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I've been pondering of late.  I've even been thinking, too.  :-)  lol

It seems that there are particular times in my life where guys seem to be/have been attracted to me.  I've started to go over those moments/days/stages of my life in my mind and wonder what I was like at those times in my life, and what in particular attracted him to me.

I recall when I was about 15 or so, maybe a little older, there was a guy who was about 13 who had a dreadful crush on me.
At the time I was beginning to teach Sunday school.  I was gaining confidence in myself and having occasional "pretty" days (days when I felt pretty).
I was also nice to him just like I was to everyone else.  A lot of people thought it was "cute," but I didn't want to really admit that I had a slight crush on him as well.  It just seemed impractical at the time.  The more I tried to ignore him, the more interested he seemed to become.

When I was about to graduate from high school, I had little time for guys, but several decided that they wanted to make time for me.
Where was I in life at that time?
Fairly confident
Busy
Engaged with other things besides them
Had little time for them

I'll come back and ponder other times when I've noticed that guys seem to be more attracted to me.

It is VERY rare that a guy will express interest in me when I'm depressed or down on myself.
It seems rare that guys flock around me when I'm feeling blah and unappreciative.  lol

Anyone else wanna take a stab at it from your perspective?

While in Bible college, I don't think there was ever anyone who was romantically interested in me at all.  I had several male friends, but none who expressed an interest in me.

In Bible college, I was not only an ice maiden, but also a very intimidated young lady.  I felt like no one would be interested in me.  I compared myself to others and constantly came up short.

One break I went home with a friend who made me feel comfortable and loved to laugh.  We had a blast together with some of her friends, and I really felt like I was enjoying life and was able to be free for awhile.  It was on that trip that I met one of her guy friends who started calling and writing to me consistently.

I wasn't concerned about how I looked, felt, or acted.  I wasn't intimidated by him or his quirks.  I didn't care if he was interested.  Then suddenly he was.

While on break from college (or sometime thereabouts), I was working one day and a guy and I were having this quasi-intelligent conversation, and just kind of connecting intellectually and chatting.  We continued on about our day, and I thought nothing of it.  Not too long after that, he called me and asked me out.  I was like...  "HUH?!?!"  Kind of freaked me out a bit.  Of course, he wasn't in church, so we never really dated.

What was I like at that point?
Confident
Fun
Intrigued by this guy, actually...  he was quite a few years older and had always intrigued me from a distance, and at that point I was actually just able to connect with him without any false pretense.  We had common ground because we were working together, and I had no qualms about talking to him, because I didn't think he had any expectations of me at all.  He was just being nice, and wasn't interested that I could tell, and then...  BAM!  :o  He asked me out.

Now that I think more about it, I think I was asking lots of questions about his work and what he did.  I was fascinated with his job and truly enjoyed listening to him tell me about what he did.

 :popcorn:

lol  Dina.  I'm still talking about early college days.  I have lots to think about before I make it to present-day events.  :bigcheese:




:chairspin:

:popcorn:

Scoot over Dina. I wanna watch too. :)

:popcorn:
*waits for someone else to contribute to the topic before she continues*


:hypocrite:

/me sits right in the middle of dina and mel and takes the middle seat of the couch. :grin:

:sing:  Somewhere in the middle you'll find me...  :sing:

Well, I wasn't looking and I was having fun with life and we just sort of found each other. I think the main ingredient in all of these is not being desperate, but being confident and moving forward as a self and god-fulfilled person. You have a life.

You know, that's what I'm beginning to realize more and more, Dina.  The common element has been that, it seems.  Confident, not really caring...  Just being me.

i've had and not had guys at all phases I think

it just kinda depended on if there were new guys around or same ol same old that I'd already been through

there... someone else has contributed and u can get back to your storytelling lol

Thank you, Mary...have some Popcorn. :popcorn: Join us. :)

Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on February 04, 2009, 10:50:04 PM
i've had and not had guys at all phases I think

it just kinda depended on if there were new guys around or same ol same old that I'd already been through

there... someone else has contributed and u can get back to your storytelling lol

rofl

How could I forget the "older guy" that I was "friends" with when I was 16?  He was 23.  Mom was nervous the whole time that I wrote to him.  We used to write once or twice a week...  REAL MAIL...  you know, the kind with stamps?  Anyone remember when people actually sent that?

Well, he would tell me all kinds of fun things.  He had a fascinating job, but I wasn't really interested in him much, because that's all that I found fascinating about him at the time.  It was hard to talk to him on the phone sometimes, and he was painfully shy.  He was also painfully interested (much to his sister's delight and my mother's chagrin), but I got my head turned by a 7-Day Adventist guy who was in my school.  Long story short: the 23 year old started looking better and better to my mother.  lol

What was going on there?

With the 23 year old, I was eloquent in my own 16-year-old way, and "listened" well.  I would read his letters and respond to each thing that he had to say and every point that he talked about.  For a guy who is lonely and shy, that probably meant a whole lot.  Yet there was something about our in-person interactions that just didn't click.

Another pattern seems to be developing.  Is a lady more attractive to a guy when she takes an interest in his work?  When she asks questions and cares about what he does?  When she listens to and remembers what he talks about?

The other guy became interested in me while I was confident in myself and enjoying the attentions of this other guy (from a distance).  Neither of them were right for me on many levels, but I'm again seeing the consistency in my self-confidence and free spirit style and the time in my life that really nice guys of a decent calibre were attracted to me.  Which leads me to another thought...  Hmmm...

You hit it pretty much on the head with this:

QuoteWhen she asks questions and cares about what he does?  When she listens to and remembers what he talks about?

It's hard enough for the typical guy to get the nerve to show interest. The girl showing any sort of interest in return is a huge help in either a: helping them find the courage to ask in the first place, or b: confirming they weren't off their rocker.

Self confidence can play a big role too. I can't speak for all guys, but I know that when I've dated a girl who was clearly self effacing (and not in a fishing for compliments sort of way - that's a whole other topic), the nurturer in me would kick in at first, but it would eventually become exhausting. Being asked to describe why you're interested in someone can be a cute conversation, but when it's a nightly occurance spawning from the belief that you're lying when you compliment her, it's not worth it. Not to say that every girl who goes through depressing times or has bouts of  low self esteem is that bad, or goes to that extreme - but while they're in those moods, guys would typically rather stay away than take the risk.

QuoteWhat Attracted Him to Me?

Past life:

While I suppose I'll never know for sure, with some of the guys that have shown interest I have guesses:
- He thought I was a free ticket into the ministry because I have 'connections'. (Excuse me while I gag.)
- He thought I could help him make more money. (Go take a business class or two, sir.)
- He for some reason thought I'd make a great doormat when he found out I wanted to be a homemaker, not a career gal. (When he found out I had a brain and a feisty side, he hastily left. Stage right.)
- He thought I was 'cute', and wanted a trophy wife half his age. (The boat wasn't enough to sell yourself, sir. So sorry. And that conversation you tried to have regarding me in a swimsuit? You're lucky I didn't deck you.)

Bad me. My sarcasm is out in full force today. :pound: self.

Present life:

I'm still kinda wondering actually.

*shrug* Whatever the reason, I'm glad. :)

But he doesn't think I'm his free ticket into anything, he's not concerned with how much money I make, he's never treated me like a doormat, and he's never tried to have a conversation that made me want to punch him. :o


Anyhow...

*hops onto the back of the couch to join the listening crowd, and steals their popcorn*

You were saying, Elona?.... :D

:beret:

Thanks for the insight, Geek.  :-)  I love it when guys weigh in with what the foreign species may be thinking!  Really!


Ruby:  :laughhard:
You're hysterical, girlie!

And I wanted this to be a DISCUSSION thread, not a popcorn-eatin' Elona-observing thread!  :roll:


I love GP!!!  :-)

:grouphug:

*scary flash of insight*

Okay...  It just crossed my mind that many times I would notice a guy that I found particularly appealing, but immediately think, "He would never be interested in ME."  And so I acted accordingly, steering clear of him, and rarely speaking to him.

:roll:  And I wondered why guys that I was interested in didn't reciprocate my feelings.  *smacks self in head*



These days I'm not really out to impress, and I just treat everyone equally as often as I can.  If they think I'm flirting, either they get over it and realize that I'm not, or they flirt back (even thought I wasn't flirting - at least not most of the time :hypocrite: ).

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 01:42:38 AM
And I wanted this to be a DISCUSSION thread, not a popcorn-eatin' Elona-observing thread!  :roll:

YOU might not have, but WE did! *cheeky grin*

Keep on talkin'...

:beret:

Gotta go to church.  Carry on, my friends!

:chairspin:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 12:16:34 AM
How could I forget the "older guy" that I was "friends" with when I was 16?  He was 23.  Mom was nervous the whole time that I wrote to him.  We used to write once or twice a week...  REAL MAIL...  you know, the kind with stamps?  Anyone remember when people actually sent that?

Sure, we all just did a whole bunch of it at Christmas! Silly!

i'll pass on the popcorn - anyone have chocolate?

i'm really not interested in what attracts guys anymore -  I'm watching too many relationships and marriages start and fail and good people do stupid selfish things to each other... i'm not interested in joining the crowd

I dunno that even a good relationship and having kids is still worth having a relationship - instead of bringing in new kids help the ones that exist already and need good influences

guys are attracted to what they can't have... the chase, the confidence, the handle on life, the skirt, the body, the money, whatever... if that's what attracts him, do I really want him??

nope.

we have such a low bar for who gets put into 'good husband' categories... he has a job and doesn't beat her or molest the kids... someone give him a medal!

sigh, can someone let me off the planet soon?

It's when you are thinking that way someone will win your heart.  I remember this ice maiden.......................

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guys are attracted to what they can't have

Some, maybe, not all. Some of us couldn't care less about the chase, but rather finding the one God has intended for us - flaws, imperfections, and all.

Men, like women, are all individuals. Some flatterers, some outright liars, some users, some sincere but don't click with ya, some self-haters, some kind, quiet and not really looking. There are so many more. I think I have dated at least one of each of these types in my lifetime.

Thank you, Jesus, for Stevebert!

Quote from: Sis on February 05, 2009, 04:09:16 AM
It's when you are thinking that way someone will win your heart.  I remember this ice maiden.......................

If you mean this Ice Maiden... I don't think I ever had the view Mary just described.

:beret:

I meant when you're not looking it will sneak up on you.

Desperate women rarely find happiness. They might find a guy but not what they're looking for. They settle. Women who are LOOKING, are in the same boat.

Just like an Ice Maiden (I didn't say who hmmmmmmm) we heard of once. She wasn't looking. She was just trusting God from day to day and WHAMO! And it weren't a frisbee, either!

(http://pentecostalwomensforum.com/Smileys/default/chuckle.gif) *currently has nothing to say*

:beret:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 01:48:13 AM
*scary flash of insight*

Okay...  It just crossed my mind that many times I would notice a guy that I found particularly appealing, but immediately think, "He would never be interested in ME."  And so I acted accordingly, steering clear of him, and rarely speaking to him.

:roll:  And I wondered why guys that I was interested in didn't reciprocate my feelings.  *smacks self in head*

Ohhh... I have a really bad problem with that. Not so much since I'm married and don't have to worry about romance, but the feeling inferior always makes me super sarcastic so they'll run away... muahahahaha.

So THAT's what you were trying to do in OK?  Chase us all away?  :eyebrow:

Quote from: SippinTea on February 05, 2009, 01:37:05 AM

QuoteWhat Attracted Him to Me?

Past life:

And that conversation you tried to have regarding me in a swimsuit? You're lucky I didn't deck you.)


Present life:


But he doesn't think I'm his free ticket into anything, he's not concerned with how much money I make, he's never treated me like a doormat, and he's never tried to have a conversation that made me want to punch him. :o

Notice that she didn't specify that present life hadn't talked about her in a swimsuit....just said that whatever it was he said hadn't made her want to punch him.....

:hypocrite:

Hush it up, CheeseHead.  :pound:

:beret:

:ignore:

Quote from: iridiscente on February 05, 2009, 05:30:03 AM
Ohhh... I have a really bad problem with that. Not so much since I'm married and don't have to worry about romance, but the feeling inferior always makes me super sarcastic so they'll run away... muahahahaha.

You don't have to worry about romance? Does that mean you have lots? Or does it mean you don't need it now you're married?  :couch:

As I got to tell a friend, and no I won't say her name!!! (yes I know her name! :roll:  )

Just think of all the colors of the rainbow, think of all the jewels of each color, Imagine piles of each jewel as far as the eye can see.  Their combined value is still nothing compared to a Lady of God in step with God's Presense!

You know, that is how I feel right now: in step with God's presence.  Really.  It's as if I am walking side by side with Him in my journey.  If my heart is broken, He will be there to pick up the pieces and fill me with His joy.  If it's not broken, He will be the joy that fills my heart.  Either way, if I walk with HIM, I win.

*contented sigh*





:chairspin:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 06:53:42 AM
So THAT's what you were trying to do in OK?  Chase us all away?  :eyebrow:

Ha. Whatever. You were just annoying. :hypocrite: *hugs* Elona and the cedar cabins that make her lose her voice!

Quote from: Sis on February 05, 2009, 06:26:18 PM

Quote from: iridiscente on February 05, 2009, 05:30:03 AM
Ohhh... I have a really bad problem with that. Not so much since I'm married and don't have to worry about romance, but the feeling inferior always makes me super sarcastic so they'll run away... muahahahaha.

You don't have to worry about romance? Does that mean you have lots? Or does it mean you don't need it now you're married?  :couch:

Both.

Quote from: iridiscente on February 05, 2009, 06:51:08 PM
Ha. Whatever. You were just annoying. :hypocrite: *hugs* Elona and the cedar cabins that make her lose her voice!

**HUGS** Dina and her goofiness disguised as sarcasm

I liked going on the walk with you and John and Ashlee and the baby in the stroller best.

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 12:16:34 AM
Well, he would tell me all kinds of fun things.  He had a fascinating job, but I wasn't really interested in him much, because that's all that I found fascinating about him at the time.  It was hard to talk to him on the phone sometimes, and he was painfully shy.  He was also painfully interested (much to his sister's delight and my mother's chagrin), but I got my head turned by a 7-Day Adventist guy who was in my school.  Long story short: the 23 year old started looking better and better to my mother.  lol

Hmmmm...how fasinating. ;)

:freaky2:

:o



BOL




:spitlaugh:





Wow...  Never thought about it like that, Mel!  I was simply fascinated by his life, not really attracted to him.
See what I mean about a guy thinking I'm "fascinating"??

I should re-title this thread "Elona's Self-Discovery Thread" or something.  lol

Self discovery? All the rest of us are discovering things about you too. *chuckle*

:beret:

Okay...  Maybe I should just call it the "Elona Spills Her Guts Thread"?  Happy now, Lady SS?

The Elona Discovery Channel

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 07:22:43 PM
Okay...  Maybe I should just call it the "Elona Spills Her Guts Thread"?  Happy now, Lady SS?

What does the second "s" in "Lady SS" stand for?

It's around on the board somewhere, Dina.  I'm gonna get killed for it, though.  lol

Ooo... bad, bad, bad. You were sworn to secrecy. :nono: And so were Ash and Chel. *glares ferociously at Elona*

:beret:

Hehe... I figured it out... /me splashes Lady SS.

I'm quite soggy enough, thankyouverymuch.

*ahem*

:beret:

***Fills up the water gun with ice water to spray down the lady who wears the lifevest that quotes the word "Hot!"*** 



yep I wasn't completely out of it that day, I do remember a few things from that trip! LOL!

:couch:

And I don't think it was the word "hot" Brandon.  I have pictures somewhere.  lol

Quote from: SippinTea on February 05, 2009, 07:30:54 PM
Ooo... bad, bad, bad. You were sworn to secrecy. :nono: And so were Ash and Chel. *glares ferociously at Elona*

:beret:

Methinks the statute of limitations has run out on that one, m'lady.

well, it  had flames, I do remember that. :P

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 07:39:19 PM

Quote from: SippinTea on February 05, 2009, 07:30:54 PM
Ooo... bad, bad, bad. You were sworn to secrecy. :nono: And so were Ash and Chel. *glares ferociously at Elona*

:beret:

Methinks the statute of limitations has run out on that one, m'lady.

Hush you. :P

:beret:

There may have been heat... Lady SS was sunburned.

Lady SS?  you mean Lady ShortStuff?  LOL!

Yeah!  That's it!  :bigcheese:

:hypocrite:

*coughs and snortlaughs* Elona, your halo is slipping.

:beret:

*puts her halo back on tightly*

:hypocrite:

Better, Lady SS?  :bigcheese:

 :roll: The horns are still showing.

And besides... aren't we supposed to be discovering more about your love life in this thread? I'm waiting to hear the next chapter here, Lady!

:beret:

and lo and behold, we must really worry if we hear 20 of the 21 guys that currently have an interrest start to propose to her!

lol  There aren't 20 or 21 of them!  And no one is on the road to a proposal.  lol

There are only about 4 or 5 (that I know of) who are currently expressing interest in any way, shape or form.
I'm just rehashing a bit of history in order to see if there are similarities to what has made guys pay attention to me in the first place.  lol
I was just kind of wondering if there was a particular aura about me right now or something that has seemingly brought guys out of the woodwork.

Maybe it's because you started wearing deodorant. :smirk:

BOL!!

:highfive: Dina!

That was great!

Quote from: iridiscente on February 05, 2009, 08:23:27 PM
Maybe it's because you started wearing deodorant. :smirk:

Now that is a note to end the day on!!  :laughhard: :laughhard:

Ummm...  Thanks for the insight, y'all.  :roll:


Now...  I'm looking for ways to figure out what attracts a guy to a girl.  Y'all are NOT helping.  :girltongue:

What attracts a guy to a girl: good cooking, mentally stable, physically attractive, similar interests and not manipulative.... blah, blah, blah.

Quote from: iridiscente on February 05, 2009, 08:45:09 PM
What attracts a guy to a girl: good cooking, mentally stable, physically attractive, similar interests and not manipulative.... blah, blah, blah.

well,
let's see...

Rainbow is stable (more or less), cute smile, not controlling, but the question remains, how well can she cook?   :biglaugh:

Sorry, had to get one more post before I go!

I'll let the people on the board who have sampled my cooking weigh in on that one.  lol

As to being more or less stable?  lol  What makes you think THAT?!?!?!  :crazy:

Speaking of which...wasnt I supposed to get a package?

*glares @ Elona*

Elona, you can come cook for us and then I will present you with an official "good cook" document for future inquiries. :D

sooo, y'all quit discussing a Lady's SwimSuit, for the moment?  :hypocrite:


John  :waving:

:o  John!!!




Who are you referring to!?!?!?!??!





:laughhard:


HEY!!!  John!  You've been to my house and survived the cooking, haven't you?



Mel: the dough is still in the fridge!  :o  At least for the oatmeal butterscotch ones.

*groan* Oh good grief.

Yeah, what about that cooking? That sounds like a great topic.... :lol:

:beret:

Yes, indeed.. remember when your brother Wil thought someone had turned the radio on, when I came in to the house that morning? :)


John  :waving:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 09:49:44 PM
HEY!!!  John!  You've been to my house and survived the cooking, haven't you?

If SippinTea were sipping tea in a swim suit by the sea side...


John  :waving:

Quote from: SippinTea on February 05, 2009, 10:03:37 PM
*groan* Oh good grief.
:beret:

Quote from: Newsman on February 05, 2009, 11:02:10 PM
Yes, indeed.. remember when your brother Wil thought someone had turned the radio on, when I came in to the house that morning? :)


John  :waving:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on February 05, 2009, 09:49:44 PM
HEY!!!  John!  You've been to my house and survived the cooking, haven't you?

lol  That still makes me laugh to think about it!  :-)

Let's see...  where was I in this :pwink: ed thread?

Okay...  Let's move on to the handful of guys that pursued me that weren't what I needed.

One guy in particular pursued me when I was at a particularly vulnerable time in my life spiritually.  I was needy and seeking a relationship with a guy instead of a closer walk with God to complete me.  I looked to him for approval, and he gave it.  I looked to feel good about myself, and often found myself looking down on him in order to accomplish that goal.  And he kept pursuing, even when I kept turning him down.

ouch

Exactly.  His self-esteem was kind of low, and so was mine, and we ended up making one another feel worse about ourselves by being together.

So why did I not just separate myself from him?  Loneliness.
Loneliness and selfish inward focus have drug me into some of the worst relationships of my life.  Not that the guys were bad guys, just that the relationships were really not good ones and the guys were TOTALLY wrong for ME.  Ya know?

After a few years, that guy and I both grew quite a bit and matured spiritually, and became decent friends.  He is now quite happily married, and I'm quite happy for him.  I'm also quite happy that I didn't end up with him.  lol

You know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving...
I was wearing brightly-colored clothing and big shoes.  :bigcheese:

The other day, I began to consider what I should wear if I wanted to impress one of these particular gentlemen.
I pondered the situation and tried to think of what I had been wearing when we met.  I laughed as it hit me all over again that he was apparently at least somewhat attracted to me as a CLOWN, wearing a crazy hat, outlandishly bright clothing, and huge silver shoes.
I came to the conclusion that I should find the brightest most color-intensive article of clothing in my wardrobe and go buy a pair of silver shoes to complement the outfit.  lol

:laughat: That's good. Did you do that? And how did the date turn out?

Umm, perhaps that if the (she will neither confirm nor deny) upcoming get-together with the guy she will neither confirm noir deny actually has her atention, though we are forced to ponder how many times we've seen Lady Elona posting about revelations on what clothing she should wear to impress a man...Hmmm...


John  :waving:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on March 23, 2009, 11:33:12 PM
You know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving...
I was wearing brightly-colored clothing and big shoes.  :bigcheese:

The other day, I began to consider what I should wear if I wanted to impress one of these particular gentlemen.
I pondered the situation and tried to think of what I had been wearing when we met.  I laughed as it hit me all over again that he was apparently at least somewhat attracted to me as a CLOWN, wearing a crazy hat, outlandishly bright clothing, and huge silver shoes.
I came to the conclusion that I should find the brightest most color-intensive article of clothing in my wardrobe and go buy a pair of silver shoes to complement the outfit.  lol

I will say this, there is a line in this post that shows what is attractive about Rainbow,

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I was confident and in my element, spiritually strong, leading, reaching out, loving, giving

Sis: I have not had a date.
Yet.
I can, however, confirm that my unconfirmed date has been postponed.
*sigh*
But it's okay, cuz we have a new unconfirmed date now.  It's going to work out eventually...  I mean...  I can neither confirm nor deny that there's a guy who is thinking about coming to visit me in the very near future, who may convince me to change my relationship status from "single and unattached" to single and no longer looking."
:chairspin:

I CAN confirm, however, that there is a new, brightly-colored outfit in my closet.
Unfortunately, I cannot find any silver shoes to complement it that fit me.  *sigh*
I CAN confirm, however, that I sent a picture message of aforementioned outfit to the unconfirmed date to see what he thought of it.  :bigcheese:
He said, "I like it.  It's bright..."  lol

Brandon: I guess I set myself up for that one, huh?
:blush:
Thank you for your kind words.

Quote from: RainbowJingles on March 24, 2009, 05:49:00 AM
Sis: I have not had a date.
Yet.

But you said....

QuoteYou know, it still makes me laugh that two ex-boyfriends - the only two guys that I have actually ended up officially dating (i.e. calling him my "boyfriend" and not being upset that he viewed me as his girlfriend) - are ones who first met me when I was doing clowning at their respective churches.

lol  Okay...  I haven't had a date RECENTLY
yet

Better?  lol

I haven't been on a date since I bought that new, brightly-colored outfit that is hanging in my closet.

Show us a pic. Wanna see the new outfit.

I haven't worn it yet.  :-)
Waiting on company to come before I wear it!

You can't take a pic of it without wearing it?   :laughhard:

:lol:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on March 24, 2009, 08:49:42 PM
I haven't worn it yet.  :-)
Waiting on company to come before I wear it!

Why wait, if you show a pic of you wearing it---someone just might be enticed to cook you dinner!
though of course you might have to make another trip to oklahoma to get that dinner!

lol Brandon  Because if I go to Oklahoma to get dinner, a certain gentleman in another state may have something to say about it.

Sis: I might consider that, but it'll look better with me IN it, I would think.  lol  Then again...  maybe not.  lol  It would look MUCH better with me in it and the arm of a certain gentleman draped around the shoulder of said new outfit (as I said - with me in it).

:chairspinud:

:spitlaugh:

Now I really wanna see this dress or outfit with you or without you in it.  :laughhard:

Oo, la lah!

But, Lady Elona, what about the 36inch rule?


John  :waving:

Quote from: RainbowJingles on March 25, 2009, 09:30:52 PM
lol Brandon  Because if I go to Oklahoma to get dinner, a certain gentleman in another state may have something to say about it.

Sis: I might consider that, but it'll look better with me IN it, I would think.  lol  Then again...  maybe not.  lol  It would look MUCH better with me in it and the arm of a certain gentleman draped around the shoulder of said new outfit (as I said - with me in it).

:chairspinud:

I done broke it, Sir John.
And I can't wait to break it again.

:hypocrite:

36inches... isnt that a waist size?
Is the 36 inch rule where his arm shoulld be around her waist? :halo:

Umm, Lady Chel? In the stereotypical measurements ascribed to females, I don't think the 36" refers to the ummm... waist..


John  :waving:

Hate to break it to ya, John, but it SHOULD.  lol

And Chel and I aren't stereotypical.

*breaks the mold*

:chairspinud:

:spitlaugh: :laughhard: Oh. My. Word. That was hilarious!

:beret:

lol

Quote from: Newsman on March 26, 2009, 02:43:54 PM
Umm, Lady Chel? In the stereotypical measurements ascribed to females, I don't think the 36" refers to the ummm... waist..


John  :waving:

The way they wear their skirts so low on their hips now, it might...

36"?  Is that how far away a guy has to be from you or you won't talk to him?

No, no, Sis. He has to be WITHIN 36 inches, or she won't talk to him. *grin*

:beret:

Though she wouldn't have a problem being heard if he happened to be farther away :P

lol  Dina

It's okay.  When we met, I was in full clown personnae and get-up.  He is aware that I can be loud, crazy and totally outta control!  :-)

:chairspinud:

Quote from: Sis on March 26, 2009, 05:57:43 PM
36"?  Is that how far away a guy has to be from you or you won't talk to him?

Noooooooo!  That's the farthest distance away that I want him to be!  :cloud9:

Well, if he's seen you at your loudest and silliest and likes you anyway, he must like you, all of you!

He does, Sis.  :cloud9:

:chairspinud:

LOL@the sizing
36 inches is more than half my height... lol

:laughat:  Never thought of it as vertical!  :laughhard:

:rofl:

Interesting read.  I think it holds true that confidence is attractive. 

Interesting read, indeed.  *sigh*

Several fun moments, but it's difficult to read and remember how twitterpated I was and how painful twitterpation can become if nothing comes of the twitterpation.

But such is life, I guess.

I stand (err...  type) before you with confidence today...  and I look to the woodwork.  lol  I'm slowly beginning to feel good about myself again, and who knows what may happen now?

*Hugs* Elona

:beret:

Hey, I just saw this post, and figured I would add my own two cents.  There is something about a woman who is self secure.  It shows in posture, and her walk, and her conversation.  And it definitely can turn a guy's head.

It is not all about appearance, but in ones security in who they are.  When a person is timid and down on themselves, it comes over, even if they are trying to appear otherwise.

When I think of the ladies that I have been attracted too, they all have had a certain confidence or self security that is intriguing.  And I have had a number of ladies that have liked me that I found ...... no interest in, and they all were more timid or insecure...  I know it is easier said then done, but there is definitely something appealing to a secure woman.

**HUGS** Ruby
Thanks, girlie!  :-)

Jonathan: Thanks for the two cents.  :-)  Do you need any change?  :hypocrite:

Seriously, what you said makes a lot of sense.  I find the same to be true of guys that I've been intrigued by through the years, as well.  The more self-confidence (not the egotistical kind) a guy has, the more I feel drawn to him.

I heard something on the radio the other day that just kind made me pause and ponder.  It was something to the effect that, when a guy stops being strong and starts giving in all the time (I think he was speaking in context of relationships), he ceases to be masculine in the eyes of a woman.  I remember that happening a few times.  When a guy didn't like to make any decisions about anything, and constantly deferred to me, it made me want to just scream and run away.  I love it when a guy takes initiative and makes decisions, or at least has options that he wants input on.  I love making decisions together, but I hate it when he has no opinion and makes me feel like the "boss" in the relationship.  That's just not what I want.  I want a man who is a leader.

/end rant

lol

I've had that happen with friends. It made me want to scream even then. Can't stand someone who is afraid to tell anyone their opinion.... EVER.  Always giving in means they're afraid to say. Afraid they will lose a friend. Afraid someone will get mad at them. It's sad, really.

What an interesting reread... wow, it's been forever... :grin: