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Should a guy actually ask a girl to date him?

Started by sunlight, August 30, 2008, 12:02:37 AM

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I ran into this issue a few times lately from a few friends of mine...  What do you think?

yes, how else will she know that is what he has in mind without assuming things?
no, she should be able to tell by the way he acts
It dosent matter either way, it's not important to me
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upcchris

#25
September 18, 2008, 10:50:04 AM
*Sigh* maybe I'm just being naive and idealistic in a real world scenario...for some reason this thread is depressing me.

Hearing you all talk about dating in this way makes me wonder if I ever will date or if I'll stay single for the rest of my life out of preference and/or because it's easier and less painful re: childbearing etc. Maybe I'm in the wrong frame of mind at the moment.

To me, dating definitely doesn't equal that, marriage does...and marriage equals quite a few other things as well. To me the whole point of dating is finding a compatible life partner and...okay...maybe exculsivity is unrealistic in that sense.

Not to mention that the idea of a relationship on that level terrifies me (probably the fear is unfounded)
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

apsurf

#26
September 18, 2008, 10:51:27 AM
Quote from: upcchris on September 18, 2008, 10:50:04 AM
*Sigh* maybe I'm just being naive and idealistic in a real world scenario...for some reason this thread is depressing me.

Hearing you all talk about dating in this way makes me wonder if I ever will date or if I'll stay single for the rest of my life out of preference and/or because it's easier and less painful re: childbearing etc. Maybe I'm in the wrong frame of mind at the moment.

To me, dating definitely doesn't equal that, marriage does...and marriage equals quite a few other things as well. To me the whole point of dating is finding a compatible life partner and...okay...maybe exculsivity is unrealistic in that sense.

Not to mention that the idea of a relationship on that level terrifies me (probably the fear is unfounded)


In that case, have you ever considered being a mail ordered bride?  You wouldn't ever have to worry then about the fear of dating!

upcchris

#27
September 18, 2008, 10:54:12 AM
 :o :lol: Say what?
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

apsurf

#28
September 18, 2008, 11:03:53 AM
*nwlife wonders which is cheaper to send a lady  from Australia to the US ---- US postal service or FedEx?*

:biglaugh: :biglaugh:

Sis

#29
September 18, 2008, 04:28:31 PM
Chris, fear of the unknown is natural. When God puts someone in your path, you will be compatable and you will love him and depend on him but it's God's timing. So, in the meantime, just keep on keepin' on.

upcchris

#30
September 19, 2008, 02:40:22 AM
 :lol: Far too many thing can go wrong in the mail order bride scenario, so I'm not going to consider it.

Thanks Sis
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

RainbowJingles

#31
October 22, 2008, 09:39:15 PM
:o  Did Brandon just propose to you, Chris?!?!?  :o

upcchris

#32
October 23, 2008, 03:40:14 AM
I dunno, I wouldn't know a proposal if someone hit me over the head with it. :lol:
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

Newsman

#33
October 23, 2008, 06:34:10 AM
Hmmm...


John  :waving:

Chinadoll

#34
October 23, 2008, 06:47:33 AM
Oh boy.

I think someone is about to be investigated.

My opinion for what it is worth. 

Chris made some valid points and some very good ones.

My pastor is very much anti "dating" as the world sees it.    We don't encourage it in the high school or with the youth.

Now people do fall in love, etc....    Our youth leaders got married last year with the first kiss at the altar -- plenty of chemistry there believe me (there's a whole story there).

I do want to know what a guy's intentions are  -- clear and laid out and where things are going.    That way I know which way things are going.

And yes, I want HIM to lead the relationship not me.

Nai

upcchris

#35
October 23, 2008, 11:15:41 AM
Quote from: Chinadoll on October 23, 2008, 06:47:33 AM
I do want to know what a guy's intentions are  -- clear and laid out and where things are going.    That way I know which way things are going.

And yes, I want HIM to lead the relationship not me.

Nai


Amen! :great:


Quote from: Newsman on October 23, 2008, 06:34:10 AM
Hmmm...


John  :waving:


:couch:
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

World Traveler

#36
October 23, 2008, 11:48:27 AM
Quote from: sunlight on August 30, 2008, 12:02:37 AM
I will come back and fill in the details when i have time... and i will give my opinion on it at that time too... I just wanted to go ahead and start the poll and see what you people think...


Hmmm... I note that she never came back in and filled in the details. It has been nearly two months!

As for me, I don't even think much about marriage anymore. My future dreams seem to focus on preparing for my second retirement and spending my waning years sitting on the swing on the front porch drinking fruit juices and shaking a cane at those young whipper-snappers! Ha ha.
There is no statute of limitations on murder or bad first impressions.

I am enjoying my second childhood.
It is a lot of fun.
I have money this time!!

Marry, divorce, marry someone new, divorce, marry again, divorce, marry again... Polygamy on the installment plan.

apsurf

#37
October 23, 2008, 01:32:39 PM
*nwlife proposes that upcchris should answer the following question...."What should I eat for breakfast?"*

RainbowJingles

#38
October 23, 2008, 10:07:11 PM
:o  He DID propose, Chris!!!!  :o

SippinTea

#39
October 24, 2008, 12:10:07 AM
:chatter: Spread the news! :chatter:

:beret:
"Going somewhere means leaving somewhere. Choosing something means choosing against other things. Gaining something means losing something else. And between the old and new--the 'was' and the 'not yet'--there exists only one thing: a very frightening journey called faith."
--taken from the book Coming Up For Air

Newsman

#40
October 24, 2008, 01:51:51 AM
Oo la lah!  :thumbsup2:


John  :waving:

upcchris

#41
October 24, 2008, 03:35:34 AM
Quote from: nwlife on October 23, 2008, 01:32:39 PM
*nwlife proposes that upcchris should answer the following question...."What should I eat for breakfast?"*

A hearty breakfast, whatever breakfast foods you prefer

I heard a quote somewhere, I forget how it goes but the essential gist is this:

Eat breakfast like a king
Lunch like the middle class
and dinner like a pauper
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

RainbowJingles

#42
October 24, 2008, 07:48:26 AM
:o

She ACCEPTED!!!!!

:o

SippinTea

#43
October 24, 2008, 04:48:34 PM
 :freaky2: And there's the juicy GP gossip for the week! :chatter:

:beret:
"Going somewhere means leaving somewhere. Choosing something means choosing against other things. Gaining something means losing something else. And between the old and new--the 'was' and the 'not yet'--there exists only one thing: a very frightening journey called faith."
--taken from the book Coming Up For Air

RainbowJingles

#44
October 25, 2008, 12:06:12 AM
:freaky2:

apsurf

#45
October 25, 2008, 08:28:35 AM
We all know she is a lovely, respectable, young lady, but the question remains, how well can she or her mom cook?  :fork:

upcchris

#46
October 25, 2008, 09:13:59 AM
*sigh* I had a feeling I'd be food for GP gossip sooner or later since I registered


As far as I go: not at all well...well more to the point that, in all honesty, I can never really be bothered cooking, my mum cooks well though, but I think every child thinks that of their mother.
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

apsurf

#47
October 25, 2008, 09:15:07 AM
So I take it you can burn water fairly well?

upcchris

#48
October 25, 2008, 11:25:43 AM
When I can be bothered to cook, I can cook fairly well, it just takes a little longer because I'm so pedantic....I said I can't cook at all well because I'm usually so pedantic about cooking to be bothered.
Television is proof the people will look at anything rather than eachother

Life would be so much easier without hormones

Of all God's creations, humans are the only ones with enough imagination to be bored

Humans are fallible, and they unreasonably expect everyone else not to be

Tina~Chris

apsurf

#49
October 25, 2008, 02:33:05 PM
Pedantic: meaning in the dictionary...
: narrowly, stodgily, and often ostentatiously learned
1. ostentatious in one's learning.
2. overly concerned with minute details or formalisms, esp. in teaching.

Then that means we can look forward to a beautiful meal, once we can ever convince you to step into the kitchen and step up to the stove!!! :freaky2: :fork:
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