Anyone here have one?
Anyone here truly research it and decide not to? Why?
I recently went to a Mother Blessing for my cousin (not like a traditional baby shower but a special gathering to celebrate her journey as a woman becoming a mother) and she is going to have a home birth and we got to talking about it and she sent me a dvd of information and interviews about home birth (she is also a doula so she has tons of information available LOL) well anyway to sum it up
WOW! it sounds so much better than the usual hospital managed medical procedure we are used to in this country.... which I've never been totally comfortable with considering it is such a natural and life changing experience - the hubbub and regulations in a hospital I've always felt interferred with the specialness of what was happening... I was really thrilled to find out that home birth is actually a really safe alternative
So, thoughts everyone??
(no, I'm not pregnant and I have no plans of getting pregnant until many many years from now LOL)
I think the major "downside" to it is that IF anything is to go wrong, there isn't as much "support"... Of course, if everything's fine I'm sure it'd be a really wonderful experience... but I'd hate to have a home birth and then need an emergency caesar or something like that... or for the baby to have problems that need immediate attention...
Personally, I think that a good "half way" point is to go to one of those "birthing centres" run by midwives at the hospital - it's more like a hotel room, you can have a water-birth if you like, but still you're near to any emergency medical "back up" if you need it...
That said, I haven't ever majorly looked into it, just heard a bit here and there about it all...
yeah one of my coworkers uses a birthing center and that definitely sounds better than a hospital
from what I've heard the chances of something going wrong are so greatly reduced with HB and if you have an experienced midwife they can handle most of what might arise too and if not... well I'm not one for living in the boonies anyway and have never lived further than 5 miles from a major hospital LOL
Is there a webpage or something about the home birth people that your friend is looking at?
I think that a lot of places in the world wouldn't have that kind of option available... I don't know if Australia does, and even if Hong Kong did, I don't think that very many people would want that ;) Might disturb the people in the next apartment ;)
Quote from: nicolejoy on January 22, 2007, 06:52:55 AM
Personally, I think that a good "half way" point is to go to one of those "birthing centres" run by midwives at the hospital - it's more like a hotel room, you can have a water-birth if you like, but still you're near to any emergency medical "back up" if you need it...
Our local hospital has a birthing center that is more or less shared by midwives and doctors. As I understand, you can opt to have your midwife deliver your baby, but if something goes seriously wrong, they have the needed equipment and doctors standing by to take care of the problem.
*shrug* I haven't really looked into it either.
:beret:
I'll have to ask her about websites
one of the big points I've been hearing throughout this is that in many other countries - developed european countries - home birth is normal and accepted... unlike here where the doctors and the medical community are pretty much against it and most people don't even consider it because the first thought is that is has to be unsafe because we are trained to trust hospitals
but I'm more of an organic back to nature hippie type :grin:
a lot of hospitals allow midwives and birthing centers... but you still have the government takeover of the baby and thats something that really irks me LOL to have a baby handed to you looking like merchandise from wal-mart with an alarm system and barcode reading system and the nurse has a little reader gun like a cashier... :o
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on January 22, 2007, 07:12:09 AM
you still have the government takeover of the baby and thats something that really irks me LOL to have a baby handed to you looking like merchandise from wal-mart with an alarm system and barcode reading system and the nurse has a little reader gun like a cashier... :o
:biglaugh: Yeah, I know what you mean. I am really opposed to all the required vaccinations, too. I don't think it's any of their business.
:beret:
I had Elijah in a Birthing Center and I liked it. The room was comfortable and homey, and I had more freedom, but I also had medical attention at hand. It was nice.
I wish I could have done that, but alsa both mine had to be born by C-Section. So the only place I could have my boys was in a hospital. But I had always thought that would have been neat to have it at home and not have all the hospital noises around.
had i attempted to have j at home, we both would have died. i seemed to be healthy. he seemed to be healthy. everything seemed to be perfect, just a little over due . . . after 36 HOURS of labor . . . it was discovered that not only was my pelvis not big enough (hard to imagine) to deliver him naturally, but the cord was wrapped around his neck and he was choking himself every time he tried to descend. if the cord hadn't been around his neck and he somehow managed to descend, he would have been born with a shoulder dystocia because i wasn't big enough. had pushing been forced, he would have strangled. i likely would have bled to death.
i was a "perfect" candidate for a home birth.
we would have died.
you can take that chance if you'd like, but i am quite grateful that i didn't. **shrug** to each his own . . . eh, her own.
don't mean to be a downer, but . . . there are a lot of things to take into consideration when a baby is being born and in an instant something awful can happen.
okay, maybe i have spent too much time defending docs in "bad baby" cases. each case breaks my heart and makes me realize how fragile we human beings are.
they have guidelines to prevent that sort of thing kris.... i've checked into it, but wasn't able to have one because i was on medicaid and they wouldn't cover it. if you are in labor beyond a certain amount of time, and/or there seems to be any type of stress on you or the baby, they call an ambulance and send you to the hospital. any good doula should have emergency precautions in place, and not wait until the last minute to take action. i have an aunt in north carolina that used to be a doula (she also was a RN in labor/delivery for several years prior). she jumped my case when i went up there for my grandfather's funeral just 2 months before my due date with jolie, cuz i had already been showing signs of pre-term labor. i told her i felt like i'd be in good hands (my doc ok'd it too... only because i told him about my aunt) ;) she also flipped when she saw my arm.... i had just had my glucose test the day before leaving and was developing a HUGE hemotoma at the draw site. she took good care of me :teeth:
Two of my uncles children were born at home. It was a good experience for them. Of course all the rest of the family thought they were weird and nuts, haha. I don't think i would be completely opposed to it, but in my case, i had to have an emergency c-section, so it wasn't an option for me.
Around here, i don't even know where to begin looking for a birthing center.
Another side to the home birth issue, my uncles wife's mother died during a home birth attempting a VBAC. There were complications and they couldnt' get her to the hospital. She and the baby both died and my aunt and her sister were left without a mother. That was many years ago, but still....
most docs recommend you be at a hospital for a VBAC... it's considered a pretty high risk delivery. i can't speak for all doulas, but i know my aunt won't do a home VBAC.
I couldn't even find a hopsital that would let me try one down here :smirk2:
I'm upset about it now, because if I could have found someone to let me try one, i might still be able to have kids now... Of course, I might now have been able to, but at least I woud know that I tried.
with all the issues you've had during pregnancy kim, i doubt a home-birth would've been a good idea. if you go into labor prior to 37 or 38 weeks they send you to the hospital.
I read up a bit about it after looking at this thread, and it actually looks pretty good - and they monitor the baby really closely and call an ambulance if the mother needs to get to the hospital!! I think that probably a birthing centre would be a better option though...
birthing centers can allow for a little more risk too cuz they have more medical equipment on hand.
i sort-of had my kids at a birthing center. the hospital where i delivered calls their maternity area "the family birthplace", and it's set up more comfortable than most. the room is like a hotel room, but with a hospital-type bed and there's a nurse station at the end of the hall. the nurses are trained in lamaze, and do whatever they can to help make you comfortable during labor. you choose how you want your labor to go (no water births though)... they pretty much just call for the doc when it's delivery time. after the baby is born they don't take the baby to the nursery unless you specifically ask them too, and even then they usually keep the baby at the nurse's station rather than putting them in the nursery. they help you get yourself cleaned up too. they really cater to the families at that hospital. :teeth:
Quote from: acjmom on January 22, 2007, 03:34:05 PM
birthing centers can allow for a little more risk too cuz they have more medical equipment on hand.
i sort-of had my kids at a birthing center. the hospital where i delivered calls their maternity area "the family birthplace", and it's set up more comfortable than most. the room is like a hotel room, but with a hospital-type bed and there's a nurse station at the end of the hall. the nurses are trained in lamaze, and do whatever they can to help make you comfortable during labor. you choose how you want your labor to go (no water births though)... they pretty much just call for the doc when it's delivery time. after the baby is born they don't take the baby to the nursery unless you specifically ask them too, and even then they usually keep the baby at the nurse's station rather than putting them in the nursery. they help you get yourself cleaned up too. they really cater to the families at that hospital. :teeth:
That sounds exactly like the hospital where I had Noah. It's also called "The Family Birthplace." I loved it!
Also sounds very much like the hospital where I had all 3 of my babies. It's a small hospital with only 6 rooms when I had the boys and they expanded between Isaac and Isabelle to 12 rooms. They do allow water births too. The nurses just do exactly what YOUR doctor says. My Dr with Noah was a jerk and I had a terrible delivery. But if I had been at home, there would have been serious complications. He ended up being delivered with forceps to avoid an emergency c-section and I had 3rd degree tears.
If you are doing so because you are a crunchy hippie type, that's your thing... whatever. But I have a friend who had one to save money and I found THAT to be ridiculous!! She informed me that a midwife was less than 1/2 of the cost of an OB and then there would be no hospital bills either. She delivered her son in a kiddie pool in her living room. That boy was over 10lbs!! They had no idea because she never had an ultrasound. I also read a blog recently about a lady in WA I think it was that was a midwife herself and delivered her baby at home with another midwife. The baby did not live and she had to be hospitalized. She says after the fact that she wished she would have had the baby at the hospital. They were only minutes from the hospital but it was minutes too long.
As for the tagging of the baby... I'm actually very glad that they do that. That is for the babies protection! If the baby gets too close to the doors an alarm will sound. It's so that nobody can steal the baby out of the LDRP dept. Also so that the right baby goes with the right mommy (and daddy, Josh had to wear a matching hospital bracelet).
Oh, I would have never really wanted a home birth. I'm too much of a scaredy cat for that, haha. What I wanted to try was a VBAC.
The hopsital I had westley in had an amazing birthing ward. I was so looking forward to having him there. Then I ended up with a c-section, so I dind't get to enjoy any of it. It was a fantastic hosptal though. Brand new and the ob side even had their own ER. So with my first I had the very best, with my last two, here, well....This hospital is not known for being too great. It was quite a step down. If I had been here first, it wouldn'tbe so bad, but I had seen how good it could be, so I was greatly dissapointed with the hospital experience here.
I wouldn't do it for my first, but might with my second or third if everything was going okay.
I want to have my first in a birthing center with a midwife. Their c-section rates are much lower. Note: They also would be more willing to try a VBAC for those who have had c-sections.
If you want to read some positive homebirth stories go to www.mothering.com/discussions (http://www.mothering.com/discussions). Great board for non-mainstream parenting ideas (no vax, no circ, exclusive breastfeeding, co-sleeping, etc.). Some of them are a little kooky, but definitely interesting.
ETA: Or, for a Christian site try www.gentlechristianmothers.com/mb/ (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/mb/).
okay so maybe it's safe to youse guys . . and i'm just too old to trust it.
i had a hard enough time allowing my grandbabies to be born in the small town hospital where they live . . . just seemed . . . too remote for me! maybe that's why it's better to have babies when you're younger. you are more trusting and more adventerous. the older i get, the less trusting i am of things.
better you than me, kiddos!
I'm with ya Kris.
It just scares me and to me it would be taking a chance
I KNOW too much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would not EVER try to have my baby at home................
I had both of my babies at the hospital that I used to work at. The L&D ward was new (as the whole hospital was new...LOL) and you got to stay in the same room for labor/delivery/postpartum. It was really NICE!!! The room was HUGE!!!! When I was delivering Kaitlynn, the doctor had the nurses roll up a large mirror so that I could see the progress of her descent. I loved that the doctor and nurses were RIGHT there!!!! I just could NOT consider having a baby at home!!
sharon
they offered the mirror thing with mine, but i didn't really want to see everything :o :biglaugh: without my glasses on it would've been difficult to see anyway, and i was a little distracted being that i had no epidural ;)
yeah, I didn't have an epidural either.........but I pushed for an hour.....and personally I thought it was COOL....I think I had my glasses on (I am BLIND without them.....)
sharon
I wanted to watch my c-section, but they wouldn't let me. They had a sheet blocking it. I was told something about the risk of patients going into shock by seeing themselves cut open. Whatever the reason, i was disappointed. But Jeremy got to watch the first one, so he jsut gave me the play by play, haha. The second two were at a different hospital, and they wouldn't let Jeremy watch, they made him stay up by my head.
Clint got to watch all of my c Sections.
Sam got to take pictures of Beth's!!!
Thankfully I had an amazing doctor with Ethan, his first wish is that women do childbirth the natural way, (it seems like too many doctors push unnecessary c-sections to make the extra money), without medicine (which may slow down the delivery or cause problems). Unfortunately at the last moment I chickened out and had an epidural (I could not get a grip on my breathing, my contractions were just too intense, and I hadn't taken any breathing classes).
It was still an amazing feeling, I could concentrate soley on pushing without feeling the pain, and thankfully it didn't slow down the labor whatsoever. I went in at 11 and had him at 3:25, only 25 minutes of actual pushing. :thumbsup2: Next time though, I do hope to have a meds-free birth.
I did #1 with no epidural (although they tried, the anesthesiologist couldn't get the needle in my back due to my scloliosis). I only had 1 shot of stadol and I did wonderful!!!!
I did #2 WITH an epidural.....my second was a much much HARDER labor!!!!!!!!! ughhhhhhh I completely LOSt control!!!!! I was SOOOOO thankful for the epidural!!!!!!!!!! I LOVED it!!!! It was SOOOO much better to be able to concentrate on delivering hannah, rather than the pain!!!!
sharon
Knowing what i know now, if I hadn't had to have c-sections, i would have never had an epidural. I don't like not having control of half of my body. I hated the way my legs felt being numb like that. If i had the choice, i would definitley not have had the epidural.
I had an epidural with both of the boys. My water broke and I had to be induced because I wasn't progressing. There was just no way I could have gotten through a 23 hour induced labor without an epidural. Although I must say that I waited until the very last minute (like 20 hours in) to get it with Noah!! I wish I wouldn't have needed an epidural but there was just no way around it.
I didn't have time for an asprin, much less an epidural with Isabelle. It was a much better birth experience.
Quote from: littlegal on January 25, 2007, 03:06:44 PM
Knowing what i know now, if I hadn't had to have c-sections, i would have never had an epidural. I don't like not having control of half of my body. I hated the way my legs felt being numb like that. If i had the choice, i would definitley not have had the epidural.
That's exactly what my Mum said - she had to have an epidural when I was being born because it was a 20 hr labour and ended up being forceps/NEARLY emergency cesarean... she really didn't like it at all!! But some women LOVE them!!
I'm gonna do what Christi did when I'm in labour and stay at home until I'm ready to push ;) It sounds like you have a better labour that way lol (I'm just kidding, for real!!)
LOL
It was from having those stinkin epidurals! I didn't know what "real labor" felt like... I was only ever at 3-4cm with the boys. I have a very high pain threshold and didn't know I was so far progressed!!! It was nice to just walk in and pop out a kid but it was really scary too! Even know, just thinking about it, I feel sick to my stomach. What if we hadn't gotten there in time?? Yikes!
Quote from: littlegal on January 25, 2007, 03:06:44 PM
Knowing what i know now, if I hadn't had to have c-sections, i would have never had an epidural. I don't like not having control of half of my body. I hated the way my legs felt being numb like that. If i had the choice, i would definitley not have had the epidural.
If I wasn't already so freaked out by actually being in labor (lol), I probably would have felt that way.
As it was, I knew I was going to give birth but it never really sank in until I went in thinking I was in false labor and the doctor told me "you're 80% efaced (sp?) and 3 centimeters dialated, you should have the baby by 3 o'clock I think." I know my face must have looked like this: :o
I very nearly had a panic attack.
It was the epidural that made me calm. I am deathly afraid of needles, and they made everyone leave when they administered it to me, so I had to literally force myself to "chill out", and once I had done that everything seemed less frightening.
Quote from: CRStrom on January 25, 2007, 06:02:52 PM
LOL
It was from having those stinkin epidurals! I didn't know what "real labor" felt like... I was only ever at 3-4cm with the boys. I have a very high pain threshold and didn't know I was so far progressed!!! It was nice to just walk in and pop out a kid but it was really scary too! Even know, just thinking about it, I feel sick to my stomach. What if we hadn't gotten there in time?? Yikes!
LOL. That could have happened to me. I went into actual labor at 1 a.m., but I was convinced it was false labor, so I took about 3 very warm baths, walked a little, and tried to sleep. When it still hadn't stopped at 9:00 I called the doc, got ready and went in. He said that if it wasn't for the baths (which slowed my labor down drastically), that I might have not made it to the hospital in time.
(I had this picture in my head that labor was going to be this horrible gut-renching pain that would make me scream like the women you see in films, so when it felt like really bad cramps I thought for sure it was just false labor.)
Just curious, what are the reasons for not wanting epidurals? This being my first theres so much I don't know.
I've always planned on having one, but would like to know what the reasons for not having one would be.
Exactly Miranda!! I had taken SEVERAL warm baths that day too...
My mom and Dr told me to go to the hospital when I couldn't talk through the contractions... well that wasn't until after we dropped the kids at the sitter... probably withing 45 minutes of her being born!! It was just "crampy"!! I only knew I was in labor because the "cramps" were so regular!! I also remember the point where I couldn't sit down anymore... I had been rocking indian style in my bed most of the night. That morning, we were getting ready to go and I couldn't sit down anymore, I had to lean on the edge of a barstool while I waited for Josh. Pretty sure that meant the baby was allllll the way down!! LOL
Rach... the main reason being what Kimberly mentioned, not being in control. I couldn't feel the contractions to know when to push and I couldn't feel if I was pushing properly. I nearly had an emergency c-section because of it. Also, the feeling of the baby coming out is SO refreshing... it's amazing!! You don't get to feel that if you have an epidural.
:o
Get OUT of here Seth!!!
Hey Seth, just think about it like being REALLY constipated, and the feeling that you get when you finally get rid of it all ;)
yuck
What i didn't like about the epidural is the entire bottom half of my body being numb. I kept feeling like i needed to move my legs, but I couldn't. I like to be in control of my body, so I didn't like that at all. Most of what I don't like about it is the process of it wearing off. The tingling as the feeling comes back, the uncontrollable chills, not being able to move when i want to. Let's see...lol. I didn't like the epidural, haha.
The second epidural my sis in law had, the doc missed the first time. She had a rough time with headaches while she was in the hospital and still suffers from them. She came home from the hospital and had to go right back in.
i am not sure i can connect them, but . . . i have had lower back (disc) problems since i had my first one - 22 years ago. i know that i have two herniated discs, but have never investigated why i have them. honestly, i know they are a result of my pregnancies OR epidurals. i still would have had them, though, because i was able to stay awake the entire time and was - mostly - lucid fairly soon after delivery. with j all the other problems i had complicated matters, but with thi it was quite easy.
with j - about 28 hours into the labor, a doc (who was eating a cracker in front of me . .. :-?) asked if i would consider drugs since the thought of a c-sec was starting to loom in the docs minds. "um, yeah, drugs sound like a good idea . . . " :pound: oh my word.
I have had one epidural and three spinals.
I had a spinal headache after my first spinal. I get more headaches now but I tend to blame that on having 4 kids :D
I do have lower back pain and on my lower back I can feel the spot that they inserted the tube.
Quote from: Air Force Wifey on January 25, 2007, 06:25:32 PM
Just curious, what are the reasons for not wanting epidurals? This being my first theres so much I don't know.
I've always planned on having one, but would like to know what the reasons for not having one would be.
Like some of the other posters said, you can't feel if you're pushing correctly, so the labor can take longer or even lead to a c-sec. Also, those drugs are going all through your body...and to your baby. If the baby is lethargic and sleepy when born that greatly inhibits that breastfeeding relationship that should be started as soon after birth as possible.
The anesthesioligist told me that there is a link to the spinals and back pain. He said when it is avoidable he doesn't recommend having a spinal if you suffer from back problems. Since i was having a c-section, i didn't have a choice, he just made me sign a paper saying i would not sue them if it caused my back problems to get worse, haha. When i asked him if there was a difference in the epidural, he said it would make no difference.
another thing is that if they give you the epidural too early (prior to 7cm dilated) it can dramatically slow your labor..... like making the difference between 13 hours or less, versus 24 hours+ with vac, forceps, or emergency c-section. :o the spinal headache occurs when the tiny hole in the spinal sac caused by the needle doesn't seal itself, and spinal fluid leaks slightly. this isn't life threatening, but i have known of people this happened to and they ended up with an incapacitating headache that lasted 5 days. :smirk: there's also the possibility of having a "window" of pain.... meaning the epidural didn't work right and you still feel everything on one side, or in one area.
and yes, the sense of relief when the baby is out after labor/delivery with no epidural is incredible! you get this huge adrenaline rush, and just feel so overwhelmed..... it's a great sense of accomplishment :thumbsup2:
I was only 3-4cm dialated with both of my boys when I got my epidural and had been in labor for 20 hours with Noah and 10 with Isaac and within 30 minutes was complete. They said the epidural relaxed me and let me open up. Also, with Noah I still had feeling on the left side of my body at first so the anesthesiologist had me turn on my left side for a bit. It never did get completely numb though. THAT was weird!!
I feel like a REAL woman who had accomplished so much after having 2 very medical births and then having Isabelle practically on my own. It was awesome.
My friend that just had a baby said her epidural didn't work all the way. It only numbed her lower legs, obviously not where she needed it.
Throughout my whole pregnancy with Noah I said there was no way I wanted an epidural! lol. I just couldn't stand the thought of one. But when they told me if I didn't have an epidural they would probably end up doing a C-section. I changed my mind! lol. I went in the hospital Sat. afternoon and had Noah Sunday morning. I have absolutely no tolerance for pain I guess! lol. I did great for the first several hours of contractions(could have been all the drugs going through my IV though! lol) But then when I had my first REAL contraction the nurse practically had to sit on and to get me to calm down! lol. And she said right then and there that there was absolutely no way I would make it through without an epidural. When I told her I didn't want one she said they would probably have to do a c-section! So needless to say I changed my mind. Since my cervix wasn't progressing like they would have liked they put in a cervix softener Sat. night. And immediately following gave me some ambien to knock me out so I'd get a good night's rest. (My hubby said I fell asleep mid sentence before she had even pulled the needle out of my arm! :laughhard:) Then they came in and woke me up at 3:00 am to give me the epidural. I was so drugged up I about fell of the table and my head was rolling all over they had 2 nurses and my mother to hold me still. I didn't feel one bit of it! LOL Then at 6:30 am they came to check me. And said I was ready to go! So they stopped the epidural, stared the pitocin and Noah arrived at 7:49 am.
Sorry such a long story! lol
I had an epidural with my son. It didn't work at all. I didn't even get my legs numbed!!! So, they decided to do another one. They ended up trying an epidural THREE times, and then I ended up having a C-section, so when they took me in to the OR they gave me a Spinal. That didn't work either, so when they went to cut me, I felt it totally. I was soooooooo drugged by this point that I really didn't have much of a clue as to what was going on. I looked up at one of the nurses and asked "Am I supposed to feel them cutting me?" She was like, NO............then the next thing I knew a mask was coming down over my face..........................next thing I knew it was like 2 1/2 hours later and I finally got to see my son.
So for me, I would never try a homebirth!!!!!!!
*******My epidural experience was not the "typical" experience........First of all, I was against having one because they couldn't get the first one in! Then when I started crying I KNEW I could not finish labor without something, so the nurse called the anesthesiologist (a different one than who TRIED) my first labor and delivery. He PROMISED me he wouldn't poke me more than once and I agreed that if he didn't get it the first time, I didn't want to be a pin cusion.
Well, he got it and within 30 seconds I went from crying in horrendous agony (ok maybe a little TOO dramatic!!) to calm and serene. He didn't hook it up to the PCA pump (where you push the pain button to get another dose of medicine) because they thought my labor was going to go more quickly.......but anyway, he told me whenever I started to "feel" something, to let him know and he would come give me a bolus of meds......I had like 3 doses.....but I was feeling SOOOOO much better!!!!!! My epidural did not block ALL feeling....it just lessoned it!! I could still feel my contractions, but they were much more bearable!!! By the time I delivered Hannah and Held her, I was ready to get up and take a shower!!! I had ALL my feeling back quickly!!!!!!!!
The first time it was great WITHOUT the epidural, but the second time was just as wonderful WITH the epidural!!!!!! I would DEFINATELY choose an epidural again (Thank God I won't have to, seems how we shut down the baby factory...LOL)
sharon
If I ever have another child I have to have him/her by c-section. The doctor told me on my second child that he didn't want me to try labor, so we immediately did a c-section. He said if I have another on it will have to be the same. I'm okay with that because after going through what I went through having Jacob I wouldn't want to chance it!!
Sharon, I had the pump thingy with both of the boys but never once had to push the button... the shot they gave me to get started was enough to get me through. Like I said, I went FAST after I got the epidural in.
both of my deliveries were fast after the epidural by necessity. i also had a morphine shot as soon as the labor was over. i felt fine . . :hippy:
I am going to get one I think....the doc is afarid thta with my narcoelspy that the pain will cause it to go into action..so drugs it is
i LOVED having an epidural! it was a Godsend!
My friend just had her 2nd baby, this time a natural home birth.
Because she had a C-section the first time, that's all anyone would insist on doing w/ the 2nd baby. So she got a midwife and it all went wonderfully.. waterbirth I think, 10lb baby!
I know another gal that will do the same and is getting close.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have wanted to at least give my best effort in trying to do a home birth. As time passes, more research shows how much all that stuff affects you and your baby's body long term and it isn't worth it unless it's life and death, which I'm not sure society is honest about anymore anyway. Even the whole "due date" is a farce. Here they are inducing women that could just go a bit longer and have healthy, natural FASTER births if they would just give them time. barring medical emergencies of course.
Dr.s say all kinds of things about "safety" when they aren't trained in healthy /natural proceedures in the 1st place.
Agree! Most births are uneventful, but if you're likely to have trouble, it will be known in enough time to get you to a hospital. It's really rare when something goes really wrong at the last minute.
That option wasn't there when I gave birth, and I wish it had. They were ok in the hospital at first, but during the birth, they knocked me out and I missed the whole thing.