Rants/Discussions by Chel :grin:

[Sis]

yeah, I could see that.. I guess.. I dunno - I still think its one of those 'girl things' I will never understand! lol.. --- Or maybe theres just a 'creepy limit' where its different if the guy is all fly about it, compared to him knowing your not interested he stares at you continuously like he wants to taste your liver kinda thing..

EEEWWWW!  Sounds like Lecter is watching! *Shiver*

It used to be considered rude for guys to whistle and make mention of a girl's appearance in public (If he didn't know her)  They used to call these guys wolves. It makes a girl feel creepy if some complete stranger whistles or makes coments like, "Hey baby wanna go  _________!" (Whatever)

[EricShane]

yeah, I could see that.. I guess.. I dunno - I still think its one of those 'girl things' I will never understand! lol.. --- Or maybe theres just a 'creepy limit' where its different if the guy is all fly about it, compared to him knowing your not interested he stares at you continuously like he wants to taste your liver kinda thing..

EEEWWWW!  Sounds like Lecter is watching! *Shiver*

It used to be considered rude for guys to whistle and make mention of a girl's appearance in public (If he didn't know her)  They used to call these guys wolves. It makes a girl feel creepy if some complete stranger whistles or makes coments like, "Hey baby wanna go  _________!" (Whatever)

right, but the Hood has changed these days.. The sanctity of everything is different.

Chel, Darlin, if you'd just marry me and get it over with, then you'd have a plain reason you could tell all these other losers that are bothering you. 

[Sis]

right, but the Hood has changed these days.. The sanctity of everything is different.

Not in some circles. Maybe in the ghetto it's acceptable, but not in "nice" company.

[MelodyB]

*HUGS* Chel

See, you could be like me, and be so repulsive that no guy ever stalks you of makes you feel uncomfortable...well, there was Mickey. *shudder*

[Amelia Bedelia]

you're not repulsive mel!!! oh my word

I didn't understand it either in similar situations  but my mom said it was probably more the Holy Ghost and goodness shining through that made me such a novel concept to these guys and they'd get fixated... made me feel better anyway, that these losers weren't really thinking I was on a level with them relationshipwise - kind of insulting if you're trying to be a classy lady and some creep honestly approaches you... like did he really think it would be acceptable?!?!?
 
I think you're like me and too kind and caring... save that for women and children. give guys the arched brow, I see right through your lame self and am not impressed treatment. 

I told one sorry case to basically get over himself, be a man and straighten out his life, don't give me a sob story... I refuse to be a sympathetic ear to some people

Nuturing types attract all the stray dogs... but doesn't mean you have to agree to it... save your nuturing for a man that deserves it and not the dogs out there - once u get that mindset and vibe down they back off

[sunlight]

* sunlight plots and plans.

[SippinTea]

* sunlight plots and plans.

Who should be worried?

[sunlight]

someone should... thats for sure...

[SippinTea]

Okay, I need to borrow your rant thread for a minute, Chel. Do you mind? If so, just ignore my post and move on.

Why do people feel the need to give un-asked-for advice, and why do they feel compelled to studiously point out things they perceive as 'red flags' or dangers in someone else's life? If I listened every time someone said they saw a 'red flag' in my life, I couldn't do anything at all. Sometimes I just have to get alone with God for a while until I REALLY hear from Him. And I'm finding more and more that I have to tune out all the voices around me, and really, really listen for His still small voice. That's the only safe voice to listen to, anyway. Because no matter how much someone cares about me or my situation, they can't possibly know the future like He does. And I'd be a fool to listen to doomsday prophets all the time, and live in fear of everything they say will/could/might happen.

I guess I'd like to be known as someone who encouraged people and gave them hope. Not someone who constantly pointed out everything of concern and danger.

Blah.

Okay, I'm done for now. You can have back your thread.

[MelodyB]

I totally know what you mean. And I am pretty sure I know what you are referring to, at least one thing that triggered that, and I felt the same why when I saw it a few mins ago. Im with you...if it is God telling you, then it is no one elses business. Its you and God. 

[SippinTea]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure you know too.

Maybe I need to go stick my head in a lake somewhere so I won't take someone's head off. *siiiiiiiigh*

It's just plain wrong, that's all. And I'm afraid I'm human, and it made me really angry.



*mumbles: think happy thoughts, think of things you're grateful for, think of Jan 1, think of hugs, think of... something, anything, other than that*

[The Purple Fuzzy]

Okay, I need to borrow your rant thread for a minute, Chel. Do you mind? If so, just ignore my post and move on.

Why do people feel the need to give un-asked-for advice, and why do they feel compelled to studiously point out things they perceive as 'red flags' or dangers in someone else's life? If I listened every time someone said they saw a 'red flag' in my life, I couldn't do anything at all. Sometimes I just have to get alone with God for a while until I REALLY hear from Him. And I'm finding more and more that I have to tune out all the voices around me, and really, really listen for His still small voice. That's the only safe voice to listen to, anyway. Because no matter how much someone cares about me or my situation, they can't possibly know the future like He does. And I'd be a fool to listen to doomsday prophets all the time, and live in fear of everything they say will/could/might happen.

I guess I'd like to be known as someone who encouraged people and gave them hope. Not someone who constantly pointed out everything of concern and danger.

Blah.

Okay, I'm done for now. You can have back your thread.

So true.  It's not so bad when it's someone that you KNOW really cares and kinda has their own life together, but it's kinda interesting the folks that give advice sometimes.

[MelodyB]

Yes. Think of anything but that.

*HUG*

[MelodyB]

I also agree with you too, Sandra.

[SippinTea]

Exactly, Sandra. When it's family or really close friends, it's all fine. And I would hope they _would_ warn me if they saw dangers. But.... yeah, anyhow.

*Hugs* Mel.

[MelodyB]

Well just so ya know, I havent seen any dangers for you OR for the other person we are talking about...I would tell yall if I did, and I have a right...I know BOTH of yall personally and you are BOTH close enough to me that I can tell that sort of thing to, but there wasnt a need on either one of yall.

[SippinTea]

I know.

And just for the record, I wasn't upset for me. But you probably already knew that, too.

[MelodyB]

Yep I did. Naturally!

[sunlight]

While we are on the topic... why do some people you meet for the first time think that they have to 'fix' all of your percieved problems they think you have? GRR... Just because i dont wanna tell you something that you want to know does not mean that i have trust issues... and even if i do have trust issues, its not something that is going to be fixed with a perfect STRANGER telling me that "you need to work on that, its not good for you"



on the other hand...  maybe this rant thread wasnt such a good idea... lol! I seem to have more rant in me than i knew about. oops...lol

[Brother Dad]

first of all, i want to start out saying that i have a real problem apparently, and that i am having a really hard time knowing how to deal with some of the things coming to a head recently. 

The deals:
1. There is a guy who is a few years younger than me at church who is a few fries short of a happy meal who seems to have a fixation with me. It has gotten to the point that I feel very uncomfortable any time he is around, and often times i do not go with my youth group to do things if i know that he is going to be there. I NEED to find a way to get him to leave me alone... but since he is not really all there, I feel really bad just treating him bad until he goes away. I am considering going and talking to his dad, but i dont really know how to tell this guy that his son makes me uncomfortable.

2. There is this random dude at the drive through at Chicken Express who after taking and delivering my order for sweet tea- comes out and leans on my car and keeps talking to me until its past time for me to be with the group i was supposed to meet... and he ends up telling me all about how he has had a divorce, and how he wants to never get married again, and such, and then askes how i got the scar on my arm, and when i told him how he was like, well why didnt you call me (yeah, i know, i kinda had a hard time following that line of convo myself) and ends up standing there till i would put his number in my phone and call him, so he could get my number. :sigh: (which i guess isnt really that big of a deal cause i can always just ignore all of that till it stops)

3. There are another couple stories but i dont feel like sharing it at this time because i most certanly dont want to seem like i am bragging. maybe in a later post...but the main problem is that i cant seem to find a way to nicely say no and them get the point. Do most guys not understand that no is no? Is there a way to get the point across without being rude... especially to people who just dont understand why?

Start wearing Billy Bob teeth.

[MelodyB]

Ok...so I have gotten several reprimanding PMs and comments about that I am NOT repulsive...maybe that was too strong a word...BUT, I was making a point, I just dont have that problem with the guys stalking me cause I am unusually beautiful, so I was just saying that it would be kinda nice sometimes to actually be noticed like some of the prettier girls on this site. (ie, Chel, Mary, Ruby...those that have this "stalking creep" problem)

[Chseeads]

Am I being called a stalking creep? 

[MelodyB]

If the pantyhose fit....

[The Purple Fuzzy]

BOL!  Oh, my...

[Chseeads]

How'd you find out about the pantyhose?