investing in friendship? Is it worth it?

[titushome]

...if we could all have the attitude to forgive more than we have been forgiven.

That's a terrific attitude!

[Classicrambler]

Faithful are the wounds of a friend...

[Chseeads]

"When an eel lunges out and he bites off your snout, that's a moray!!"

That's funny.  lol

[Nerd]

I saw that years ago in an old comic book. Seems like it might've been "B.C."... 

[Classicrambler]

"When an eel lunges out and he bites off your snout, that's a moray!!"

That's funny.  lol

  Bummer...I'd been mulling over the idea of writing such a parody for several years now. Phooey; by the time I have a good idea, someone else has already done it.

[Nerd]

Yeah, it always stinks when you go tell your friends, "I've got this great idea! dadadadada...", and they say,

"Yeah, dude, that's a good idea, but I saw that same thing on channel 12 the other day."



lol

[apsurf]

Yea, especially when a friend comes up and says, "your girlfriend told me about yall's date" and all you did was pay for a girl's lunch on  a trip and you hardly know her!

makes you wonder if the humor is coming out...or if you have someone crushing on ya....

[Newsman]

Hmm, any recent trips you haven't mentioned there, Brandon?

The Inquisito..err, the public wants to know! 


John  err, 

[apsurf]

Let's just say st louis comes to mind...or is that memphis...

[Jon_W]

I have a hard time making friends, mainly because I have been hurt by friends. I am trying to get over that. Do have a girl that works where I work that I like now but am still afraid to get too close

[SippinTea]

We've all been hurt by friends, Jon. But take the risk. I think you'll find it's worth it.

One of my very best friends is a guy that took the risk, and I'm really thankful he did.

In reading back through this thread, I found a former post of mine....

I'm very thankful for my non-romantic relationships with guy friends, because they put something into my life that I can't get from my girl friends. And in listening to the guys, I'd have to say it works the other way around, too. Ladies put something into men's lives that can't be received any other way. Guess God knew what He was doing when He made us different, eh? *grin* Looks as if we all need each other, after all....even when we don't want to admit it.

I still feel that way. In fact, I feel even more strongly about it now than when I wrote that.

[The Purple Fuzzy]

This is an interesting thread to go back and read.

[MelodyB]

Isnt it though?

[apsurf]

Being the orginator of the thread....I still find it okay to have a "aquaintance friend"  But I still won't let anyone very close to me.   Probably will continue that path regardless of circumstances that ever arise.   I might let someone be a little closer than others, but even then I do pull back from them after a bit.  I just find it more comforting keeping the wall up.  It isn't that I don't need anyone in my life.  I just prefer to keep things at a comfortable distance.  I guess It all boils down to that I have a very large bubble of personal space!

[titushome]

I just find it more comforting keeping the wall up.  It isn't that I don't need anyone in my life.  I just prefer to keep things at a comfortable distance.  I guess It all boils down to that I have a very large bubble of personal space!

Recognizing one's particular need for "personal space" is a good thing, but it's also true that what we're comfortable with is sometimes, perhaps even usually, NOT what is best for us.

Maybe you need to force yourself beyond comfort. 

[Jon_W]

Being the orginator of the thread....I still find it okay to have a "aquaintance friend"  But I still won't let anyone very close to me.   Probably will continue that path regardless of circumstances that ever arise.   I might let someone be a little closer than others, but even then I do pull back from them after a bit.  I just find it more comforting keeping the wall up.  It isn't that I don't need anyone in my life.  I just prefer to keep things at a comfortable distance.  I guess It all boils down to that I have a very large bubble of personal space!

I feel  the same here. There is like a wall up that I cant and am not sure I want to get down. I have a couple of friends and it seems the closest friend I have is one thats helped me since my moms death. And its someone I have never met  but she has been  there to talk to and just listen. Infact shes the one that told me about this board.

I know I need to try make more friends just its hard

Jon

[Ashlee]

Well, that one broke through the barrier.  There will be more.  There is however, one friend you have.  He has never left your side and he never will. 

[newkris]

some friends are worth more investment than others.  not because of what you get back, but because of what you see grow in their life.

maybe it's because of the One friend that i know this to be true.

but then there's one lately that i have rather enjoyed watching.

God is good. 

[upcchris]

"That's a moray" BOL...that's classic!

Investing in freindship is definitely worth it whether they are male or female...yeah it bites when they get married and you can't spend as much time hanging out with them, unless you're fortunate enough to have a close guy friend and gal friend get married to each other, but the memories are worth it. Take it from someone who's been surrounded by an ivory tower for most of her life...their many gaps in my wall now and I'm working on breaking it down...but there are times when I appear aloof and distant to people who don't know me, therefore it's difficult to make friends with people who think you're cold and standoffish....initially I was like that because I was afraid of guy freindships that would progress...but now I don't care, they know where I stand and I like hanging with them as freinds.

[Sis]

We had a guy friend who was younger. We helped him, even gave him our old car because it needed about $400 worth of work it needed.

He used us, then started arguements and marched out. Then went to others in church and started lying about us. The last time I saw him was General conference year before last, and he started an arguement right there at conference. I felt so bad, we left and didn't stay for service.

Those are the type that you don't want to hang on to. We were only trying to give him a leg up because his parents disowned him. Now I see why.

There are quite a few people back home who believed what he said after we left. It doesn't pay to try to help out sometimes.

[Melody]

The last few years God has placed wonderful friends in my life.  And they keep leaving.  All for God-called great reasons, so I am excited for them!  But after a while it is sad.  I have a friend who I have come to reguard highly.  She is moving this summer to be a principal in Honduras.  I have had a couple of moments that it just hurts.  I know we will always be friends, but ya know how friendships tend to change.   


I was talking to a friend about it and she said I could love deep and have it hurt sometimes or put up a wall to never know the depths of great relationships, keeping everyone at a distance.  It's tempting to not become so invested in people, to not put myself out there.  But then I wouldn't have the blessed friendship in the 1st place!  And really, it's worth it.

There's the guarantee that at some point, I will be used and hurt if I keep putting myself out there.  It's happened, and it will happen again, but I have to trust the process that God is bringing me through to be closer to Him.  If I deny the process, I deny my own growth.



To know Him, in the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His suffering.   I can't have one without the other. 

[Sis]

God may put someone in your life for a season for a reason. You may uplift them in ways you will never know, or they may be giving you answers you didn't know you needed.

I tend to go with the flow. If they're there, I give it my all, if they have to leave, I'll be sad but happy for them.

[(R.I.P.) YooperYankDude]

I have found out that God puts people in your life for specific specific, and sometimes unknown reasons... and not always the reasons you think.

They perhaps may be used by God to help open a door, that may not have previously been open. 

BUT no matter the reason, I do cherish ALL my friends, and like keeping them long term... although when a gal I am friends with gets married, things do change... but hopefully, I can become good friends with her new best friend, and then I can hang out with them together!

:grin:

I have met so many new people by meeting just one person, one really good amazing God sent friend!  And now because of all those new awesome, amazing friends, I am making even more awesome friends... God is cool!   :grin:

[SippinTea]

BUT no matter the reason, I do cherish ALL my friends, and like keeping them long term... although when a gal I am friends with gets married, things do change... but hopefully, I can become good friends with her new best friend, and then I can hang out with them together!

:grin:

[(R.I.P.) YooperYankDude]

BUT no matter the reason, I do cherish ALL my friends, and like keeping them long term... although when a gal I am friends with gets married, things do change... but hopefully, I can become good friends with her new best friend, and then I can hang out with them together!

:grin:

I knew of at least one friend... soon to be bride would appreciate this...


*Yoop goes to check on flights to Upper West Coast to visit a few friends... and make some new ones!*