MA (Marrieds Anonymous)

[Babs]

very true. but then again he can be well....difficult to live with. in 7 months he's been through [as in lost] 2 sets of keys and 1 cell phone. i lost count how many times i've had to go unlock his car for him because he locked the keys IN the car. sometimes...well i just want to ring his neck a bit. lol. but i love him none the less. and plan on spending the rest of his life with him. hehe.

I caught the wording there

[Arctic Rose]

I have been in the MA for 18 years now.   I guess it is okay since he is still alive and he still announces that he loves me publicy
LOL

[Tricia Lea]

Welcome to the group Artic Rose

Glad to have ya

[SippinTea]

I'll be joining just as soon as.... *cough*

Anyhow, not this year.

And next year isn't looking hopeful either. 

[Jennie-lynnie]

Feb. 4th will be our 2nd anniversary *

[Tricia Lea]

congratulations

[Sis]

Feb. 4th will be our 2nd anniversary *

ALREADY?  Oh my! Time is flying by way too fast for me. I think I'm getting the bends!

[Amelia Bedelia]

just want to go on record as being unanonymously single 

[Sis]

  OK, got it written into the record.

[Heather]

ok question. how did you manage the holidays with 2 families? i know this may sound odd, but it's matt and i's first christmas being married and it's like our respective families are fighting over who gets us on christmas.

[Sis]

We used to go to my family on Christmas eve because that's when the big party is, and his on Christmas day, after our own little thing in the morning with my daughter. It worked well.

[Melody]

For us, Nathan's family has ALWAYS been firm and tradition that Christmas Day from about 11-6 is their families' time.  Family from all over drop by and see everyone, presents eating...ect.

but my family has never even been able to hold out till Christmas day...lol  Growing up we always had our Christmas on Christmas Eve with dinner and presents, it's only my parents, us and my 2 sisters too.  So that is how we do it now.  It doesn't keep my family from an occasional complaint about N.'s family always getting us ON the day but we know that the date means more to his than mine. 

So, our kids and hubby and I usually have Christmas a day or two before.  Then we leave town.  We had to establish a time for us before we ran around to everyone else. 

Thanksgiving we keep for us, even if we go see family, it's ours to decide cause sometimes we need family celebration with just ~us~ kwim? 

YOU two decide where you want to go and how you want to do it.  Take turns with Christmas/eve or Thanksgiving/Christmas.  As long as you are firm, even if they don't like it, they should respect it.  After all, it's YOU they're supposed to be wanting to spend time with, the specific time and date is really irrelevant.

One of these years we're going to Washington state for Christmas to see my dad and neither of our families will have us!  LOL 

[Arctic Rose]

While we lived in the same area with both sets of parents... We switch every year on who got us for Thanksgiving.  For Christmas, The night before was my parents because I got so excited every year, that my parents finally decided we would open up gifts at Midnight and then go to bed. It did not stop me from still waking up early. His parents were Christmas day after Mike and I had opened up our gifts in our house. Once Mike joined the US Air Force and moved to Alaska.  We couldn't afford to come home for Christmas time or any other time. So it just became us and our child(ren). When we moved to Alaska our first Christmas there we had an 8 month old Baby.  Two years later we had a 2 year old and a 7 month old.

Claudea

[Sis]

What happens is families vie for our time over the hoidays. It almost becomes a contest. What you need to do, is establish YOUR OWN traditions. Something your kids can remember of YOUR OWN holidays. Don't get absorbed into others traditions and have none of your own.

Many families, including mine, try to absorb you into their traditions and I had to put my foot down because we needed something of OURS for OUR family.

[JuJu03]

Of my Life sentence(of married life)  I have now served 2 1/2 years and produced offspring 

[Sis]

Now add 20 and you'll be up there with Scott and I!     

[Tricia Lea]

Sis how old were you when you married    if you are supposed to be 21 now?  lol

[Sis]

It's a miracle marriage!   

[Tricia Lea]

 

[mvausey]

me will be 5 years married this month on the 21st...kinda exciting and scary at the same time 

[Sis]

In case I forget,

[Heather]

is there anyone that doesn't get irritated with their mother-in-law? it seems to be the norm around here to have some type of conflict. in my case my m-i-l is constantly bothering us about having her a grandchild closer to her [her other sons live in arkansas]. matt and i are just going to be married a year in april. we made it very clear we were waiting a bit for kids. but the woman is being VERY persistant.

[Melody]

LOL... I think mothers need something to complain about if they have no life of their own that's fulfilling, and the grass is always greener.  Say you do have a kid and she gets on a kick that you aren't raising them right or she just plain thinks they are some negative label?

The ones that look for you to please them are the ones you don't need to please.

My mother AND MIL complain that we are far away.  BUT when we were closer they made extremely little effort to visit for YEARS.  Even when it was do-able, even when they were IN TOWN.  So I know better, they just want something to hold to be a victim about...lol   

If that is what your MIL is doing, don't fall for it, don't feel bad that she has no grandbabies yet, by the fact that she's commenting about it in a way that contradicts what you have established as your plan = not respecting you, and that Sister is not someone mature enough to "need" grandbabies....lol  If she can disrespect you, what do think she is going to say to your child when you are not around? 

[Sis]

My M-I-L was more like Mrs Wilson from Dennis the Menace. Always nice and always had cookies or cake on hand. 

[RandyWayne]

is there anyone that doesn't get irritated with their mother-in-law? it seems to be the norm around here to have some type of conflict. in my case my m-i-l is constantly bothering us about having her a grandchild closer to her [her other sons live in arkansas]. matt and i are just going to be married a year in april. we made it very clear we were waiting a bit for kids. but the woman is being VERY persistant.

My wife's mom died about 14 years ago now, so I sort of have a "step-mother-in-law".  She is extremely layed back and has not once mentioned kids -which is a good thing because we will not have any (biologically speaking).

But..... she has plenty of cousins who are constantly asking when we plan on starting our family.  In answer to these questions, WE starting feigning shock and disappointment and mumbling how we "found out we can't have any kids" at which point it usually shuts up most people.