How do you cure (or at least alleviate) loneliness?

[SippinTea]

Meet up with a friend?
Hide in a corner, and hope someone else is hiding there, too?
Plan a party?
Take a trip?

[upcchris]

...I usually read...it takes your mind off it.

[The Purple Fuzzy]

I talk to people on the computer.

[taco_harvell]

I talk to people on the computer.

I can honestly say online friends have kept me from going insane from loneliness....

[RainbowJingles]

Connect with someone who needs encouragement.
Find a friend who needs me to pray with them.
Visit the nursing home.
Visit GP.

I like the hide in a corner idea, Ruby.  I might have to try that one.  lol

[SippinTea]

I talk to people on the computer.

I can honestly say online friends have kept me from going insane from loneliness....

*raises hand* Me three.

I TRY to get myself OUT of myself, and go find someone else who needs a friend... but I'm not always that unselfish. Sometimes I can make myself get out and go something for someone else, and I usually end up really glad I did (and feeling much happier myself), but... I'm not a super-saint yet. *grin* And I don't seem to be able to make myself do that all the time.

[Amelia Bedelia]

getting back together with an ex isn't the kind of suggestion you're looking for right?  

I'll be interested to try some of these suggestions...

[SippinTea]

getting back together with an ex isn't the kind of suggestion you're looking for right? 

Nope. If they're an ex, there's a reason they're an ex. Leave 'em there. And move on.

~The Ice Maiden's two cents

[Newsman]

getting back together with an ex isn't the kind of suggestion you're looking for right? 

Nope. If they're an ex, there's a reason they're an ex. Leave 'em there. And move on.

~The Woman Formerly Known as Ice Maiden's two cents

[SippinTea]

[RainbowJingles]

lol  John

Mary: Dont do it.

Ruby: What you said.

[YooperYankDude]

Grab my camera and set off for the great outdoors and wild unknowns... and then my truck broke down in the middle of the great unknowns... :grin: ...

But I did at least get a couple pics...

Or head off to go fishing... only to find out it is so cold outside that the water is freezing to your line and forming ice cubes on the pole... and then the motor breaks down, and it is windy and the waves are after you, and pushing you toward some distant island... and the oars dont work... and then you hear this song in your head...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cfR7qxtgCgY&feature=related

Ack... the motor did finally start and we escaped certain doom...


Normally I go someplace that doesn't require thinking... and take my camera along.

Or read something...

[sunlight]

lonliness or boredom? :grin:

Go somewhere, do something.
Drive
Travel
Cruise...
Visit.
Do something for someone.
Create.
Instigate.
go find someone to hug. :halo:

[RainbowJingles]

go find someone to hug. :halo:

Like at Jack-in-the-Box? 

lol

[1legRooster]

Go on a nice motorcycle ride.... well staying away from mountains.    *don't need a re-run*
Get some friends or family together and have some dinner and games
Go on a cruise.... 

[newkris]

i find loneliness thrives on certain days - like saturdays when i don't have school. 

so i plan ahead to NOT be alone on those days as often as i can.  not even the whole day, just part of it usually works.  if i'm alone from friday night to sunday morning - it's too long.

so . .  . i go for a drive or a walk or get my sister on the phone.

if it's too cold and i'm too poor to drive anywhere, then i write. 

loneliness is part of my life and it is what it is.  i can't magically change that.  i'm an outsider in a small town. 

but that doesn't change my value so . .  . i just will feel it.  learn from it.  and be more sensitive to someone else who might have the same thing.

and by sunday morning, i'm fine. 

usually. 

[Amelia Bedelia]

I'm seeing a lot of mention of friends... If you have the option of being with friends then you're not really all that alone

How about when you absolutely have no one available to call, visit or otherwise interact with

[YooperYankDude]

I'm seeing a lot of mention of friends... If you have the option of being with friends then you're not really all that alone

How about when you absolutely have no one available to call, visit or otherwise interact with

Grab the camera and go somewhere... ohh... wait... I already typed that out. :grin:

Go to the zoo...

Go fishing...

Go Hiking...

If your a gal... go shopping...

Grab the guitar and play something...

Hop on a train or trolley and find something to do...

Go make a friend...

[Sis]

I'm in the spot Mary is talking about, and I can do all that stuff but when you do it alone, and have nobody to talk to all day EVERY day, it doesn't help. You start talking to yourself and God but you are still alone.

And "making a friend" would be easy for me if there were someone around who WANTED to be a friend. There isn't!

[Amelia Bedelia]

Yeah, all those things worked initially, but month after month, its just exhausting. The lonliness isn't a one time thing for a couple hours; its my life.  All my mending and sewing projects I thought I'd never finish are done, and I have no inspiration for anything new - I re-clean the apartment... Then go sleep and wait for tomorrow so I can go to work and at least I have somewhere to belong for 8 hours.

I'm not cut out to be a loner, nor a party person always out and doing stuff... I do well at home but when the home is shared with other people, knowing that someone knows or cares if I get home at night would be nice.  Having a friend that's comfortable just hanging out in the apartment would be nice too... The few people I do know I have to formally entertain and that's exhausting.

Women are impossible to befriend, we're such hormonal territorial witches half the time and comparing ourselves and intimidating each other without meaning to the other half of the time... Oh for the playground days when you could walk up and say "will you be my friend?"

[newkris]

i know exactly what you mean, mary and sis.  it's not that we want to be alone, we just are.

it's hard to be a friend to someone who doesn't respond. 

mary, in a big city you would think that there would be LOTS of opportunity to meet people, but who can you trust?

and me in a small town, no one trusts me. 

i think it may be easier for me because i spent the majority of the first 20 years of my life mostly alone. 

then i spent 20 years with people and kids in and out of my house.

now i'm alone again.

the contrast is very loud.

i'm not really sure what exactly to do about it, except learn from this season. 

[taco_harvell]

The last 6 months I have felt lonelier than any other time in my life. The town I live in is very small, and even after 4 years here they treat you like an outsider. All my good friends live anywhere from  75 -1700 miles away. So I turn to the internet and an occasional phone call. I probably would go insane if I didn't have the internet to turn to.

[The Cold Water Kid]

It sounds like a fine line between loneliness and boredom... how can you tell one from the other?

[Amelia Bedelia]

One makes you restless the other makes you want to cry when you see groups of friends

[The Cold Water Kid]

Seeing a group of guys hanging out doesn't affect me much but seeing a couple who are clearly in love sometimes gives me the Charlie Brown blues.