What Attracted Him to Me?

[SippinTea]

*groan* Oh good grief.

Yeah, what about that cooking? That sounds like a great topic....

[Newsman]

Yes, indeed.. remember when your brother Wil thought someone had turned the radio on, when I came in to the house that morning?


John 

HEY!!!  John!  You've been to my house and survived the cooking, haven't you?

[Newsman]

If SippinTea were sipping tea in a swim suit by the sea side...


John 

*groan* Oh good grief.

[RainbowJingles]

Yes, indeed.. remember when your brother Wil thought someone had turned the radio on, when I came in to the house that morning?


John 

HEY!!!  John!  You've been to my house and survived the cooking, haven't you?

lol  That still makes me laugh to think about it!  :-)

[RainbowJingles]

Let's see...  where was I in this ed thread?

Okay...  Let's move on to the handful of guys that pursued me that weren't what I needed.

One guy in particular pursued me when I was at a particularly vulnerable time in my life spiritually.  I was needy and seeking a relationship with a guy instead of a closer walk with God to complete me.  I looked to him for approval, and he gave it.  I looked to feel good about myself, and often found myself looking down on him in order to accomplish that goal.  And he kept pursuing, even when I kept turning him down.

[iridiscente]

ouch

[RainbowJingles]

Exactly.  His self-esteem was kind of low, and so was mine, and we ended up making one another feel worse about ourselves by being together.

So why did I not just separate myself from him?  Loneliness.
Loneliness and selfish inward focus have drug me into some of the worst relationships of my life.  Not that the guys were bad guys, just that the relationships were really not good ones and the guys were TOTALLY wrong for ME.  Ya know?

After a few years, that guy and I both grew quite a bit and matured spiritually, and became decent friends.  He is now quite happily married, and I'm quite happy for him.  I'm also quite happy that I didn't end up with him.  lol

[RainbowJingles]

You know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving...
I was wearing brightly-colored clothing and big shoes. 

The other day, I began to consider what I should wear if I wanted to impress one of these particular gentlemen.
I pondered the situation and tried to think of what I had been wearing when we met.  I laughed as it hit me all over again that he was apparently at least somewhat attracted to me as a CLOWN, wearing a crazy hat, outlandishly bright clothing, and huge silver shoes.
I came to the conclusion that I should find the brightest most color-intensive article of clothing in my wardrobe and go buy a pair of silver shoes to complement the outfit.  lol

[Sis]

That's good. Did you do that? And how did the date turn out?

[Newsman]

Umm, perhaps that if the (she will neither confirm nor deny) upcoming get-together with the guy she will neither confirm noir deny actually has her atention, though we are forced to ponder how many times we've seen Lady Elona posting about revelations on what clothing she should wear to impress a man...Hmmm...


John 

[nwlife]

You know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving...
I was wearing brightly-colored clothing and big shoes. 

The other day, I began to consider what I should wear if I wanted to impress one of these particular gentlemen.
I pondered the situation and tried to think of what I had been wearing when we met.  I laughed as it hit me all over again that he was apparently at least somewhat attracted to me as a CLOWN, wearing a crazy hat, outlandishly bright clothing, and huge silver shoes.
I came to the conclusion that I should find the brightest most color-intensive article of clothing in my wardrobe and go buy a pair of silver shoes to complement the outfit.  lol

I will say this, there is a line in this post that shows what is attractive about Rainbow,

I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving

[RainbowJingles]

Sis: I have not had a date.
Yet.
I can, however, confirm that my unconfirmed date has been postponed.
*sigh*
But it's okay, cuz we have a new unconfirmed date now.  It's going to work out eventually...  I mean...  I can neither confirm nor deny that there's a guy who is thinking about coming to visit me in the very near future, who may convince me to change my relationship status from "single and unattached" to single and no longer looking."


I CAN confirm, however, that there is a new, brightly-colored outfit in my closet.
Unfortunately, I cannot find any silver shoes to complement it that fit me.  *sigh*
I CAN confirm, however, that I sent a picture message of aforementioned outfit to the unconfirmed date to see what he thought of it. 
He said, "I like it.  It's bright..."  lol

Brandon: I guess I set myself up for that one, huh?

Thank you for your kind words.

[Sis]

Sis: I have not had a date.
Yet.

But you said....

You know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

[RainbowJingles]

lol  Okay...  I haven't had a date RECENTLY
yet

Better?  lol

I haven't been on a date since I bought that new, brightly-colored outfit that is hanging in my closet.

[Sis]

Show us a pic. Wanna see the new outfit.

[RainbowJingles]

I haven't worn it yet.  :-)
Waiting on company to come before I wear it!

[Sis]

You can't take a pic of it without wearing it?   

[BeccaBoo]

[nwlife]

I haven't worn it yet.  :-)
Waiting on company to come before I wear it!

Why wait, if you show a pic of you wearing it---someone just might be enticed to cook you dinner!
though of course you might have to make another trip to oklahoma to get that dinner!

[RainbowJingles]

lol Brandon  Because if I go to Oklahoma to get dinner, a certain gentleman in another state may have something to say about it.

Sis: I might consider that, but it'll look better with me IN it, I would think.  lol  Then again...  maybe not.  lol  It would look MUCH better with me in it and the arm of a certain gentleman draped around the shoulder of said new outfit (as I said - with me in it).

[iridiscente]

[Sis]

Now I really wanna see this dress or outfit with you or without you in it. 

[Newsman]

Oo, la lah!

But, Lady Elona, what about the 36inch rule?


John 

lol Brandon  Because if I go to Oklahoma to get dinner, a certain gentleman in another state may have something to say about it.

Sis: I might consider that, but it'll look better with me IN it, I would think.  lol  Then again...  maybe not.  lol  It would look MUCH better with me in it and the arm of a certain gentleman draped around the shoulder of said new outfit (as I said - with me in it).

[RainbowJingles]

I done broke it, Sir John.
And I can't wait to break it again.

[sunlight]

36inches... isnt that a waist size?
Is the 36 inch rule where his arm shoulld be around her waist? :halo: