Define Flirting

[Called_&_chosen]

I was at Wall*Mart last ngiht and I was talking with one of the cashears ( I kind of know him) well I told him he smelled good.... any body that knows me knows I say that to people mostly guys but yeah...I thought of this thread ..............and I prey he did not think I was trying o flirt I mean he did not seem phased he said thanks and kind of played around with me so....


 

Hmmm...  so he was flirting with you!??!?!?!?!?1

I don't really know.....i guess........not really ...I DON'T KNOW 

[Newsman]

Lady Short Hat Playa...sigh 


John 

[Sister_Mom]

The man you can't live without will be the one that fulfills your God-written love story.

I love this Nelle!!!  Can I keep it?  :grin:

[SippinTea]

The man you can't live without will be the one that fulfills your God-written love story.

I love this Nelle!!!  Can I keep it?  :grin:

Hmmm....
It sounds great on paper. But where does that leave you when you _have_ to live without that man?

Single.

[newkris]

The man you can't live without will be the one that fulfills your God-written love story.

I love this Nelle!!!  Can I keep it?  :grin:

Hmmm....
It sounds great on paper. But where does that leave you when you _have_ to live without that man?

Single.

yep.  exactly.

[Newsman]

   I disaagree, in part. It is great if it works out that you mean the person 'you can't live without.' But, I maintain there are couples where at least one of the two parties NEVER fell 'head over heels' in love with the other, but they have MADE a successful and, yes, _happy_ marriage.
  Of course, we can get back to the question of how usable is commentary/adviice on marriage from a single guy in his 40's, who has never been married?


John 

[SippinTea]

But, I maintain there are couples where at least one of the two parties NEVER fell 'head over heels' in love with the other, but they have MADE a successful and, yes, _happy_ marriage.

*gasp* Like, the whole 'love is a choice' thing? And commitment matters?

Okay, seriously.... I think you're absolutely right.

[Nelle]

The man you can't live without will be the one that fulfills your God-written love story.

I love this Nelle!!!  Can I keep it?  :grin:

Hmmm....
It sounds great on paper. But where does that leave you when you _have_ to live without that man?

Single.

You can use it if you want.


And... to the other part of the quote:

If you don't get that man you can't live without and you do subscribe to the belief that love is a choice - you can fall in love again with someone else. I don't think it's a 'do or die' situation there.

I'm still not certain where my belief fully lies.. whether it's in that God has someone for me, or that I'll choose someone to be with the rest of my life. But.. either way, love is always a choice and involves commitment. God doesn't MAKE us do things against our will. I believe that no matter who you fall in love with, that becomes your God-written love story. You chose to fall in love with that person and if you were to marry them, you have then formed a commitment with/to them.

As far as the whole destiny thing, I think I bank more on that I take everything to God in prayer and He will help me to make the best decision I can with what I have.


I'm also not sure why anyone would want to marry someone they didn't love unless it was an arranged marriage or something. I would think even if it were the likes of "I love her more today than I did the day we first wed." There has to be "head over heels love" somewhere there.. whether it's by your definition or not.


Babbling enough? haha..

[Called_&_chosen]

Lady Short Hat Playa...sigh 


John 

NOOOO......I was just being my self that all...you know the NOT conforming to other peoples expectations of you NOT masking your self just so people don't think or think something about you... 

[TRAV]

I was at Wall*Mart last ngiht and I was talking with one of the cashears ( I kind of know him) well I told him he smelled good.... any body that knows me knows I say that to people mostly guys but yeah...I thought of this thread ..............and I prey he did not think I was trying o flirt I mean he did not seem phased he said thanks and kind of played around with me so....


 

Hmmm...  so he was flirting with you!??!?!?!?!?1

I don't really know.....i guess........not really ...I DON'T KNOW 

When you tell a guy he "smells good" it means you have gotten close enough to "smell" him. "You smell good" is more personal than "wow, who's wearing the great cologne?!".

It definitely gets a guys attention. It's female attention that goes beyond "i recognize that brand of cologne". It probably was taken as a flirting thing (especially IF he thought you were kinda cute). 

[Babs]

not always lol sometimes their cologne beats them to the room 

[TRAV]

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

[Babs]

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

true that lol

[Sis]

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

I've said that to guys and Ethyl is right. Sometimes the smell beats them into the room. I've said it as a compliment, not to flirt.

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

true that lol

Of course it's different. One means you REEK and the other is a compliment, not a pickup line!   

[Called_&_chosen]

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

I've said that to guys and Ethyl is right. Sometimes the smell beats them into the room. I've said it as a compliment, not to flirt.

I still believe that "You smell good" comes across differently ....as opposed to "AAGGGHHH, IT'S U !!! OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!"

true that lol

Of course it's different. One means you REEK and the other is a compliment, not a pickup line!   

 

  YES........it was JUST a compliment that is all.......but i will say he is good looking............i tend to smell things most people don't ( I can be upstairs in my room and smell a candle on the table)

[InChristGirl]

not always lol sometimes their cologne beats them to the room 

Yup!

[zizi90]

not always lol sometimes their cologne beats them to the room 

Yup!

Truth.

[InChristGirl]

not always lol sometimes their cologne beats them to the room 

Yup!

Truth.

Or lingers after them

[zizi90]

 

[RainbowJingles]

   I disaagree, in part. It is great if it works out that you mean the person 'you can't live without.' But, I maintain there are couples where at least one of the two parties NEVER fell 'head over heels' in love with the other, but they have MADE a successful and, yes, _happy_ marriage.
  Of course, we can get back to the question of how usable is commentary/adviice on marriage from a single guy in his 40's, who has never been married?


John 

Hmmm...  This piece of revelatory advice leaves us to ask why you haven't allowed your pastor and his wife to work out that arranged marriage yet.




ICG:  You have something to share (besides lingering cologne scents)?

[TRAV]

  YES........it was JUST a compliment that is all.......but i will say he is good looking............i tend to smell things most people don't ( I can be upstairs in my room and smell a candle on the table)

mm hmm. ... . .. . sherrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr 

[Called_&_chosen]

  YES........it was JUST a compliment that is all.......but i will say he is good looking............i tend to smell things most people don't ( I can be upstairs in my room and smell a candle on the table)

mm hmm. ... . .. . sherrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr 

I PROMISE...Scouts Honor 

[Newsman]

Lady Short Hat,

   I realky don't think of you as a Boy Scout.


John 

[Called_&_chosen]

Lady Short Hat,

   I realky don't think of you as a Boy Scout.


John 

I was a Girl Scout for 5 or 6 years NEVER a Boy Scout...some how being a Boy Scout was NEVER and option for me. 

[Sis]

Lady Short Hat,

   I realky don't think of you as a Boy Scout.


John 

I was a Girl Scout for 5 or 6 years NEVER a Boy Scout...some how being a Boy Scout was NEVER and option for me. 

Hey! I was a boy scout for a long time. I didn't want to scout girls! They not kissable! Now boys!  That's something different.