and soggy
Rebekka and Bart
BOL!! Cool water gaze!!! I BOLed on that one so loud!! Nice, Mary...thanks! ;)
And let's not forget Mom and Dad!! They met on the net, several states apart! :)