Rants/Discussions by Chel :grin:

[SippinTea]

*sigh*

*Hugs* Chel really, really, really tight.

[iridiscente]

Another thing i dont get...

Why do some people judge you on what you drive? I have gotten a different car recenly, and its amazing how people treat you differently depending on what you drive. Ya know... i kinda like driving my old beat up car around just because its like i dont know... a [hahaha... im not who you think i am] type mentality... hehe!

I know how this feels!

[iridiscente]

Okay, I need to borrow your rant thread for a minute, Chel. Do you mind? If so, just ignore my post and move on.

Why do people feel the need to give un-asked-for advice, and why do they feel compelled to studiously point out things they perceive as 'red flags' or dangers in someone else's life? If I listened every time someone said they saw a 'red flag' in my life, I couldn't do anything at all. Sometimes I just have to get alone with God for a while until I REALLY hear from Him. And I'm finding more and more that I have to tune out all the voices around me, and really, really listen for His still small voice. That's the only safe voice to listen to, anyway. Because no matter how much someone cares about me or my situation, they can't possibly know the future like He does. And I'd be a fool to listen to doomsday prophets all the time, and live in fear of everything they say will/could/might happen.

I guess I'd like to be known as someone who encouraged people and gave them hope. Not someone who constantly pointed out everything of concern and danger.

Blah.

Okay, I'm done for now. You can have back your thread.

Are you holding a bunch of red flags in your picture?

Hey, I have a big stick and if that don't work your daddy has something more powerful. But I seriously doubt many guys could make it past a mad mama bear with a stick.

Man, that was classic! BOL!

:grin: and while im in the ranting mode... lol... whats up with it being so easy to be negative? why is it so much easier to knock somebody down in the ground and then trample them, and then dig a hole and bury them than to know that they are down and in need of encouragement? Why? why? why?
God is love, and we are supposed to be like him, and yet its so hard for us to talk nice? grr...

Yeah Cheese.

[sunlight]

first of all, i want to start out saying that i have a real problem apparently, and that i am having a really hard time knowing how to deal with some of the things coming to a head recently.

The deals:
1. There is a guy who is a few years younger than me at church who is a few fries short of a happy meal who seems to have a fixation with me. It has gotten to the point that I feel very uncomfortable any time he is around, and often times i do not go with my youth group to do things if i know that he is going to be there. I NEED to find a way to get him to leave me alone... but since he is not really all there, I feel really bad just treating him bad until he goes away. I am considering going and talking to his dad, but i dont really know how to tell this guy that his son makes me uncomfortable.

2. There is this random dude at the drive through at Chicken Express who after taking and delivering my order for sweet tea- comes out and leans on my car and keeps talking to me until its past time for me to be with the group i was supposed to meet... and he ends up telling me all about how he has had a divorce, and how he wants to never get married again, and such, and then askes how i got the scar on my arm, and when i told him how he was like, well why didnt you call me (yeah, i know, i kinda had a hard time following that line of convo myself) and ends up standing there till i would put his number in my phone and call him, so he could get my number. :sigh: (which i guess isnt really that big of a deal cause i can always just ignore all of that till it stops)

3. There are another couple stories but i dont feel like sharing it at this time because i most certanly dont want to seem like i am bragging. maybe in a later post...but the main problem is that i cant seem to find a way to nicely say no and them get the point. Do most guys not understand that no is no? Is there a way to get the point across without being rude... especially to people who just dont understand why?

:sigh:

Ok people, this is not getting any better, and it just got worse. There is a pharmacy tech that works here, and apparently has taken my being nice as flirting or something... because he just called up to the floor on his cell phone and asked to speak to me... and proceeded to ask me out. :sigh:

will someone please let me know the nicest way to say no and yet get the point across!
grrr....

* sunlight walks off mumbling again.

[BeccaBoo]

Just say...

No.

I dont think there is really a nice way to let someone down...

*shrug*

[Sis]

Tell him you're flattered but you aren't interested in dating anyone at the moment. If he keeps pushing, tell him you are SERIOUS. If he keeps on, just  for awhile. Maybe then he will get it.

[RainbowJingles]

Tell him that you're flattered, but your dating rule is that the first date is at your church.  The second date, your Dad chaperones.  The third date is with your entire family, and if he makes it that far, THEN you can let your dad set the shotgun outside the door and stand beside it when he makes it to the one at your house.

Or you could just tell him "no" now and get it over with.
Tell him you're an ice maiden and you're afraid that if you let him melt you that he might slip in the puddle.
Tell him that you only date within your species.
Tell him that you don't date on days that end in "y"

Or you could just tell him "no" and get it over with.

[mini]

Or....Sunshiney could point out that that is sexual harassment, its against company policy, and that she will be speaking to HR about the incident and that she hopes that the Pharmacy Tech enjoys unemployment and having to register as a sex offender.

That should shut him up.

[World Traveler]

Or, you could just give him another number like 972-836-0066. :-)

[EricShane]

first of all, i want to start out saying that i have a real problem apparently, and that i am having a really hard time knowing how to deal with some of the things coming to a head recently.

The deals:
1. There is a guy who is a few years younger than me at church who is a few fries short of a happy meal who seems to have a fixation with me. It has gotten to the point that I feel very uncomfortable any time he is around, and often times i do not go with my youth group to do things if i know that he is going to be there. I NEED to find a way to get him to leave me alone... but since he is not really all there, I feel really bad just treating him bad until he goes away. I am considering going and talking to his dad, but i dont really know how to tell this guy that his son makes me uncomfortable.

2. There is this random dude at the drive through at Chicken Express who after taking and delivering my order for sweet tea- comes out and leans on my car and keeps talking to me until its past time for me to be with the group i was supposed to meet... and he ends up telling me all about how he has had a divorce, and how he wants to never get married again, and such, and then askes how i got the scar on my arm, and when i told him how he was like, well why didnt you call me (yeah, i know, i kinda had a hard time following that line of convo myself) and ends up standing there till i would put his number in my phone and call him, so he could get my number. :sigh: (which i guess isnt really that big of a deal cause i can always just ignore all of that till it stops)

3. There are another couple stories but i dont feel like sharing it at this time because i most certanly dont want to seem like i am bragging. maybe in a later post...but the main problem is that i cant seem to find a way to nicely say no and them get the point. Do most guys not understand that no is no? Is there a way to get the point across without being rude... especially to people who just dont understand why?

:sigh:

Ok people, this is not getting any better, and it just got worse. There is a pharmacy tech that works here, and apparently has taken my being nice as flirting or something... because he just called up to the floor on his cell phone and asked to speak to me... and proceeded to ask me out. :sigh:

will someone please let me know the nicest way to say no and yet get the point across!
grrr....

* sunlight walks off mumbling again.

well, heres what you do..

act like your interested..

Its a BIG turn off when a girl acts like shes interested..

wait..

maybe thats just..

nevermind..

forget I said that..



lol

[Chseeads]

:sigh:

Ok people, this is not getting any better, and it just got worse. There is a pharmacy tech that works here, and apparently has taken my being nice as flirting or something... because he just called up to the floor on his cell phone and asked to speak to me... and proceeded to ask me out. :sigh:

will someone please let me know the nicest way to say no and yet get the point across!
grrr....

* sunlight walks off mumbling again.

Well, Chellay, what can you expect?  You're a hottay!

[SippinTea]

*mumbles with Chel and commiserates*

*laughs* at Sethers

Or....Sunshiney could point out that that is sexual harassment, its against company policy, and that she will be speaking to HR about the incident and that she hopes that the Pharmacy Tech enjoys unemployment and having to register as a sex offender.

That should shut him up.

Wow! Why didn't I think of that one years ago? That would have worked with... at least three guys I can think of right off the top of my head. NOW you tell me?!? *siiiiigh*

Unfortunately for me, I highly doubt I could do that. Being nice stinks sometimes.

[EricShane]

lol.. you'd be surprised what actually constitutes as sexual harrasment and what doesnt.. and, Ive never heard of anyone having to Register as a sex offender for getting fired to sexual harrassment.. wow.. lol thats a lil extreme

[CDAGeek]

It is, but in this day and age it's probably enough to scare off a guy.

[Sis]

Or you could just tell him "no" now and get it over with.
Tell him you're an ice maiden and you're afraid that if you let him melt you that he might slip in the puddle.
"

These will only serve as a challenge to most guys. They will want to be the ONE to break through.

Tell him that you only date within your species.

An insult could make her life miserable at work. When there's someone at work that you insult, they can say and do things just under the wire to make it difficult to work with them, especially if there's a lot of contact during the day.

[RainbowJingles]

*sigh*

Back to the drawing board.



Okay...  tell him that you are busy that night.
When he says, "...but I haven't even told you which night," say, "I know, but whatever night it is, I'll be busy."  :bighceese:

[iridiscente]

well, heres what you do..

act like your interested..

Its a BIG turn off when a girl acts like shes interested..

wait..

maybe thats just..

nevermind..

forget I said that..



lol

I think it's more when you act desperate than just plain interested.

[Sis]

Some guys get off on desperate, too, though.   

[EricShane]

well, heres what you do..

act like your interested..

Its a BIG turn off when a girl acts like shes interested..

wait..

maybe thats just..

nevermind..

forget I said that..



lol

I think it's more when you act desperate than just plain interested.

yeah, your right.. Guys love it when a girl plays hard to get.. its a challenge!

[sunlight]

This is more of a Revelation from a few years back than it is a rant, But i wanted to share it because I have had to come back and reread it quite a few times to remind me of what God reminded me of.
I really love and appreciate all of my GP friends, even if i am not on here as much anymore, and do not get to talk to yall much.

Borrowed Friends.


In the bible, it tells us that we are not our own... for we are bought with a price. I belong to God. But... not only do I belong to God... so do my friends... they are people who God saw fit to bring into my life for one reason or another, for me to use... not to hide for a later date. Sooo, who am I to get angry if one of my friends decides to move... or to hang out with someone else? Who am I to be jealous? no-one. They didnt belong to me in the first place! I can not force anyone to be my friend. All I can do is pray for them and be avaliable.

now... for the rest of the story... or more of the story anyways.

I was reading in the bible where it talks about how we are not our own... when I had the above thought come to me. I was really glad it did too at the time, because I had been praying about my jealous thoughs... about how I am jealous over some stupid stuff... like who is liked the best. Who cares? Why should I be worried about that anyways? At the time... I was really glad that God had given me this thought... cause one of my friends is getting married... and she is wanting me to be the maid-of-honor, but there is this other girl who has been her 'friend' for longer... and wanted the position. I personally didnt care either way... and since the other girl was so pushy... I didnt really want to do it... and be the person with all the hate directed at me. Sooo, I was like... God, please change me if I am like her... dont let me be so jealous of who I can and can not claim to be as my friend.

I was initally glad that he gave me the insite for that situation... But now i think he knew what was going to happen and was preparing me for this as well.

Then... things change. Some of the people I had been talking to stopped calling. and you know what? I am really glad that God gave me that... because i know that it would have normally bothered me... really bad. But it dont. And to think that he let me know what i needed to do 2 days before it actually happened. I am so glad for God's timing. I dont know that i could have acted as nice to people without him. lol, let me rephrase that. I know I wouldnt have acted as nice to people if it wernt for him... I would have been having a major pity party probably, and then had an attitude.

I dont know sometimes. a lot of times actually. (sometimes its hard to explain what you are thinking becasue you dont think totally in words. I'ts also in feelings and emotions... some of which are not explainable, or describable by words... in my mind anyways. you guys might not think like i do)

~ Chel

[Sis]

We're happy that you still find time even though it's not as much as before. 

[iridiscente]

*hugs* for the best maid of honor in the world!

[mini]

*hugs* for the best old maid of honor in the world!

*sniff*  How sweet....

[RainbowJingles]

s Minni

[sunlight]

* sunlight grins

I'm gonna have old people in my wedding. :grin: