Should a guy actually ask a girl to date him?

[1legRooster]

I have had girls that have tried to date me, and I had no interest, I made it clear, and when they could not get it through their heads, I just acted oblivious to any hints and innuendo.  HA, I know a few of them were really mad at me.  Oh well, you cannot take no, I am not going to be directly mean, but you are not getting anywhere, and it helps to have good friends who found it funny as well.

Glad I have not needed to do that for a while.

Peace is a wonderful thing.

[SippinTea]

I've had guys not comprehend that when I said I wasn't interested, it meant I wasn't interested and that no, I did not want to do anything with him and it was merely a platonic arms-length friendship.  I hate having to not be friendly and sometimes downright nasty simply because I'm worried the guy is going to assault me because I smiled at him and was a good listener.   

PREACH!! If I had a dollar for every time....   Never mind, we won't go there for now. *lol*

[YooperYankDude]

LOL... well it aint all peaches and cream for the guys either... The Single ladies outnumber the single men something like 4-1... so for every single available guy, there are 4 ladies looking for him!

And... when there are more than one single lady in the church, say like 4 of them, and then a guy moves into the area, or comes in and get the Holy Ghost... it is like "ooohhh, fresh meat!"... it can be quite disconcerting... especially if you don't wish to pursue anything with any of them.

That, and I am not the type of person interested in dating someone just to date, or just because they are there. There needs to be a concrete reason for me dating them, if I am dating them, it is cause I could possibly marry them...

[iridiscente]

It's really always a either or with you huh? Either your way or highway... lol...

p´shaw, not even quite. Only in my mind are the lines so clear.

[YooperYankDude]

It's really always a either or with you huh? Either your way or highway... lol...

p´shaw, not even quite. Only in my mind are the lines so clear.

And for that we *sigh* in relief... and what kind of noise is this "p´shaw"... not in the dictionary... 

[Sis]

There should always be some sort of meeting of the minds, but both parties have to LISTEN to the other one. Not just let them talk, but really LISTEN.  So many guys are quiet because they're thinking of what they are going to say but don't hear. Not all, but when it happens, there is all sorts of miscommunication going on.

[iridiscente]

It's really always a either or with you huh? Either your way or highway... lol...

p´shaw, not even quite. Only in my mind are the lines so clear.

And for that we *sigh* in relief... and what kind of noise is this "p´shaw"... not in the dictionary... 

pshaw
interj.
Used to indicate impatience, irritation, disapproval, or disbelief.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/pshaw

[YooperYankDude]

It's really always a either or with you huh? Either your way or highway... lol...

p´shaw, not even quite. Only in my mind are the lines so clear.

And for that we *sigh* in relief... and what kind of noise is this "p´shaw"... not in the dictionary... 

pshaw
interj.
Used to indicate impatience, irritation, disapproval, or disbelief.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/pshaw

pshaw [pʃɔː]
interj
Becoming rare an exclamation of disgust, impatience, disbelief, etc.
Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged 6th Edition 2003. © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

***Becoming rare... maybe that is why I havent heard it till now... but points to you, cause you have!    ***

[iridiscente]

Southern living earns you loquacity points from the Yooper
finally a use for those redneck expressions that are really more authentic English.

[Amelia Bedelia]

I love "p'shaw"!!!  LOL I saw that in use on your facebook and it made me smile

[SippinTea]

Tee hee.

Yooper, do ya know what "piffle" means?

[The Purple Fuzzy]

I'd like to know what Yooper means...  must be a yankee term.

[YooperYankDude]

I'd like to know what Yooper means...  must be a yankee term.

Well sure am glad ya asked... Yooper is the term people in Upper Peninsula of Michigan use to identify them selves... lol... as far as being a "Yankee" term... nah, just UP'r term... it sound a little nicer than UP'er, lol...

[YooperYankDude]

Tee hee.

Yooper, do ya know what "piffle" means?

Yup... and in the dictionary under the definition there is a picture of the Ice Queen... 

J/k...

pif⋅fle  [pif-uhl]  Show IPA noun, verb, -fled, -fling. Informal.
–noun
1.   nonsense, as trivial or senseless talk.
–verb (used without object)
2.   to talk nonsense.


I was gonna say a picture of me... but then everyone would go look to see what this awesome Yooper looks like... (j/k... REALLY!) (about wondering what I look like, not that I am awesome... )

[YooperYankDude]

I love "p'shaw"!!!  LOL I saw that in use on your facebook and it made me smile

I am sure your were talkin to Adina... but I just keep thinkin about the book character "Amelia Bedelia" everytime I see you comment... is that a coincidence, or did you plan for people to continually focus on the reason for that name rather than your posts... 

[YooperYankDude]

Southern living earns you loquacity points from the Yooper
finally a use for those redneck expressions that are really more authentic English.

I lived in Texas, in two places... and they didn't use words the way that you do... lol. They were much more simpler, kinda like you'd expect to here in KY or TN... ya         gotta     talk      real     slow, so they understand what ya'll are saying.

I have a deep appreciation for good 'ole southern hospitality... and they have good iced tea... not like that northern tar they try to serve in some parts of the country. More like molasses on a hot day, than a cool refreshing cup of Texas tea in cup full 'o ice, with a lemon wedge... even better if it is mint.

I like picking different accents from different parts of the country and converging them into my own Yooper dialect... was real bad when I spent a month around 100 Canadians from BC... my parents could understand half of what I said, 'course that isn't exactly a rare problem anyhow...

And dont gloat 'cause you got points... ya got them 'cause you knew a word I had never heard of... this is gonna open a can o worms... I can just see it now... lol

[upcchris]

And... when there are more than one single lady in the church, say like 4 of them, and then a guy moves into the area, or comes in and get the Holy Ghost... it is like "ooohhh, fresh meat!"... it can be quite disconcerting... especially if you don't wish to pursue anything with any of them.

I know what you mean about the disconcerting bit. The last thing a recently saved bloke wants to hear is 'welcome to the family of the Lord...watch out for the sharks...oops...I mean (j/k sisters) single ladies' *quickly ducks*

That, and I am not the type of person interested in dating someone just to date, or just because they are there. There needs to be a concrete reason for me dating them, if I am dating them, it is cause I could possibly marry them...

You took the words right outta my mouth, bro.

[YooperYankDude]

And... when there are more than one single lady in the church, say like 4 of them, and then a guy moves into the area, or comes in and get the Holy Ghost... it is like "ooohhh, fresh meat!"... it can be quite disconcerting... especially if you don't wish to pursue anything with any of them.

I know what you mean about the disconcerting bit. The last thing a recently saved bloke wants to hear is 'welcome to the family of the Lord...watch out for the sharks...oops...I mean (j/k sisters) single ladies' *quickly ducks*

That, and I am not the type of person interested in dating someone just to date, or just because they are there. There needs to be a concrete reason for me dating them, if I am dating them, it is cause I could possibly marry them...

You took the words right outta my mouth, bro.

LOL... HILARIOUS!

Actually, at the church I got into, I showed up on a Sunday morning at the beginning of a 5 day revival... so 6 services in all for this former AOG'er at a Onfire Apostolic Church... lol... that is another story entirely.

Anyhow, after the 3rd service (Monday Night) we went out to eat (imagine that, Apostolic going out to eat after church... lol), and pretty much immediately they started asking who I thought was pretty or cute... ugh...

Then the second Sunday I was there, I was standing in the center aisle, and a gal walked up and talked to me for a min or two, and the whole YG was sitting there smiling, and then the guys tried to talk me into liking her... lol... what a fiasco... she was very nice, and we ended up "courting" a couple of yrs later (obviously didnt work out then either!), but it was fresh meat day at the local Apostolic church... lol

[Sis]

I'd like to know what Yooper means...  must be a yankee term.

Well sure am glad ya asked... Yooper is the term people in Upper Peninsula of Michigan use to identify them selves... lol... as far as being a "Yankee" term... nah, just UP'r term... it sound a little nicer than UP'er, lol...

Upper peninsula (Of Michigan)  A person who lives in the Upper peninsula = upr, or Yooper! Simple

[YooperYankDude]

Upper peninsula (Of Michigan)  A person who lives in the Upper peninsula = upr, or Yooper! Simple

YEA! Someone else who knows of the FAMOUS Yoopers... lol... ever heard any of the Silly Songs by the Yoopers? A real band (not christian...) named the Yoopers, sings about life as a Yooper... such amazing ballads such as the "Tirdy Point Buck...", and the "Second Week of Deer Camp"... lol... completely hilarious nonsensical fluff... LOL...

[Sis]

Now that you mention it, I think I HAVE heard of them. Something about a Christmas song? ? ?

[iridiscente]

I love "p'shaw"!!!  LOL I saw that in use on your facebook and it made me smile

You just made me smile too.

[YooperYankDude]

Now that you mention it, I think I HAVE heard of them. Something about a Christmas song? ? ?

I am sure they do, they usually hit the radio tunes during the holidays... I am gonna do some research on it...

[sunlight]

I  have heard the thirdy point buck one...

[YooperYankDude]

They have a ton more... but that is one they play up here almost non-stop... lol