So my wife and I have been together for four years and married for three months and we're wanting to start having children, but aren't really sure if we should start away, we've pretty much decided that we're not going to try to stop from having a baby, but not really sure if now is the perfect time.
Our youth pastor back home waited four years and they felt it was perfect for them. They got to know each other before having kids. Too often people don't get to know each other really well, and the kids come and they just don't have time to be alone much anymore.
But I guess the time is right when a couple decides it is. Pray about it, first of course.
I think I wanna watch this thread. ;)
Quote from: MelodyB on February 08, 2008, 02:10:07 PM
I think I wanna watch this thread. ;)
and why is that ? :freaky2:
My answer would be Never.
:grin:
But since you're already in the boat and up the creek without a paddle in sight....At LEAST a year before popping a baby out...a few years would be good.
/me agree's with mel... this could get interesting... lol
Quote from: Chseeads on February 08, 2008, 09:59:33 PM
My answer would be Never.
Never may apply to you anyhow. :roll:
Quote from: NathanTodd on February 08, 2008, 05:53:52 AM
So my wife and I have been together for four years and married for three months and we're wanting to start having children, but aren't really sure if we should start away, we've pretty much decided that we're not going to try to stop from having a baby, but not really sure if now is the perfect time.
There is no good time and no bad time.
When you
WANT to have kids, have them! PERIOD!
I agree with Scott. No one can actually tell you when to have children. That has to be a personal decision between you and your wife. My only suggestion is that you still make time for each other even after the baby is born.
My husband and I had our daughter nine months to the day from our wedding night!!!! So, IMHO, if you want kids now, go for it!!!!!! ;) I'm not really sure there is ever a "right" time. I've known some people who get married and have waited for 5 or more yrs. to have them and they wished that they hadn't waited so long. I guess it's different with each couple!!!!!
Thanks everyone ! We'll we've talked about it and we really want to have a baby so we're going to start trying. :clap: :clap2: :clap: :clap2:
*Sis raises water glass* Here's hoping you are successful! :hypocrite:
Quote from: Sis on February 09, 2008, 05:09:26 AM
*Sis raises water glass* Here's hoping you are successful! :hypocrite:
:tantrum: Don't drink the GP water.....oh wait, you're already married, and WANT to have a baby. Guess it won't hurt ya then. :laughhard:
:laughat:
*decides to stop drinking water of any kind* :laughhard:
You gonna shrivel up, especially if you substitute coffee for water!
My husband and I waited till our second anniv. to officially start trying. Not because we were waiting for perfect timing or anything, but just because we had a lot going on those first couple of years of marriage. I think it was the perfect timing for us. Our little girl is the light of our lives and we both have benefited from having her.
So the time to have kids....is when it's right for you. Only you can determine when that is. And if now is the right time, then yea for you! The fun is in trying. :D
we'll this past weekend my mom got married to this really great guy (a long history in itself another story for another time) and my brother's birthday ... so we told my family that we are officially trying to start a family. My mom said it was about time and my grandmother asked if we could have a girl, i almost asked her if she remembered out children are conceived, but decided to for the fear of her telling me something I really didn't want to know !!!
And Sis. melody, i am pretty sure you'll be one of the first to know if we are !!!
BOL!! Sis. Melody.
Thank you, I am honored to be among the first to know. ;)
well you know how it is.... lol have to respect those older than me :-/
Sooo you gots me and Mel married or what? :laughhard: When you use a capital S dat be me, not short for sister... LOL&L&L&L&L&L&L&L&L
Quote from: Sis on February 12, 2008, 07:37:01 AM
Sooo you gots me and Mel married or what? :laughhard: When you use a capital S dat be me, not short for sister... LOL&L&L&L&L&L&L&L&L
What does that mean ?
Sis is me, Melody is her. :laughhard: :laughhard: :laughhard:
He was calling me Sister Melody. Thats why I cracked up...I dont get called that often....the kids here know better. But thanks.
At least he didnt call me Sister Bush. Thats my Mom.
Quote from: MelodyB on February 13, 2008, 07:09:25 PM
He was calling me Sister Melody. Thats why I cracked up...I dont get called that often....the kids here know better. But thanks.
At least he didnt call me Sister Bush. Thats my Mom.
Shhhhhhh! I knew that but I had to give someone some flack.
I personally think a good time to start a family is when your wife comes up to you and says, "Um, Honey, uh, well, you might want to sit down."
:grin:
ps. do sit down. Its much easier to faint when you are well supported on a couch.
Wise guy! (http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/laughing024.gif)
Errrr.... Mini? I'm pretty sure by that point, the family already done been started. :)
:beret:
Yes, but when it was unexpected....thats the best time to start a family.
Boy, I better start one right now then...cause it's not expected. :smirk2:
Uh, Cheese!?!?!?! you need a girl, first. :laughhard:
:nono: :pound: :great:
i'm pretty sure, it needs to be a woman !!!
One would hope.
Many women still feel like girls well in to their 30's and 40's, so HUSH! :laughhard:
Quote from: Sis on February 15, 2008, 01:27:41 AM
Many women still feel like girls well in to their 30's and 40's, so HUSH! :laughhard:
I guess that is okay, as long as they don't act like girls
Weeeeell, the unmarried ones might. :hypocrite:
Since every couple is different, then the situation is different. When Strange1 and I got married almost 6 years ago, we decided we would waiting at least a year or maybe two. However, during that time period, I was unable to find employment and things were very rough for us financially. I am of the opinion that if I am having a hard time financially without a baby, that I don't want to add a baby to the mix in the middle of financial difficulty. A little over 3 years ago, we moved to Kansas City and decided that once we had been here for a year and were basically settled, then we would start a family. Once we had been here for a little while, Strange1 lost his job and has thus been unable to find a permanent job since. Additionally, I am now unemployed and have been since October 2007. So, to make a long story short, I personally believe that it is up to the couple of talk about it and pray before they make a decision about starting a family. Also, keep in mind, as with us, God can change your plans in a minute. Just my thoughts!
Soooo how is strange 1 and why doesn't he post anymore?
Yeah, Kerry has been VERY quiet for quite awhile.
So unlike him, wouldn't you say?
Kerry is doing very well. We have been very busy and to honest, time gets away from us, so we often don't remember to get on here and post. Case in point, I am just returning to the boards after at least two years away. Kerry says to tell everyone hello, but a while back he had a disagreement with someone on the board, so he prefers not to be on the board until the individual is no longer posting. (Scott knows who this person is).
We used to have such fun with the Strange 1. Tell him that Sis still loves him, though. Stevebert waves a hello to him too.
Glad you two are getting on well. Glad to hear you're doing well. *Throws big hugs to ya*
*cough*
BUMP
yeah so i guess now is the time to start a family????
Cause as i hear it i am going to be an uncle?
hmmmm... when to start a family...
that's kinda hard to answer. While you can go out of your way to prevent babies from coming, it still could happen, and while you could be going out of your way to conjur up some babies, they may not. Soo... I'd say, enjoy the moment and just let Jesus decide. :grin: If nothing happens, then start praying for your and eachothers bodies and try to be healthy/healthier, and go from there, and continue to be spontaneous.
When is the right time to start a family? That depends on the couple and how they feel about it. There is not right or wrong general answer to that question, only what is right or wrong for each particular couple. My wife and I waited two years before we started a family, and for us that was just about right.
I would say, however, if you are trying to plan a family, there really is no "right" time. There are always issues like money, jobs, etc. that seem to want to get in the way. But, if you're willing to just "take the plunge" and go for it, anytime is the right time because it will always work out and you'll won't regret it.
Our first baby will be born around 3 months before our 4th wedding anniversary!!
Quote from: Chseeads on February 14, 2008, 04:05:04 AM
Boy, I better start one right now then...cause it's not expected. :smirk2:
Is that why you said you were pregnant recently? :question:
Quote from: minnesota68 on February 13, 2008, 09:15:38 PM
I personally think a good time to start a family is when your wife comes up to you and says, "Um, Honey, uh, well, you might want to sit down."
:grin:
ps. do sit down. Its much easier to faint when you are well supported on a couch.
I was just about to say something like that.
luke was born 11 months after we got married...landon was born 5 years after luke