Rants/Discussions by Chel :grin:

[sunlight]

first of all, i want to start out saying that i have a real problem apparently, and that i am having a really hard time knowing how to deal with some of the things coming to a head recently. 

The deals:
1. There is a guy who is a few years younger than me at church who is a few fries short of a happy meal who seems to have a fixation with me. It has gotten to the point that I feel very uncomfortable any time he is around, and often times i do not go with my youth group to do things if i know that he is going to be there. I NEED to find a way to get him to leave me alone... but since he is not really all there, I feel really bad just treating him bad until he goes away. I am considering going and talking to his dad, but i dont really know how to tell this guy that his son makes me uncomfortable.

2. There is this random dude at the drive through at Chicken Express who after taking and delivering my order for sweet tea- comes out and leans on my car and keeps talking to me until its past time for me to be with the group i was supposed to meet... and he ends up telling me all about how he has had a divorce, and how he wants to never get married again, and such, and then askes how i got the scar on my arm, and when i told him how he was like, well why didnt you call me (yeah, i know, i kinda had a hard time following that line of convo myself) and ends up standing there till i would put his number in my phone and call him, so he could get my number. :sigh: (which i guess isnt really that big of a deal cause i can always just ignore all of that till it stops)

3. There are another couple stories but i dont feel like sharing it at this time because i most certanly dont want to seem like i am bragging. maybe in a later post...but the main problem is that i cant seem to find a way to nicely say no and them get the point. Do most guys not understand that no is no? Is there a way to get the point across without being rude... especially to people who just dont understand why?

[sunlight]

Another thing i dont get...

Why do some people judge you on what you drive? I have gotten a different car recenly, and its amazing how people treat you differently depending on what you drive. Ya know... i kinda like driving my old beat up car around just because its like i dont know... a [hahaha... im not who you think i am] type mentality... hehe!

[The Purple Fuzzy]

Tell them you're gonna sick your mama on them!

[SippinTea]

I have no idea, Chel. Most of the guys I've said 'no' to seemed to think I was issuing a challenge.

[sunlight]

And yet another thing i dont get... (this is an old rant... BOL) why do people have to know what you look like before they decide if you are worth talking to or not? grrrr, this one is more of a chat manifestation, but yeah. it grates on my nerves. Its not all about looks people! what about personality? what about character? what about dreams, and aspirations! and initiative, and stuff that's going to last!

[The Purple Fuzzy]

Hey, I have a big stick and if that don't work your daddy has something more powerful. But I seriously doubt many guys could make it past a mad mama bear with a stick.

[SippinTea]

*laugh* at Sandra. I'm right behind ya with my Daddy's gun.

*pats down Chel's ruffled feathers*

[sunlight]

:grin: and while im in the ranting mode... lol... whats up with it being so easy to be negative? why is it so much easier to knock somebody down in the ground and then trample them, and then dig a hole and bury them than to know that they are down and in need of encouragement? Why? why? why?
God is love, and we are supposed to be like him, and yet its so hard for us to talk nice? grr...

[The Purple Fuzzy]

And yet another thing i dont get... (this is an old rant... BOL) why do people have to know what you look like before they decide if you are worth talking to or not? grrrr, this one is more of a chat manifestation, but yeah. it grates on my nerves. Its not all about looks people! what about personality? what about character? what about dreams, and aspirations! and initiative, and stuff that's going to last!

The only thing I can say here, is that I can tell alot about a person when I look in their face and see their expressions...

[SippinTea]

Girlie! You're on a roll tonight!

*hands Chel some chocolate and a good book to get her mind off of rants*

[Newsman]

Is this the point where I tell you that's it all your own fault for drawing so much attention from men, because you're such a Wonderful and Lovely Lady?

Did I at least get a smile out of that?

Back MANY years ago, I used to ride around with one of my older sisters..she was quite attractive, and the guys noticed.. I remember while one would be talking to her, taking a 12 oz can and turning it into nearly three feet of stringy metal, with my bare hands, then asking what she wanted me to do with it..want me to practice up, and come down and ride around with you?


John 

[sunlight]

and you know another thing?
Whats the deal of not just letting people be wrong? sometimes its ok to have a different opinion. Just because i think something is pink when its actually maroon... who cares? why argue?

[SippinTea]

Because you're fun to argue with!

And just for the record, the guys in the hallway of the motel did NOT say that!

CHEL! Go to bed! *glare*

[sunlight]

and another thing... you know, attitude really does have a lot to do with how you go through life. There is a choice to like, or to hate something. I choose to like my job. Its hard, its challenging, and it makes me cry at times... but that doesnt mean that its bad. but the deal is this... if i choose to be happy and like my job, dont be mad at me for it. :grin:


Ya know, someone has told me a million times that if you dont like it, its ok, you dont have to, just do it and get it over with and it will make you stronger from the experience. totally random post i know... but the point of this rant is this... Everyone has things that they dont like to do that have to be done. Everyone has hurts and pains. everyone has things they have to get over in life. Treat them like they are human.

[sunlight]

Because you're fun to argue with!

And just for the record, the guys in the hallway of the motel did NOT say that!

CHEL! Go to bed! *glare*

are you sure you wanna open that can of worms? i would be glad to spill that whole story and get others input as well, but you know they will agree with me... so are you sure you wanna do that?

[SippinTea]

Ummm.... ... Maybe I don't.

[sunlight]

yeah...

[EricShane]

I dont get it.. guys think your beautiful, and hit on you and you have a problem with that!? lol.. I dont understand girls.

[Sis]

Well, with #1, talk to the pastor. Maybe he will talk to the guy or his parents. Just because he has mental problems, doesn't mean he won't understand the pastor if he asks him to stop bothering you.

I remember in MSN messenger, that guys wanted to know statistics before they'd talk to me. So I'd tell them I was 105. If those empty-headed morons are only looking for a pick-up, they would leave suddenly. The others thought it was interesting to talk to an older person.

You gonna tell Ruby's secrets?  I'm ready!

Eric, girls don't like to be "hit on". That implies they just want sex and nothing more. Girls want to be treated with respect. Plus, some of these guys are really pushy. Won't take no for an answer. May even follow her around until she feels like she's being stalked. Not fun, believe me.

[sunlight]

na. I wont tell her secrets, and she knows that, but it sure is fun to pick on her, esp when i am making a point.

[BeccaBoo]

I like this thread! Rant on Chel rant on!

[EricShane]

Well, with #1, talk to the pastor. Maybe he will talk to the guy or his parents. Just because he has mental problems, doesn't mean he won't understand the pastor if he asks him to stop bothering you.

I remember in MSN messenger, that guys wanted to know statistics before they'd talk to me. So I'd tell them I was 105. If those empty-headed morons are only looking for a pick-up, they would leave suddenly. The others thought it was interesting to talk to an older person.

You gonna tell Ruby's secrets?  I'm ready!

Eric, girls don't like to be "hit on". That implies they just want sex and nothing more. Girls want to be treated with respect. Plus, some of these guys are really pushy. Won't take no for an answer. May even follow her around until she feels like she's being stalked. Not fun, believe me.

yeah, I could see that.. I guess.. I dunno - I still think its one of those 'girl things' I will never understand! lol.. --- Or maybe theres just a 'creepy limit' where its different if the guy is all fly about it, compared to him knowing your not interested he stares at you continuously like he wants to taste your liver kinda thing..

[sunlight]

Well, with #1, talk to the pastor. Maybe he will talk to the guy or his parents. Just because he has mental problems, doesn't mean he won't understand the pastor if he asks him to stop bothering you.

I remember in MSN messenger, that guys wanted to know statistics before they'd talk to me. So I'd tell them I was 105. If those empty-headed morons are only looking for a pick-up, they would leave suddenly. The others thought it was interesting to talk to an older person.

You gonna tell Ruby's secrets?  I'm ready!

Eric, girls don't like to be "hit on". That implies they just want sex and nothing more. Girls want to be treated with respect. Plus, some of these guys are really pushy. Won't take no for an answer. May even follow her around until she feels like she's being stalked. Not fun, believe me.

yeah, I could see that.. I guess.. I dunno - I still think its one of those 'girl things' I will never understand! lol.. --- Or maybe theres just a 'creepy limit' where its different if the guy is all fly about it, compared to him knowing your not interested he stares at you continuously like he wants to taste your liver kinda thing..

right. exactly.

[SippinTea]

Right. Exactly. Times 2.

I.E. the guy that comes to my church every Christmas. *shudder*

Eric, the only way I know how to explain the difference between creepy staring and a guy that's showing genuine interest is: one of them makes you feel leered at and stalked and, in a sense, violated... the other leaves you feeling that while they may fully appreciate what they see, you're valued for more than just one thing.

[Chseeads]

Chel, Darlin, if you'd just marry me and get it over with, then you'd have a plain reason you could tell all these other losers that are bothering you.