When a guy has a crush on you....

[The Purple Fuzzy]

Chel, at least your admirer has his teeth.

[MelodyB]

*debates if I should post the pic of the baby buggy skit*

[RainbowJingles]

Yup.  I can relate to that. Mel.  lol  Been there; done that.  Put up the facade; got the boyfriend; was myself; clung; wept; lost him.  *shrug*

The good news is that now he knows who I really am (clingy, emotional, outrageously strange with lots of baggage); we're great friends, and I've begun to realize that I don't NEED  him, and... 



I dunno the rest of the story yet.  Sorry.

[Sis]

A situation like that can become dangerous. Be careful, and try to get it stopped as soon as possible. Would your dad talk to him man to man?

No, I dont think he needs a "Man to man" talk. LOL

Then what you complaining about?  You don't think your dad should have a man to man talk about stalking a woman who is much older than you and he needs to stop? That he needs to find someone his own age?  His dad isn't around to do it.

[MelodyB]

He is far from stalking me.

He is harmless, I dont want Dad to hurt his feelings when he isnt doing anything bad. It just makes ME uncomfortable, and I dont want to tell him off and scar him from talking to girls for life. He is sensitive. If I felt there was any bad things that could come of it, I wouldnt hesitate to tell my Daddy and let him take care of it. But it isnt like that.

All I want to know is how to let him down easy without killin the poor guy.  

[Sis]

Hence the man to man talk with him. Your dad can probably do it without hurting his feelings. I wasn't suggesting your dad  beat him up, but sometimes guys just understand better when a guy tells them things like that.

[CDAGeek]

Honestly, there's no way to let a guy down easy and make sure he gets the message. They're pretty much mutually exclusive.

Don't worry about scarring him, just be brutally honest. Don't sugar coat it, or someone clingy like that will likely assume you're just being hard to get, or that if he tries a little bit harder he can persuade you. He'll survive the truth. He might go emo for a while, but then he'll get over it and move on. As opposed to going emo for a while, and then trying again with you.

Also, he'll probably take it harder if someone else talks to him rather than yourself. That tends to suggest you're scared of or completely repulsed by him.


Just my two cents.

[BeccaBoo]

I hereby change Brecxies name to Kung Fu Brecxie, keeper of GP security, sanity, and they key to Seths padded room.

I will wear it proud...

[SippinTea]

Don't worry about scarring him, just be brutally honest. Don't sugar coat it, or someone clingy like that will likely assume you're just being hard to get, or that if he tries a little bit harder he can persuade you. He'll survive the truth. He might go emo for a while, but then he'll get over it and move on. As opposed to going emo for a while, and then trying again with you.

Just my two cents.

It made me laugh, but I think you're right on.

[Backseat Radio]

Kinda makes me feel like I am not good enough or something.

Your definatley good enough

[RainbowJingles]

Yeah.  What she said!

[MelodyB]

Glad to know that yall think so...but unfortunately, you are female, and yall thinking that way does me no good.

[SippinTea]

We could start a poll if you like.... *grin*

[RainbowJingles]

Nope.  It doesn't do you any good at all.  Just like YOUR line of thinking did ME no good when *I* used it myself at your age.  It just drug me into thinking that there was no one that could ever really love me, and that God had just kind of put me out there alone.  As my pastor would say, though...  That's HOGWASH!

**HUGS** MelMel

Glad to know that yall think so...but unfortunately, you are female, and yall thinking that way does me no good.

[sunlight]

:halo:

[Backseat Radio]

And not to make fun of him in any way, but the first time I have a problem like this, and it comes from someone who is like him and crushes on everyone.

*sigh*

Kinda makes me feel like I am not good enough or something.

I've had similar problems....

one guy that took interest in me was old enough to have been my grandad. I went out to eat with him one time and it became very clear very quickly that he was looking for a young women to provide relations and housekeeping. Even after I turned him down, when I would be at a service and he was there, he would attempt to be as close to me as possible.  My dad put a stop to it by speaking to the pastor of that church about what that man was doing.

[MelodyB]

This is the picture that started it all.





This was the Baby skit. It was SOOOO funny.




Like I said, he is a very sweet guy...but Im not sure how to NOT hurt his feelings.

[sunlight]

why have someone be a distraction from you of course! BOL!

[MelodyB]

Are you volenteering?

[sunlight]

sure! dont give him my number, or any contact information...  and i can stand to be nice for one service... BOL!

[MelodyB]

LOL!!

Ill just hook him on on GP...

[CDAGeek]

LOL!!

Ill just hook him on on GP...

You could always just send him a link to this thread 

[sunlight]

ohh noo! i have finally found a person X!




remember that? hehe!

[MelodyB]

Yeah I do! LOL I was gonna say that earlier, but I got sidetracked by a Yellow Brick road.

[RainbowJingles]

lol  Careful, Mel.  We don't need a person X invading your yellow brick road!