All right, an odd one for mew to post, but here goes.
I have been fighting a small case of pneumonia, so may just not be able to remember: Can anyone cite a specific verse that tells us we singles are supposed to "wait" on some specific command fmo God at a particular point in life to get married? I cannot think of one.
I'll hold some points in reserve for the discussion/debate I feel is coming! :thumbsup2: Let's just keep it friendly! :great:
John :waving:
You pretty much have to wait till one shows up or you find one. :smirk2:
That's what I thought too!!!!!! Believe me, if I didn't have to wait for a mate to show up, and I could just go out and pick one, I wouldn't be sitting here tonight in front of this computer still single!!!!! !LOL!!!!!!!!
yeah, I'm only waiting because thats my only option right now LOL
though I guess I don't really have to wait for a mate to start a family... I could buy a house and have (or adopt) kids without one but that doesn't seem fair to the kiddos - so I'll choose to wait on a mate for that
imagine if you could just go place your order at the Mate Store... LOL "I'd like one tall and scruffy to go please"
Whew! What a topic.
At the moment I can't think of any verses telling us to wait on a specific command from God.
Stories that come to mind--
1) Isaac--his father sent a servant to pick a bride for him. That doesn't really sound like waiting to me.
2) Ruth--wasn't afraid to let Boaz know she was interested. That doesn't really sound like waiting either. ( :scared: Now there's a topic I don't want to have to think about!)
I'm thinking that if someone truly wants to get married (assuming they aren't just caving to church society because getting married is 'the thing to do'), then they should be actively watching for God to lead them to the right person. And yes, I do believe that God has one right person out there. That doesn't seem to be a populer opinion around here, but I'm sticking to it. :) At least until someone can persuade me otherwise.
I think we would have to take into account the whole of finding God's will in this though. Things like prayer(asking for His leading), finding someone who is our equal in spiritual matters (since light cannot mix with darkness), following the path that leads to peace (since turmoil is not from God), and more...
Hmmm...good topic. I'll give it another think-over, and possibly post more later.
Being a pink-winker and all, I have to do my part to side-track the topic right from the start: :P I still say that being the The Right One is more important than being consumed with finding The Right One.
:beret:
I think you've got it, Sippin. I heard a statement once that changed my outlook on relationships, "Quit looking for Mr. Right and become Ms. Right." If we could only turn the "waiting" into an action. I don't know if there is one scripture or another that points to "waiting" in the sense that you should sit and only ever react. I do think there are a lot of verses on "whatever your hand finds to do." So, becoming a "lady in waiting" instead of a "lady waiting." By being a lady in waiting, we can follow Ruth's lead by keeping our hands busy, serving others, obeying authority, making a living...etc. (The same with Rebecca, Esther) Another way to look at "waiting" is through the Gomer/Hosea story (a personal fav of mine that will have to wait for another time...)
That's my two cents!!!
You want to go be a hooker and wait for your husband to come and buy you? :smirk2:
:hypocrite:
Quote from: Chseeads on February 19, 2007, 02:27:53 PM
You want to go be a hooker and wait for your husband to come and buy you? :smirk2:
:hypocrite:
:roll: Oh Puh-lease. :biglaugh:
You're the one that said another way to look at waiting is through Hosea/Gomer.
Terp: Ignore cheezepuff there; the rest of us do.
As for ''waiting for a mate"
I don't know who coined that phrase or where that thought process came from, but I have heard it for years: it is not biblical.
When I met my wife, I was not looking for a wife and I was not planning to meet anyone. In fact, I met three girls that week, my wife was girl #2. I don't know what happened but something just *clicked*. An Angel did not appear, skywriting in the sky did not appear and a voice of prophecy did not come forth saying "THUS SAYETH THE LORD OF HOSTS......"
We just met, spent some time together and the rest is history.
The only advice I can give is to be open and friendly. Don't rule anyone out based on your initial impression and do not let pop society control your views. The most important thing to any relationship is to spend time with someone that you get along with. My wife's aunt always says that you have to be friends first.
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on February 19, 2007, 05:14:29 AM
yeah, I'm only waiting because thats my only option right now LOL
though I guess I don't really have to wait for a mate to start a family... I could buy a house and have (or adopt) kids without one but that doesn't seem fair to the kiddos - so I'll choose to wait on a mate for that
imagine if you could just go place your order at the Mate Store... LOL "I'd like one tall and scruffy to go please"
:hypocrite:
Scott, that's exactly what I was trying to say (thanks for the clarification ;) ). Quit looking...be yourself and live your life. Period.
THREAD LOCKED.
just kidding.hahaha. always wanted to do that.
oh my word . . .this is out of control and hasn't even started.
trav - you forgot the police car.
okay. back to working and making a living all my own lonesome self . . which is NOT a bad option for life. :cool:
I was about to delete your post, TRAV, then saw your small-script note at the bottom..then I got a laugh.
John :waving:
it cracked me up too ;) I was like... what's going on here!?!?!?
I often quote the Proverb: He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing.
It doesn't seem to address the woman finding a husband that I know of.
In our 90 day Bible challenge, I saw three instances within days of each other in my Scripture reading where the ladies were found at the well going about their daily business of life, and ended up with marriage proposals.
-Rebekkah
-Rachel
-Zipporah
(any ladies want to help me build a well?) ;-)
As to Ruth's story, I'm still not sure what that one was all about, but I'd love to know. I know there were some redemption things going on, but she still put herself on the line in that situation. She obviously let him know she was interested. Was she setting herself up for rejection? There are times where I want to just put my cards on the table, but if the man is to be the head of the household and the leader in life, why should the lady start on the wrong foot, so to speak, by taking initiative and making the first move?
???
Ruth was following her mother in law's instructions!
Nai
guys can be dense chickens... I figure sometimes you gotta make the first move so then he can make all the rest :smirk2:
and hey, didn't you read the fishing thread? http://godplace.com/forum/index.php?topic=24296.0
Quote"Now the world is upside down," complained 90-year-old Cesar Okrane, his eyes obscured by a cloud of cataracts. "Men are running after women, instead of waiting for them to come to them."
For a man to go so far as to openly propose marriage is dangerous, say traditionalists on this island of 2,000 people.
"The choice of a woman is much more stable," explains Okrane. "Rarely were there divorces before. Now, with men choosing, divorce has become common."
See? We're smarter at picking and make better choices :grin:
They can lead the family and household... after we set up who is in the household LOL
and Trav..... you're a nut
:biglaugh:
;)
well, a girl doesn't have to make a blatent first move. It could be at church or a fellowship meeting...where a group is going to braums, or pizza place , etc... and she just asks the guy are you going to join us? You know a few times of that or something similar...he might get the hint to at least consider it...
Quote from: nwlife on February 19, 2007, 11:11:15 PM
well, a girl doesn't have to make a blatent first move. It could be at church or a fellowship meeting...where a group is going to braums, or pizza place , etc... and she just asks the guy are you going to join us? You know a few times of that or something similar...he might get the hint to at least consider it...
In my experience, most guys don't get hints.
:roll:
And yes, AB, I did see that thread. lol
And Nai: I don't have a mother-in-law to tell me what to do! :o
Somehow, that suggestion just defies logic. lol
Listen to your mother-IN-LAW and she'll tell you how to find a husband... :frustrated:
Quote from: nwlife on February 19, 2007, 11:11:15 PM
well, a girl doesn't have to make a blatent first move. It could be at church or a fellowship meeting...where a group is going to braums, or pizza place , etc... and she just asks the guy are you going to join us? You know a few times of that or something similar...he might get the hint to at least consider it...
see what happens there is the girl makes all the first moves, being extra friendly to him, encouraging him that there is interest, inviting him to stuff, making it easy for him... she's working hard! and then if he ever reciprocates he'll think he came up with the idea and that he made the first move and take the credit for it! (not that it matters, as long as she finally snags him)
I think girls make the first moves all the time, just the guys don't realize what is being done :smirk2:
And then some of us are really blatant, aggressive and straightforward and then we scare guys...
oh well if I'm gonna scare him I'd rather find that out at the beginning :-\
can't be a chicken and be with me :teeth:
Quote from: TRAV on February 19, 2007, 07:47:50 PM
THREAD LOCKED.
just kidding.hahaha. always wanted to do that.
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No kidding, we all want to do that..... :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
why don't you just be yourself? if you're shy, be shy and allow God to set someone in your path? don't you think He can? if you're outgoing, be friendly. don't you think God can help you keep from making the wrong impressions?
why not . . just live your life and be yourself and be happy at each leg of the journey?
the scripture in Isaiah that says, "they that WAIT upon the Lord shall renew their strength"? that WAIT means to get tangled up in, involved with, actively doing something . . .so what if while you WAIT upon your spouse you are tangled up in life, involved with life, actively living?
i think you would be surprised at what you'd find.
but that's only my opinion, for what it's worth.
Be friendly develop male and female friends. Get active in your church, in your section, in your district. Volunteer at camps and retreats. Go to youth and singles functions.
And for crying out loud: DO NOT ACT Desperate!!!!
I knew a guy that was so desperate that when he walked in the door, the girls ran and grabbed a guy. He would never bother a girl that had a boyfriend and when that got around, all girls suddenly had a boyfriend.
:laughhard:
He would visit all the area churches on youth night and scope out the chicks. On night he walked up to me and asked me what my secret was? I was ????
He wanted to know how I could have six girlfriends in the same church. I was :o then :freaky2:
"Well, it a'int easy".
He shook his head and walked off.
Later six girls apologized for putting me in that position, they had forgotten to compare notes. From that point on, they compared notes and spread the love around. :laughhard: :laughhard:
This guy wanted a woman so bad that he made himself look foolish. He'd crash parties just to scope out girls. I do not know if he ever got married or not, but he was at one point 22 and dating a 14 year old.
Folks, be natural, be real and don't act like every single guy or gal (whatever applies to you) is a potential mate. Chill and make friends.
:yikes:
Quote from: Scott on February 20, 2007, 01:15:04 AM
He wanted to know how I could have six girlfriends in the same church. I was :o then :freaky2:
"Well, it a'int easy".
He shook his head and walked off.
:laughhard: :rotfl:
poor guy
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on February 19, 2007, 11:49:24 PM
Quote from: nwlife on February 19, 2007, 11:11:15 PM
well, a girl doesn't have to make a blatent first move. It could be at church or a fellowship meeting...where a group is going to braums, or pizza place , etc... and she just asks the guy are you going to join us? You know a few times of that or something similar...he might get the hint to at least consider it...
see what happens there is the girl makes all the first moves, being extra friendly to him, encouraging him that there is interest, inviting him to stuff, making it easy for him... she's working hard! and then if he ever reciprocates he'll think he came up with the idea and that he made the first move and take the credit for it! (not that it matters, as long as she finally snags him)
I think girls make the first moves all the time, just the guys don't realize what is being done :smirk2:
And then some of us are really blatant, aggressive and straightforward and then we scare guys...
oh well if I'm gonna scare him I'd rather find that out at the beginning :-\
can't be a chicken and be with me :teeth:
lot of the time guys wont take a 'hint' because 90% of the time the girl is just being nice and didnt have any attractions towards the guy. so instead of getting pulled aside and being let known that she is only interested in being friends, its just easier to completely disregard the notion that she's interested and move on. the pastor's wife just needs to get a questionaire filled out to see who they are interested in. when both people like each other, then the pastors wife can introduce the 2 under the premise of possibly dating. if no match, then no harm to either person. and all questionaires are to be strictly confidential to the pastor and his wife...ok, maybe ive gone too far with that idea lol
wasn't there a website like that?
I remember when I was about 14 there was a site my friends used where you put in your crush's e-mail and then it e-mails the crush and askes them to input the names of people they like and if there is a match it lets both parties know
LOL I didn't have any crushes and was too leery to try it anyway but I remember people using it LOL
The following deals with widows, but I see no separate and different commandment for first marriages.
(KJV)
1 Corinthians 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Okay... I'm not making light of the Scripture here... I'm just excited. :clap:
I can marry WHOEVER I WANT TO MARRY!!!!!!!!!!
:clap:
Reminds me of a story I once heard.
________________________________________
A pastor was taking up an offering one Sunday morning, and he promised the congregation that whoever gave the largest amount would be allowed to select three hymns.
Much to the surprise of everyone in the church, a little old lady gave a huge offering that topped every other offering in the collection plate.
True to his word, the pastor picked up the hymnal with a smile and asked the lady,
"So which hymns would you like this morning?"
Without missing a beat, the lady stood and pointed to two bachelors and a widower sitting on the front row.
"I'll take him, him, and him!"
_____________________________________
*Looking around*
Rainbow starts looking around....hmmm...
I see London, I see Canada,
I see newsman sneaking off to south America :laughhard:
:laughhard:
:beret:
Waiting for a mate is a good thing.
Quote from: nwlife on February 20, 2007, 08:05:37 AM
Rainbow starts looking around....hmmm...
I see London, I see Canada,
I see newsman sneaking off to south America :laughhard:
He's not the only one close to my age in here, mister.
Perhaps YOU should head to South America WITH Sir John.
:freaky2:
Besides, maybe I'll just pick 3 "hims." Scott once had 6 girlfriends at a time, according to one post he shared recently. :biglaugh:
Ya know... My dad had five girlfriends once -- but it was an unusual situation -- they all knew about each other and each were just wanting a nice guy to go out with once a week.
This is in stark contrast to my Uncle Joe who once got himself engaged to THREE girls at once right before he went off to Vietnam and gave them all IDENTICAL RINGS.
Franklin is NOT that big a town and these girls met up before he came back.
Seems Uncle Joe spent a few hours under a car when he got home from his first tour. Something about those girls waiting in the living room for three hours or so before they left.
Uncle Joe who is a smart guy believe it or not (now has a doctorate in theology) decided the next day to sign up for another tour of Vietnam -- decided the cong was preferable to those girls!
Nai
lol *paging Scott*
Come in and defend yourself here, man! :-)
*trying to remember where that thread was*
It was the one with Brandon's Pokemon story in it...
Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 21, 2007, 02:25:00 AM
lol *paging Scott*
Come in and defend yourself here, man! :-)
*trying to remember where that thread was*
It was the one with Brandon's Pokemon story in it...
Elona? What do you want?
No elona, it wasn't 6 real GF's, just some poor planning on their parts. The most I ever had at once was 3, and in 3 different churches. (they did not know each other)
Quote from: Scott on February 20, 2007, 01:15:04 AM
I knew a guy that was so desperate that when he walked in the door, the girls ran and grabbed a guy. He would never bother a girl that had a boyfriend and when that got around, all girls suddenly had a boyfriend.
:laughhard:
He would visit all the area churches on youth night and scope out the chicks. On night he walked up to me and asked me what my secret was? I was ????
He wanted to know how I could have six girlfriends in the same church. I was :o then :freaky2:
"Well, it a'int easy".
HERE it is! lol I thought it was in another thread, and there it was right before my very eyes.
ME- :pound: \ME
:roll:
ANYWAY... it is upon the basis of that thread that I choose to pick 3 hims. lol
Sorry to disturb you, Scott. Go back to protecting Mayberry from that fierce deputy of yours.
:thumbsup2:
Okay, I know this thread already kind of died...but I think of it every time I hear Lemonade by Chris Rice. :)
:sing: So go ahead and ask her
For happy ever after
'Cause nobody knows what's coming
So why not take a chance on loving.... :sing:
:beret:
Waiting for a mate
Basket full of clean laundry
Singles become pairs
Trying to give a hint to someone, Lady SippinTea?
:laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
If I weren't an "ain't skeered," kind of guy, I would probably go hide now..but, intead...
:laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
:goodmod: John :goodmod:
oh, and :waving:
Quote from: SippinTea on March 09, 2007, 05:37:50 PM
Okay, I know this thread already kind of died...but I think of it every time I hear Lemonade by Chris Rice. :)
:sing: So go ahead and ask her
For happy ever after
'Cause nobody knows what's coming
So why not take a chance on loving.... :sing:
:beret:
No, no...no hints being given. I just thought it was funny that it matched your thread so well, that's all. But good try! :biglaugh:
Besides, I thought posting it here might help motivate you to ask out Miss Raven Hair, whomever she may be.... :P
:beret:
:hypocrite:
John :waving:
Oh great should I be worried or something? :o :biglaugh:
I don't know: are you looking at the second post on this page?
:laughhard: :goodmod:
John :waving:
Quote from: Newsman on March 10, 2007, 08:04:02 AM
I don't know: are you looking at the second post on this page?
:laughhard: :goodmod:
John :waving:
Possibly, so who is sis. Penelope? :freaky2:
Better not be my Penelope... :-?
That all depends on who your Penelope is
claims on Penelope... Angelina...
come on Trav you can't have them all... leave some for the other guys
Or,
was :laughhard:
John :waving:
Quote from: InChristGirl on March 11, 2007, 12:29:03 AM
That all depends on who your Penelope is
:o You've done her in already?? :o
Poor Penelope. :biglaugh:
:beret:
Or, was TRAV's Penelope!
John :waving:
Ah. Now it makes sense to my tired brain! :teeth:
Hold it just a minute! Newsman stole Trav's lady?!?! What is this world coming to? :chatter2: :chatter:
:beret:
Quote from: SippinTea on March 11, 2007, 05:06:41 AM
Ah. Now it makes sense to my tired brain! :teeth:
Hold it just a minute! Newsman stole Trav's lady?!?! What is this world coming to? :chatter2: :chatter:
:beret:
a perfectly cold and abusive end.
:P
wow, i guess i have been gone awhile. this thread has gotten rather . . . interesting. hhmm.
:laughhard:
"...stold his girlfriend..." "...stold her boyfriend..." That's kind of a weird way of describing it, isn't it? Wouldn't "...he/ she met someone they liked better..." be a more accurate description?
hey considering you can successfully sue the other woman/man when a marriage gets broken up I think calling it stealing fits
Yes, but we're talking about boyfriend/ girlfriend, not husband/ wife. However I've long suspected the whole boyfriend/ girlfriend mindset is just preperation for a life of divorce and remarriage. It allows people to get comfortable with breaking commitments without consequence.
how long has this topic been here and I didn't see it :o
I don't believe in this idea of God has 1 perfect person for you. I do however believe in choosing a mate thats of the same faith which often means having to wait for a mate or even turn down offers outside the faith.
In my case I could be dating right now but becuase I don't want to be unequally yoked in a relationship I've chosen to turn down or break off potential relationships. The baptist young man that I just recently turned down for dating, I was up front him that I don't date at this point in time because of some spiritual searching in my own life. He respects me on that and him and I still talk.
QuoteI don't know who coined that phrase or where that thought process came from
Probably from someone who was waiting. :couch:
Quote from: Scott on February 20, 2007, 01:15:04 AM
Be friendly develop male and female friends. Get active in your church, in your section, in your district. Volunteer at camps and retreats. Go to youth and singles functions.
And for crying out loud: DO NOT ACT Desperate!!!!
I knew a guy that was so desperate that when he walked in the door, the girls ran and grabbed a guy. He would never bother a girl that had a boyfriend and when that got around, all girls suddenly had a boyfriend.
:laughhard:
He would visit all the area churches on youth night and scope out the chicks. On night he walked up to me and asked me what my secret was? I was ????
He wanted to know how I could have six girlfriends in the same church. I was :o then :freaky2:
"Well, it a'int easy".
He shook his head and walked off.
Later six girls apologized for putting me in that position, they had forgotten to compare notes. From that point on, they compared notes and spread the love around. :laughhard: :laughhard:
This guy wanted a woman so bad that he made himself look foolish. He'd crash parties just to scope out girls. I do not know if he ever got married or not, but he was at one point 22 and dating a 14 year old.
Folks, be natural, be real and don't act like every single guy or gal (whatever applies to you) is a potential mate. Chill and make friends.
I laughed till tears were coming out of my eyes at this! :laughhard:
ROFL! I'd forgotten about that post!
My sympathies for the gals. Been there, done that, grabbed a guy, pretended I was madly in love. :laughhard: It worked. And the guy I grabbed seemed highly amused. :D
:beret:
Quote from: practicalme on May 24, 2008, 07:32:15 PM
Quote from: Scott on February 20, 2007, 01:15:04 AM
Be friendly develop male and female friends. Get active in your church, in your section, in your district. Volunteer at camps and retreats. Go to youth and singles functions.
And for crying out loud: DO NOT ACT Desperate!!!!
I knew a guy that was so desperate that when he walked in the door, the girls ran and grabbed a guy. He would never bother a girl that had a boyfriend and when that got around, all girls suddenly had a boyfriend.
:laughhard:
He would visit all the area churches on youth night and scope out the chicks. On night he walked up to me and asked me what my secret was? I was ????
He wanted to know how I could have six girlfriends in the same church. I was :o then :freaky2:
"Well, it a'int easy".
He shook his head and walked off.
Later six girls apologized for putting me in that position, they had forgotten to compare notes. From that point on, they compared notes and spread the love around. :laughhard: :laughhard:
This guy wanted a woman so bad that he made himself look foolish. He'd crash parties just to scope out girls. I do not know if he ever got married or not, but he was at one point 22 and dating a 14 year old.
Folks, be natural, be real and don't act like every single guy or gal (whatever applies to you) is a potential mate. Chill and make friends.
I laughed till tears were coming out of my eyes at this! :laughhard:
:grin: she really did... i went in there to check on her and started laughing myself! hehe!
Hmmm I however do believe that God has someone for everyone, unless He means for them to remain single.
Why wait? 'Cause it aint obvious who it's gonna be, and you gotta be in God's will, IMHO