Question for Singles

[taco_harvell]

Are you happy being single? Do you feel you could remain single the rest of your life and be perfectly happy?



Do you feel only true happiness will come when you find someone to share your life with? Is marriage the only way you see yourself being content?

[TheGirl]

No. No. Only if i'm with the person God intends me to be with. And no.

[Sis]

You're young, Taco. When the pain dies down, you might find someone again. Lord willin'. You may not have enough time. He may come before you know it. We have no idea. But if he tarrys, I imagine you just might find someone else. Someone Renae will approve of.  (Sorry if I misspelled her name, but I know four different gals with that name, and they all spell it differently!)

[upcchris]

Hmmm. There was a time when I would've answered 'yes' to the top two questions, without hesitation...and probably before you finished speaking....but I'm at a point in my life now where I think I need to get my act together. If God means for me to stay single...I'm fine with that, but I have a feeling I....for lack of a better word... *should* get married at some point, it's not the only way I see myself being content and it's not the only way to find true happiness, I just feel it will be a part of my life eventually.

[RainbowJingles]

[taco_harvell]

You're young, Taco. When the pain dies down, you might find someone again. Lord willin'. You may not have enough time. He may come before you know it. We have no idea. But if he tarrys, I imagine you just might find someone else. Someone Renae will approve of.  (Sorry if I misspelled her name, but I know four different gals with that name, and they all spell it differently!)

This actually was inspired by an article I read tonight. I actually haven't really considered it much. This article was about how this guy felt society treated him for "choosing" to be single. Just hit my as a very interesting question.

[Sis]

Well, if a bunch of church ladies start introducing you to women, you can have loads of company without commitment, anyway! 

[taco_harvell]

Well, if a bunch of church ladies start introducing you to women, you can have loads of company without commitment, anyway! 

That will never happen.......lol

[1legRooster]

Am I happy being single.... well I am happy about many aspects of my life, not so much about that one.  LOL

Could I be perfectly happy if I were to remain single for my whole life.... I could be happy, but I would feel a part of my life was missing, just like I do now.

I would rather be single then unhappily married, and I do not think that marriage is the only way to true happiness. 

I have learned in whatsoever state that I am in, to be content.

[Heather]

all the answers to these questions vary day to day.

for the most part i am happy being single. mostly because i was so unhappy being single that i have the craziest schedule to keep me from being home moping. lol. it would be a tad crazy to try to fit time for a significant other in there.

as far as to be content being single for the rest of my life....i honestly can't answer that. at times i like to think God has someone out there for me, but at other times I honestly think I blew my one shot at 'the one' with my now ex-husband.

i guess time and alot of prayer will tell.....

[RainbowJingles]

Hmmm...

Am I happy being single?
I truly think that I am.  There are days that I feel that I need company, but I have learned to seek out that company in healthy ways.  Not being single doesn't mean you'll always have good days, or never be lonely, so I try to remind myself of that.  There are so many things that I can do as a single that I might not be quite as free to do as a married person, such as being available (with a flexible schedule) to spend time at the church, or babysitting late at night without worrying anyone, or just being random and silly.

Do I feel I could remain single the rest of my life and be perfectly happy?
Day by day, my happiness is a decision.  If I wake up single, I will choose to be happy.  If I wake up married...    I mean, if someday I am married, then I will still need to choose happiness each day.

Do I feel true happiness will only come when I find someone to share my life with?
Nope.  True happiness comes from God, and as such, I can be happy whether I'm married or single.

Is marriage the only way I see myself being content?
No.
While I don't feel like God has said that I will be single forever, I don't feel that I will mope for the rest of my life if I am never married.
Contentment comes in all shapes and sizes and all circumstances if we allow it to.  I pray that I will always allow that contentment in my life.

Do I have moments where I really WISH I could be married?
Yup.
Do I obsess over it?
I don't think I do very often.
Do I give it to God?
Yup.
Do I have people trying to matchmake for me?
Yup.
Do I let 'em?
Yup.  lol
Do I have people praying that I will find a husband someday?
Yup.
Do I let 'em?
Yup.  As a matter of fact, I encourage such behavior.  lol  Keeps them from getting on MY case.  If they're telling GOD that I need a husband, they don't tend to tell ME about it quite as much.

[taco_harvell]

Been thinking about this the last couple of days. These questions are hard for me to answer. I've only been "single" for seven months today to be exact. I can honestly say I enjoyed being married. It's nice knowing there is always someone there no matter what to share your life with. I don't honestly know how I feel about being single. I surely don't know if I could be happy being single for the rest of my life. I still wrestle with facing the fact that I am a single guy again.

Right now am I happy? Most of the time I try to be. But that usually has very little to do with my relationship status it's more about my state of mind. I think with the right state of mind anyone can be happy no matter if they are single or married. I know way to many married people who haven't been happy since the honeymoon ended to say marriage is the only way to be happy.

[The Cold Water Kid]

Are you happy being single? Do you feel you could remain single the rest of your life and be perfectly happy?



Do you feel only true happiness will come when you find someone to share your life with? Is marriage the only way you see yourself being content?

We can't count on always being "happy", married or not.

1 Peter 4:19 (King James Version)

19Wherefore let them that suffer according to the will of God commit the keeping of their souls to him in well doing, as unto a faithful Creator.

[Newsman]

True, but the contect of that passage deals with suffering as a Christian, and in one's belief, not regarding the issue fo whether one is single or married.

1 Peter 4:16 Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed ; but let him glorify God on this behalf. 17 For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? 18 And if the righteous scarcely be saved , where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear ? 19 Wherefore let them that suffer according to the will of God commit the keeping of their souls to him in well doing, as unto a faithful Creator. (KJV)



John

[YooperYankDude]

Thanks for clarifying that John...  :grin:

Was going to type something out, but you beat me to it, cause I fell asleep... lol...

Putting scripture in context is something that is always important! 

[The Cold Water Kid]

Perhaps...

[SippinTea]

Okay, sooo... by following your logic, you should go find the woman who makes you more miserable than you've ever been in your life... and then marry her!! Woohoo!!

(That was sarcasm, just in case you couldn't tell.)

Seriously, though...
You ARE taking that way out of context of the surrounding Scripture... and also out of the context of this thread.

I agree it is not God's goal to make us happy.

But neither is it His goal to make us UN-happy.

His goal is to make us more like Himself. More righteous. More pure. More holy.

But this thread isn't about suffering or goals or righteousness. And now we've pinkwinked yet another thread... 

[YooperYankDude]

Okay, sooo... by following your logic, you should go find the woman who makes you more miserable than you've ever been in your life... and then marry her!! Woohoo!!
That sounds blissful... where do I sign up...  

(That was sarcasm, just in case you couldn't tell.)
ahhh... Ruby sarcasm... Yoop sits in awe...

Seriously, though...
You ARE taking that way out of context of the surrounding Scripture... and also out of the context of this thread.
hmmm... seems your not the first to mention this...  

I agree it is not God's goal to make us happy.

But neither is it His goal to make us UN-happy.

His goal is to make us more like Himself. More righteous. More pure. More holy.

But this thread isn't about suffering or goals or righteousness. And now we've pinkwinked yet another thread...  
Hmmm... thanks for clarifying... I was confused about the focus of this one... lol...

  to Ruby... as usual... witty banter with a bit of sarcasm in nice way...  

And this one of the reasons I enjoy reading your posts ms. puddle...

[Heather]

with that logic i should have stayed with my abusive ex-husband.......

just saying.....

[The Cold Water Kid]

I'm not sure.

[SippinTea]

*cough*

[YooperYankDude]

Well then... I say we start outlawing happiness... no infectious *cough*ing of the oozing happiness that Sippin has... no *spitlaughing* from RJ... no *giggles* or *smirks*... if we aren't supposed to be happy... then we'll try to be what we are suppsed to be... *misersable*   

                                                                   
                                                                   
                                                                   
                                                                   
                                                                   

ok... so maybe not...

I think it is preposterous to think that we are not supposed to be capable of happiness... True happiness is every time a child is born, or smiles or laughs... or someone gets a revelation of One God, and takes part in the new birth experience... true happiness is having the Spirit of God living inside of you... or you find the "right" one to marry...

I dont think that we will continually be on "cloud 9", but there are moments in life where a person can be.  You can be unhappy, but still content... you can be sad, and content... being miserable is a choice... especially if you have the Spirit of almighty God living inside of you...!

No marriage is perfect... TRUE... but even in the tough times, which from all I can see, there can be a lot of tough times... Children get sick, children become disabled... children die! Spouses  get ill, and they die... Yes that is going to bring on sorrow... you can be content.

(Isaiah 61:3)  To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

Not saying you will be happy in the hard times, or the heartache... but you can still be content... and in being content... there is the ability by God to find True Happiness...

As far as being Happy being single? I am content being single, because I know that if god has someone out there for me, then in HIS time I will find her, and all this 26 yrs of waiting will be worth it...!

If I never get married, than there must have been a reason why... either it wasn't His will... or I missed His will somewhere down the line!

But either way... I know I am able to be content... or happy doing what God has called me to do, whatever and wherever that may be.

But I also believe God knows the true desires of our heart, and hears the prayers that have been offered up for my spouse... whoever and wherever she is since I was 15!

At the moment, I remain to be content and happy as I am... it allows me to do things and go places that if I were married might be harder, although not impossible. It allows me time to prepare what I feel God has given to me as His plan for my life, and when the right gal comes along, her puzzle piece will fit into the picture of my life that God has given me!

I heartily disagree with you on this point, but I most likely will not reply on this specific topic again to avoid tension... but anyhow..

God Bless You..  Yoop :grin:

[SippinTea]

Great post, Yoop!

*rWooby thinks Da Yoop is one very smart guy*

[RainbowJingles]

Woohoo!  You GO with your bad posting self, Yoop!  Short of the stream of pitiful smilies, I don't think I could've said it any better myself.

[The Cold Water Kid]

You make some interesting points.