A favorite quote from "Sleepless in Seattle":
"Annie, when you're attracted to someone, it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously. So what we think of as fate is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match."
My opinion: Marriage is meant to complement a person's life, not to complicate it. It is a business merger between two people. If the merger/marriage isn't going to make your life better, then don't do it.
Quote from: World Traveler on June 21, 2010, 03:16:40 PM
A favorite quote from "Sleepless in Seattle":
"Annie, when you're attracted to someone, it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously. So what we think of as fate is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match."
My opinion: Marriage is meant to complement a person's life, not to complicate it. It is a business merger between two people. If the merger/marriage isn't going to make your life better, then don't do it.
LOL
eerily enough, as mercenary as it sounds; I also think of marriage as a business merger. For a successful business merger, both parties need to benefit from the merger and need to come to an agreement beforehand as to what would be expected of both parties as part of the merger and what both parties could bring to the table that would make the merger successful.
It sounds mercenary because affection/love in a business merger is not only a non-issue, but would be detrimental to good business. I can just imagine a marriage contract like a business merger, one party asks 'do you love me?' and the other party responding - genuinely confused 'what's that got to do with anything?' :smirk2:
I see marriage as a business contract too, but from more of a one-sided perspective. I view acquiring a wife like acquiring a car. The question is usually not which one do you want, most men usually want the same narrow list of features, so much as what is your price range. The more money you bring to the table, the nicer the model you'll take home. It sounds cynical, but look at the Old Testament. Even evil men who had money/ power usually had great wives; great both in inner and outer beauty.
Wow.
Just.
Wow.
:beret:
*sits back watching the single guys dig a hole*
:popcorn:
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 05:27:47 AM
Wow.
Just.
Wow.
:beret:
Quote from: Scott on June 22, 2010, 12:53:48 PM
*sits back watching the single guys dig a hole*
:popcorn:
what they said :popcorn:
Quote from: Scott on June 22, 2010, 12:53:48 PM
*sits back watching the single guys dig a hole*
I admit it sounds a little shocking on the surface, but let it soak in and it makes sense.
ROFL!! Oh, it makes sense. Perfect sense.
Perfect sense why some men stay single for a very, very long time. :D
:beret:
thats what i was thinking lol
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 02:05:55 PM
ROFL!! Oh, it makes sense. Perfect sense.
Perfect sense why some men stay single for a very, very long time. :D
:beret:
lol, OK that was funny, and yet very true. But getting what you want is worth the wait, yes?
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 02:05:55 PM
ROFL!! Oh, it makes sense. Perfect sense.
Perfect sense why some men stay single for a very, very long time. :D
:beret:
I guess I am in the minority... I don't think that way... LOL. So no hole for me to fall in this time...lol
And as far as this goes...
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 05:16:50 AM
I see marriage as a business contract too, but from more of a one-sided perspective. I view acquiring a wife like acquiring a car. The question is usually not which one do you want, most men usually want the same narrow list of features, so much as what is your price range. The more money you bring to the table, the nicer the model you'll take home. It sounds cynical, but look at the Old Testament. Even evil men who had money/ power usually had great wives; great both in inner and outer beauty.
CWK- Your car analogy sits as very wrong in my thoughts. But perhaps it is 'cause I have heard it used in a similar way for when people shack up before getting married... only they go into more details than you did, which I will not explain on here... lol, but it is the same type of analogy... dealing with all the things one does before buying a car... :smirk2:
Perhaps there is a better analogy to use? So as not to make the Apostolic Ladies feel like a piece of property...?
Back in the day... 45 camels might have been a good price for a bride... now... not many people have a use for 45 camels... lol :laughhard:
*Yoop wonders if we should reinstate the dowry...* :grin:
/me thinks if marriage is just a business venture, no wonder its so easy to divorce when business is done. :twocents:
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 02:31:02 PM
/me thinks if marriage is just a business venture, no wonder its so easy to divorce when business is done. :twocents:
SCORE!! ;)
:beret:
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 02:31:02 PM
/me thinks if marriage is just a business venture, no wonder its so easy to divorce when business is done. :twocents:
:like:
And... if it is like buying a car... And most people do not buy a car and keep it forever, most keep them for 3-7 yrs... so can a guy just sell his wife after 3 yrs? Kinda wierd...
Nope... I am thinking a marriage... is a covenant... a binding covenant... both should enter into willingly, and prayerfully, realizing that God meant it to be 1 man, 1 woman for a lifetime. Entering into marriage with thoughts that it will end differently than that, probably means you shouldn't be marrying that person. But then my parents got divorced when I was young, so my views on divorce may be a little stronger than some.
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 02:31:02 PM
/me thinks if marriage is just a business venture, no wonder its so easy to divorce when business is done. :twocents:
Actually, the opposite is true. People today often marry based solely on feelings, on
love; when the
love wanes they call it quits. Society would be better served if marriage was once again viewed as a binding contract, but today it's all about individual interests. An interesting book has been written on the history of "marrying for love", but I can't remember the title...
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 02:37:16 PM
And... if it is like buying a car... And most people do not buy a car and keep it forever, most keep them for 3-7 yrs... so can a guy just sell his wife after 3 yrs? Kinda wierd...
Nothing weird about it. What your describing is wicked, no question, but in an apostolic forum we can kind of assume no one is advocating shacking up or divorce. To do otherwise would just be a strawman argument.
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 02:29:11 PM
45 camels might have been a good price for a bride... now... not many people have a use for 45 camels... lol :laughhard:
*Yoop wonders if we should reinstate the dowry...* :grin:
It's true, 45 camels won't get you far in today's economy, but you bring 45 million dollars to the table and... well... have you seen Donald Trump's wife? Granted, she isn't Godly, but the same principles apply in the church enough of the time to call it a general rule, IMO of course. If you have money/ power/ prestige you will catch the eye of the most eligible young women... that's just how it works most of the time. Personally, I see nothing wrong with it; it pays to be sensible in life.
I told myself I wasn't going to rant in here, but I changed my mind. Here goes...
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 02:59:55 PM
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 02:31:02 PM
/me thinks if marriage is just a business venture, no wonder its so easy to divorce when business is done. :twocents:
Actually, the opposite is true. People today marry based solely on feelings, on love; when the love wanes they call it quits. Society would be better served if marriage was once again viewed as a binding contract, but today it's all about individual interests. An interesting book has been written on the history of "marrying for love", but I can't remember the title...
Ah, but here is the core of where your theories are the most wrong, CWK.
Love never wanes. Lust does. Infatuation does. But love never does. And if you disagree with that, you can take it up with God Himself - not me. :D
And people who marry based entirely on their feelings are not basing their choice on love - regardless of what they SAY about it. Love is not a feeling. It's an action.
Yes, we all like the feelings of love. After all, being twitterpated is fun. But marrying someone based on twitterpation is just as foolish as marrying someone because it would make a good "business partnership". *gag*
I've seen far more of these so-called business partnership marriages than I ever wanted to see. And they've ALL shown me over and over again just how lonely and miserable married people can be when they marry for the wrong reasons. It makes me incredibly sad that some people set their sites so low for something that is supposed to be a beautiful picture of Christ and His bride.
And yes, it's something I feel strongly about. Perhaps it stems from being in ministry for so many years. But the older I get, the more I work with people, the more stories I hear, the more I realize how we have horribly twisted something that is supposed to be a thing of beauty... of forgiveness, of unselfishness, of giving, of trusting, of respect, of working together, of preferring each other's needs over our own, of love - REAL love - the action, not the feelings.
Perhaps this thread is hitting even closer to home because of a situation I was dealing with just a few days ago... they married with one of those business partnership types of agreements. Now it's years into the marriage... now she's a Christian, now he's not... he tells her that if she "gets fat" he will leave her (she's one of the tiniest women I know)... he forbids her to become "too involved" in her church, because she's getting "weird"... he won't let her work because he doesn't want her tied down with a job when he wants to go on one of their spontaneous trips to far-off places... but he refuses to let her go see her daughter in another state because it's "his money".
Another couple... they've been married for around 30 years if I remember right... another business partnership marriage... he has his bank accounts and she has hers... they both work full-time, they split up the bills to pay - sort of... they hardly ever see each other because of how often he is out of town with work... they're both horribly lonely and seem clueless how to fix that... and the things that they used to do together (in this so-called business partnership) are now the things that are driving them apart.
Both of these marriages are based on "what I can get out of it". After all, that's what a business partnership IS. It's what you can do for me. It's how you can better my business, my life, my circumstances, my resources, etc. And when that partnership is no longer giving me what I want out of it, or what I think I need out of it, I leave. I go on to the next business partnership that will benefit me. Until it stops benefiting me, and then I'm off again.
You can choose that kind of marriage if you like.
I don't want it.
And I refuse to have one.
Fortunately for me, my man feels the same way. Maybe there's a reason we're happy when we're together??
~Ruby
P.S. - Vince, this post is not aimed at you in any way. I've known you long enough to know this isn't what you were talking about when you started this thread.
:clap2: Ruby!
:like: @ Ruby's Post...
/me thinks GP seriously needs a :like: button or smiley lol
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QuoteNope... I am thinking a marriage... is a covenant... a binding covenant... both should enter into willingly, and prayerfully, realizing that God meant it to be 1 man, 1 woman for a lifetime. Entering into marriage with thoughts that it will end differently than that, probably means you shouldn't be marrying that person.
Amen. Marriage is a covenant. And surely y'all know what the Bible says about covenantbreakers.
Ruby,
Well said. God has commanded husbands to love their wives and wives to love their husbands.
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 04:29:29 PM
/me thinks GP seriously needs a :like: button or smiley lol
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I like that one... now if it was just a guy smiley, I'd keep using it! :great:
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Haha... love it
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 01:05:00 PM
Quote from: Scott on June 22, 2010, 12:53:48 PM
*sits back watching the single guys dig a hole*
I admit it sounds a little shocking on the surface, but let it soak in and it makes sense.
:popcorn:
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 05:56:19 PM
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 04:29:29 PM
/me thinks GP seriously needs a :like: button or smiley lol
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I like that one... now if it was just a guy smiley, I'd keep using it! :great:
Are you discriminating?
*smothers a laugh* Yeah, somehow the pink/purple thing and the swirling hearts don't really seem like Thomas. *grin*
:beret:
but to use a smiley does it really have to be a boy or a girl smiley? lol
Discriminator :crackwhip:
Quote from: TheGirl on June 22, 2010, 07:33:59 PM
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 05:56:19 PM
Quote from: Just Plain Ole Barb on June 22, 2010, 04:29:29 PM
/me thinks GP seriously needs a :like: button or smiley lol
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I like that one... now if it was just a guy smiley, I'd keep using it! :great:
Are you discriminating?
Nope... But it does feel wierd to be a guy and putting in a girl smiley...
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 07:37:35 PM
*smothers a laugh* Yeah, somehow the pink/purple thing and the swirling hearts don't really seem like Thomas. *grin*
:beret:
Yay... but then I don't wear pink or purple shirts either, ever! lol
Quote from: TheGirl on June 22, 2010, 07:44:29 PM
but to use a smiley does it really have to be a boy or a girl smiley? lol
Discriminator :crackwhip:
Aye... watch out Newsman... yourgal has a whip! :laughhard:
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 03:36:42 PM
I told myself I wasn't going to rant in here, but I changed my mind. Here goes...
I don't disagree with most of your post, but then I also don't see what it has to do with my comments either. I never said an emotionless "business marriage" was desirable, who thinks that? Who goes into a marriage expecting to have that 30 years down the road? It's a straw man argument.
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 08:52:38 PM
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 03:36:42 PM
I told myself I wasn't going to rant in here, but I changed my mind. Here goes...
I don't disagree with most of your post, but then I also don't see what it has to do with my comments either. I never said an emotionless "business marriage" was desirable, who thinks that? Who goes into a marriage expecting to have that 30 years down the road? It's a straw man argument.
Straw man argument? :o
Is that your response to every post you don't agree with?
I thought Ruby's post was excellent and was valid!
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 08:59:42 PM
Is that your response to every post you don't agree with?
No, but I do disagree with every straw man post.
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 09:07:12 PM
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 08:59:42 PM
Is that your response to every post you don't agree with?
No, but I do disagree with every straw man post.
I personally think those posts you are calling straw man posts are pertinent, valid, and good....
This is hysterical. Nathan and I are sitting here laughing. He said it's a good thing CWK didn't mention how the car immediately depreciates in value the first time you drive it off the lot. :o I'm starting to wonder if CWK is even for real or if it's someone on purposely posting ridiculous things?
Though marriage is indeed a covenant, there is a very acute difference between covenant and contract.
oh and...
GO BARB! Loved the comment earlier.. I thought.. " That's it, right in the kisser." ☺
lol
Quote from: MellowYellow on June 22, 2010, 10:07:40 PM
I'm starting to wonder if CWK is even for real or if it's someone on purposely posting ridiculous things?
The car isn't the point of the analogy so much as the transaction, what it takes to get it. We all know the value of a virtuous woman can't be measured, it's "far above rubies". Someone opened this thread comparing marriage to business, I tried to expand on that idea in a meaningful way. What's so ridiculous about that? As to love in a marriage, it's apple pie and motherhood; no defense necessary. Of course falling in love is a huge part of marriage, that's a given, we can set that part of the equation to the side.
Marriage is not supposed to be anything like a business contract. Marriage should be a life-long covenant relationship between a man and a woman, as directed by God. Each of us should marry the person God directs us to marry, or not marry at all if that's God's plan for us. And even when we marry under God's direction, even when two people ideally suited for each other join their lives in marriage, it still takes a whole lotta work, a whole lotta self-giving love, to keep the marriage alive and growing.
In fact, the more I think about it, the more I fail to see any parallel at all between a business relationship and a marriage relationship (as they ought to be, that is).
Quote from: titushome on June 22, 2010, 11:41:25 PM
Marriage is not supposed to be anything like a business contract. Marriage should be a life-long covenant relationship between a man and a woman, as directed by God.
You say covenant I say contract, the definitions are the same according to dictionary.com
1.
an agreement between two or more parties for the doing or not doing of something specified.
Quote from: titushome on June 22, 2010, 11:41:25 PM
Each of us should marry the person God directs us to marry, or not marry at all if that's God's plan for us.
I respect your view in this, and you might be right, God knows, but not everyone agrees with the idea that God chooses our mate for us. I'm not convinced that He does, based partly on Paul's comment:
1 Corinthians 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies,
she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
Why would Paul say she could marry whomever she wishes if he believed Jesus had one man in mind for her above all others? I can't reconcile the two trains of thought.
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 22, 2010, 09:55:16 PM
I personally think those posts you are calling straw man posts are pertinent, valid, and good....
Well, if you feel like I've slighted you send me your email address and I'll be happy to break it down for you. I wouldn't want to leave with anyone thinking I'd slandered them.
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 02:32:38 PM
SCORE!! ;)
Quote from: MellowYellow on June 22, 2010, 10:07:40 PM
GO BARB! Loved the comment earlier.. I thought.. " That's it, right in the kisser." ☺
"SCORE"? "...right in the kisser"? Really? Who are you scoring points against, the body of Christ? Who's taking one on "the kisser"? Jesus? Come on ladies, you're both better than this. An adversarial approach doesn't help, it just stirs up bad feelings... so why have anything to do with it?
Quote from: MellowYellow on June 22, 2010, 10:07:40 PM
GO BARB! Loved the comment earlier.. I thought.. " That's it, right in the kisser." ☺
i have my moments lol
CWK - I somehow think my meaning was clear to everyone else in the thread. And somehow I don't feel like explaining it further for just one person to understand. :)
Quote from: MellowYellow on June 22, 2010, 10:07:40 PM
This is hysterical. Nathan and I are sitting here laughing. He said it's a good thing CWK didn't mention how the car immediately depreciates in value the first time you drive it off the lot. :o I'm starting to wonder if CWK is even for real or if it's someone on purposely posting ridiculous things?
I would be inclined to agree, except that CWK's posts are all too familiar from another time and place; errr...thread(s). Ah, well, he comes back in different forms every time. ;) And he must be entertained by our debates around here or he wouldn't keep coming back. *laugh*
:beret:
hmm...forgive me for interjecting with my 5c...but this thread seems to be becoming a little...well...abrasive :couch: something I didn't expect from a marriage opinion thread...[EDIT] but maybe I should've considering how abrasive some relationships can be at times :smirk2:
Marriage is a binding relationship, a lasting promise, certainly not something to be entered into lightly, you really need a selfless outlook for a good one...people entering into marriage need to remember the other person is a human being with emotions, problems and flaws just the same as them...they're just wired a little differently, and you need a lot of communication beforehand so...to a certain extentent, you know what to expect and what is expected.
:grouphug:
Quote from: SippinTea on June 23, 2010, 01:08:01 AMI would be inclined to agree, except that CWK's posts are all too familiar from another time and place; errr...thread(s). Ah, well, he comes back in different forms every time. ;) And he must be entertained by our debates around here or he wouldn't keep coming back. *laugh*
:beret:
Oh, hmmm... is this then someone I would know from before? In any case, we get all kinds of colorful people on here, including me at times. It makes it more interesting that's for sure. As far as a car, Nathan is always loosing the keys, so what does that mean? ;)
And I'm being playful, which everyone else knows. I said kisser cause that's where our words pour out, I was picturing more of a sour face than a punched one. I suppose with your approach, I took you for not being easily offended. Which people say they're not but if they weren't, wouldn't get riled up at silliness. I mean honestly, you don't REALLY see marriage like buying an inanimate object, you were just throwing the thread author a bone, right?
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 11:52:46 PM
You say covenant I say contract, the definitions are the same according to dictionary.com
1.
an agreement between two or more parties for the doing or not doing of something specified.
True, the denotative meanings of the two words are almost identical. For most people I've talked with, though, the connotative meanings are very different: the word "covenant" carries with it a sense of the sacred, whereas "contract" is used in a more strictly legal sense. Thus I view a covenant as being more meaningful, even transcendent, and more binding than a contract. Also, covenant agreements are usually concerned primarily with what each party is to
give, while contract agreements stipulate what each party is both to give and receive in return.
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 11:52:46 PM
I respect your view in this, and you might be right, God knows, but not everyone agrees with the idea that God chooses our mate for us. I'm not convinced that He does, based partly on Paul's comment:
1 Corinthians 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
Why would Paul say she could marry whomever she wishes if he believed Jesus had one man in mind for her above all others? I can't reconcile the two trains of thought.
The two trains of thought are easily reconciled: God has one person in mind for each of us at any given time in our lives. But if one spouse dies, then the other enters a new phase of life in which God may have another person in mind for them as a marriage partner. The key is, as long as both live they are to be bound to each other and no one else.
On the other hand, the clause "she is free to marry anyone she wishes" strongly suggests that, as you said, perhaps God does not choose our mate for us. Perhaps he expects us to choose our own mate, in keeping with Godly principles. A strong argument could be made for either side, but I think in the end it's probably two sides of the same coin: if I'm the kind of person God wants me to be, living the way he wants me to live, then the mate I'd choose for myself is probably the same on he'd choose for me.
So if you have a wife and a car... does that make you a polygamist? :o
Or do you need to sell your car, once you buy your wife...?
The car scenario would explain why I am told it is cheaper to stay single... so if you have a wife and a nice car... is it 3 times as expensive... or worse yet... what if you each have a car...?
Did she buy her car, or did the husband buy her a car? This is very confusing... :o
:cool:
is it bad that i have 2 cars?
Quote from: sunlight on June 23, 2010, 06:35:16 AM
is it bad that i have 2 cars?
bol
Well... does that mean you have two wives? or two husbands?
I own a truck, what does that mean?
Ohh, and I didn't buy it... I traded my Jeep for the truck, straight across... what does that mean?
:freaky2:
my opinion on marriage - yay for those who have a fabulous one.
i think about marriage, and it frankly makes me want to vomit. of course that has alot to do with my horrible marriage and subsequent divorce from my 'holier than thou' preacher man ex-husband.
now on the other hand...i did go buy a new car recently........ :cool:
LOL... I will be in TX in a week or two, and will be looking to possibly buy a car to take back with me to Wisconsin...
.........But I really am looking for a actual vehicle... not a wife. LOL.............
:laughat:
Quote from: sunlight on June 23, 2010, 06:35:16 AM
is it bad that i have 2 cars?
So which one are you cheating on? :)
QuoteI'm starting to wonder if CWK is even for real or if it's someone on purposely posting ridiculous things?
I'm glad someone is finally vocalizing it.
A socialist loving, Milton Friedman hating liberal who wants to use a Russian assault rifle to kill pigs b/c he hates animal cruelty, and thinks the equivalent of marriage is buying a car?
I can't help laughing even as I write that sentence out.
:laughat:
QuoteIt's true, 45 camels won't get you far in today's economy, but you bring 45 million dollars to the table and... well... have you seen Donald Trump's wife? Granted, she isn't Godly, but the same principles apply in the church enough of the time to call it a general rule, IMO of course. If you have money/ power/ prestige you will catch the eye of the most eligible young women... that's just how it works most of the time. Personally, I see nothing wrong with it; it pays to be sensible in life.
I think I follow. The more money you have, the more women you will attract because of your wealth. And isn't the basis of a good marriage money?
CWK's "most of the time" rule: Poor men can't get a decent woman. Rich, powerful men will attract beautiful women with wonderful attitudes.
Is that the reason you support "share-the-wealth" policies? If the rich don't cough up some profits, you won't have any good marriage prospects? ;)
Still :popcorn:
*shrug*
Some things just don't deserve comments
Quote from: bishopnl on June 23, 2010, 05:26:38 PM
QuoteAnd isn't the basis of a good marriage money?
No, the basis of a good divorce is money.
*blink*
I think marriage is /supposed/ to be about commitment to building a life together. kids if you want 'em. or dont know how to prevent them..
In practice sometimes it's just a convenience. I'm of the view that I'm not going to marry until i find the right guy that can prove he'll stick around through tough times.
Do gold-diggers count as better women? Seems to me like really rich men attract a lot of those.
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 23, 2010, 12:19:32 PM
LOL... I will be in TX in a week or two, and will be looking to possibly buy a car to take back with me to Wisconsin...
.........But I really am looking for a wife... not a actual vehicle. LOL.............
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Wow..way to be subtle there Thomas :biglaugh:
Quote from: taco_harvell on June 26, 2010, 10:28:47 PM
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 23, 2010, 12:19:32 PM
LOL... I will be in TX in a week or two, and will be looking to possibly buy a car to take back with me to Wisconsin...
.........But I really am looking for a wife... not a actual vehicle. LOL.............
:freaky2: :laughat: :laughat: :laughat: :laughat:
:laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
*Notices Yoop's silence since this post.
*Remembers what John says about silence.
Hmmmmm.........
Quote from: taco_harvell on June 28, 2010, 03:11:27 AM
Quote from: taco_harvell on June 26, 2010, 10:28:47 PM
Quote from: YooperYankDude on June 23, 2010, 12:19:32 PM
LOL... I will be in TX in a week or two, and will be looking to possibly buy a car to take back with me to Wisconsin...
.........But I really am looking for a wife... not a actual vehicle. LOL.............
:freaky2: :laughat: :laughat: :laughat: :laughat:
:laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
*Notices Yoop's silence since this post.
*Remembers what John says about silence.
Hmmmmm.........
Lol... nice attempt at starting another scandal Taco... but I think it is an attempt to distract everyone from your own personal scandal taking place at the moment... have you check out any "cars" over on the west coast lately? :o
I heard there were a lot of cars in Memphis this weekend. Some new, some lightly used, some... well.....
Quote from: World Traveler on June 28, 2010, 03:32:32 AM
I heard there were a lot of cars in Memphis this weekend. Some new, some lightly used, some... well.....Lemons?
Quote from: sunlight on June 29, 2010, 07:42:33 PM
Quote from: World Traveler on June 28, 2010, 03:32:32 AM
I heard there were a lot of cars in Memphis this weekend. Some new, some lightly used, some... well.....Lemons?
bol! Hmmm... Did you pick one up WT?
I am not shopping.
Quote from: Scott on June 22, 2010, 12:53:48 PM
*sits back watching the single guys dig a hole*
:popcorn:
Having a BOL-a-ROFL(tm) from that comment. Just read this thread...first time back in a while.
:hypocrite:
Quote from: Babs on June 22, 2010, 04:29:29 PM
/me thinks GP seriously needs a :like: button or smiley lol
(http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f141/ah-bee/emoticons/smiley_aafq.gif)
*votes for the :like: smiley*
HAHA! This thread just made me :laughhard: ALL over again... the absurdilty of it all... :hypocrite:
Anyone else been "car shopping" lately?? :P
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 22, 2010, 08:52:38 PM
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 03:36:42 PM
I told myself I wasn't going to rant in here, but I changed my mind. Here goes...
I don't disagree with most of your post, but then I also don't see what it has to do with my comments either. I never said an emotionless "business marriage" was desirable, who thinks that? Who goes into a marriage expecting to have that 30 years down the road? It's a straw man argument.
:popcorn:
Quote from: The Cold Water Kid on June 23, 2010, 12:51:36 AM
Quote from: SippinTea on June 22, 2010, 02:32:38 PM
SCORE!! ;)
Quote from: MellowYellow on June 22, 2010, 10:07:40 PM
GO BARB! Loved the comment earlier.. I thought.. " That's it, right in the kisser." ☺
"SCORE"? "...right in the kisser"? Really? Who are you scoring points against, the body of Christ? Who's taking one on "the kisser"? Jesus? Come on ladies, you're both better than this. An adversarial approach doesn't help, it just stirs up bad feelings... so why have anything to do with it?
:popcorn:
My wife and I have been married since 1985.
We met in March of '85 and married in August of '85.
We are still married!
*shrug*
:popcorn:
:popcorn:
my car got repossessed and sold......
does that say something about my being marriage material? :biglaugh: :cool:
At a wedding, the DJ polled the guests to see who had been married longest. The bride's grandparents took the honors. The DJ asked them: "What advice would you give to the newly-married couple?" The grandma said: "The three most important words in a marriage are, 'You're probably right.'" Everyone then looked at the grandpa for his answer. He, wisely, answered: "She's probably right."