Poll
Question:
What are you?
Option 1: Married
votes: 8
Option 2: Single and looking
votes: 6
Option 3: Single and happy being single
votes: 5
Option 4: Single never been married
votes: 8
Option 5: Human
votes: 3
My baby brother got married on Nov. 22! It was such a beautiful wedding, and we are so blessed with his new wife a part of our family!!!!
But five minutes into the reception my Dad was going around introducing me as "The Unmarried One" :-? :frustrated: Hmmmmm.....I have decided to look on the positive side of things...
I'm not the "Dumb One"
I'm not the " Unhappily Married One"
I'm not the "Divorced One"
I'm not the "Psycho Single One"
I'm not the "Short One".....oh wait, is 5'3" considered short?
Let's see what other title can I come up with? At least I'm not the "Dead One"..... :updown:
Also, my brother's new Father-in-Law kept walking by me saying "Your next....." ! Would anyone like to know how many times I walked by the "Father-in-Law? LOL :smirk2:
It also didn't help that by time they found the bouquet almost everyone was gone, and of course I was the only single female still there..... Who hides the bouquet in the frig anyway? :o I decided (after I escaped my brothers' loving arms as he tried to force me to catch the bouquet) that I would let the two six year old girls fight over it....sweet of me,right? :hypocrite:
I'm not the "Psycho Single One"
:laughat:
GIRL!!! Why didn't you just elbow those six-year olds out of the way and TAKE that bouquet!??!?!
*shaking my head*
Woulda made a great photo opp with your new SIL, anyway. lol
AND it might have actually worked. Now you'll never know for sure, will ya?
NOW you're gonna have to wait for a six-year old to get married next before you can get married!!! :o
:sadheadshake:
lol And my brother told me at his wedding, "you're next." I was like... Ummm... there's no one else on the list. Of COURSE I'm next! lol
My SIL is an only child.
My brother is my only sibling.
Then again, my 20-year old step-brother got married before me and after my brother...
:roll:
lol
But you know, it's kind of fun to be "the unmarried one" sometimes.
Sometimes.
**HUGS** Becca
I caught the bouquet at my friend from work's wedding and I was married in less than 6 months. ;)
So there's a Becca and a Becca-boo?
Depends on what mood she's in! :rofl:
Quote from: The Purple Fuzzy on December 12, 2008, 10:33:30 PM
I caught the bouquet at my friend from work's wedding and I was married in less than 6 months. ;)
*goes to find a wedding to crash and a bouquet to catch*
I caught the boquet at my sister's wedding, and was married 2 months later! :o
I seriously didn't want to go up there to begin with, since I was already getting married, but I had to take my unmarried grandmother up there *cough*. When my sister threw the boquet, it hit me right in the chest! What was I supposed to do, let it just fall on the floor? I tried to give it to my grandmother real quick, but she wouldn't take it. :laughhard:
Never caught a boquet and got married anyway. :laughhard:
Never caught a bouquet, and never particularly wanted to either. *shrug* Maybe I'm weird or something?
Never mind, don't answer that. *laugh*
:beret:
I've caught several and lost several... usually got a handful of flower or something, its always been close lol
other chicks snatch it away...
they can have it!
more and more I'm deciding that being the unmarried one is the better position to be in
Quote from: SippinTea on December 13, 2008, 02:46:27 AM
Never caught a bouquet, and never particularly wanted to either. *shrug* Maybe I'm weird or something?
Never mind, don't answer that. *laugh*
:beret:
*cough*
Ok...I wont.
Quote from: SippinTea on December 13, 2008, 02:46:27 AM
Never caught a bouquet, and never particularly wanted to either. *shrug* Maybe I'm weird or something?
Never mind, don't answer that. *laugh*
:beret:
Me either. Neither of us were actively "looking." We just sorta found each other.
I've never cared, but I realized, I never even tried. Wasn't interested in being knocked down by some desperate person. LOL I have watched "Funniest Home Videos" ya know?
Quote from: RainbowJingles on December 12, 2008, 10:08:59 PM
GIRL!!! Why didn't you just elbow those six-year olds out of the way and TAKE that bouquet!??!?!
*shaking my head*
Woulda made a great photo opp with your new SIL, anyway. lol
AND it might have actually worked. Now you'll never know for sure, will ya?
NOW you're gonna have to wait for a six-year old to get married next before you can get married!!! :o
:sadheadshake:
lol And my brother told me at his wedding, "you're next." I was like... Ummm... there's no one else on the list. Of COURSE I'm next! lol
My SIL is an only child.
My brother is my only sibling.
Then again, my 20-year old step-brother got married before me and after my brother...
:roll:
lol
But you know, it's kind of fun to be "the unmarried one" sometimes.
Sometimes.
**HUGS** Becca
I have this strange phenomenon that happens when all eyes are on me................I turn red......really red..lol Especially when I'm doing something people might think is funny! :smirk2: :-\ :-( I'm not sure the pictures would have looked good with my face, and the bouquet being red! :biglaugh:
So matching a bouquet was a worse thing than being single.... teehee!
QuoteI have this strange phenomenon that happens when all eyes are on me................I turn red......really red..lol Especially when I'm doing something people might think is funny!
really? I should do that. I dont. I just turn silly. BOL! and show off and stuff... and make a show out of myself... and embarrass my sis and such! :lol:
Quote from: iridiscente on December 24, 2008, 10:16:14 PM
So matching a bouquet was a worse thing than being single.... teehee!
Well, since I have never been one to believe in the power of luck...I'm more of a "God is in control" type!!! :biglaugh:......I don't think God's going to put a hold on my finding someone because I didn't go out and catch a bunch of frozen flowers this time out! ;)
Quote from: sunlight on December 25, 2008, 01:33:53 AM
really? I should do that. I dont. I just turn silly. BOL! and show off and stuff... and make a show out of myself... and embarrass my sis and such! :lol:
Your poor sis! :smirk2: I sometimes show off...but it all depends on what it's for and who's around....lol If your going to be red you might as well laugh at yourself....along with everyone else!!!
Quote from: sunlight on December 25, 2008, 01:33:53 AM
QuoteI have this strange phenomenon that happens when all eyes are on me................I turn red......really red..lol Especially when I'm doing something people might think is funny!
really? I should do that. I dont. I just turn silly. BOL! and show off and stuff... and make a show out of myself... and embarrass my sis and such! :lol:
I just get mouthy and obnoxious under pressure.
I have an Aunt ( my mos Siter) thinks that it is HORRIBLE that I am not have the huge S word... that it is not normal for me being 43 and NO man in my life once back when my mom was living she had my mom convinced that I was a lesbo..... how sick...
both of her kids had pre marital sex and that was fine with her.... when my cousin was 15 she put her on the pilll and her brother was handed the C things.... that is normal...to them but if some one is saving themselves for marriage you are NUTS....
Anyone else had this type of stuff thrown in there face?
I was wondering what the HUGE "S" word could be...the only S word I could think of is kinda small. LOL
that is it... LOL I called it the huge S word because she was making such a HUge fuss about it LOL
Well, that's a messed up way for your aunt to look at things.
*begins to wonder, should he dress up in a bunch of flowers, wait for a group of single ladies and then jump off a rock and see which one catches him*
*begins to have second thoughts, with the flowers bunched around him, it might be a great hinderance to run away from the one who does attempt to catch him*
Here's an idea for you. :hypocrite:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=6564990&page=1
Woman on a Mission to Marry in 52 Weeks
Neenah Pickett Launches Web Site to Help Her Find a Husband in a Year
Lots of people made New Year's resolutions this week, but Neenah Pickett is really a woman on a mission -- a mission to find a husband in 2009.
Neenah Pickett is determined to meet her future spouse by year's end.Pickett, a 42-year-old media consultant from New Jersey, launched a Web site Thursday called www.52weeks2findhim.com to help her meet her future mate by next New Year's Eve.
cont...
:o Oh my.
:beret:
Some ppl dont need 52 weeks. 4 days will do. *cough*
If you meet the right person it doesn't always take very long.
I guess havent met him yet. (http://pentecostalwomensforum.com/Smileys/default/unsuregirl.gif)
just stamp "desperate" across herself why doesn't she
wish her the best.... after 42yrs hasn't she realized single is less hassle anyway?
Quote from: The Purple Fuzzy on January 02, 2009, 07:55:18 PM
Here's an idea for you. :hypocrite:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=6564990&page=1
Woman on a Mission to Marry in 52 Weeks
Neenah Pickett Launches Web Site to Help Her Find a Husband in a Year
Lots of people made New Year's resolutions this week, but Neenah Pickett is really a woman on a mission -- a mission to find a husband in 2009.
Neenah Pickett is determined to meet her future spouse by year's end.Pickett, a 42-year-old media consultant from New Jersey, launched a Web site Thursday called www.52weeks2findhim.com to help her meet her future mate by next New Year's Eve.
cont...
Hmmm... I wonder if, once she's finished with that website if I could borrow the URL? :ponders:
Maybe I should start before the end of the year, though.
Let's see... what should be my URL?
64yearstofindhim?
or www.texansoughtfornow.com ?? :bigcheese:
John :waving:
Quote from: iridiscente on December 25, 2008, 06:39:27 AM
I just get mouthy and obnoxious under pressure.
Wow...I guess you must be under pressure all the time. :smirk2:
Quote from: Chseeads on January 06, 2009, 08:21:40 PM
Quote from: iridiscente on December 25, 2008, 06:39:27 AM
I just get mouthy and obnoxious under pressure.
Wow...I guess you must be under pressure all the time. :smirk2:
:smirk747:
I think I need to make a shirt that says "self destructs under pressure."
lol.. Dina's obnoxious mouth, is a quality! I think shes awesome, she always makes me laugh!! :great:
Will post, no time now
Quote from: EricShane on January 07, 2009, 02:44:34 AM
lol.. Dina's obnoxious mouth, is a quality! I think shes awesome, she always makes me laugh!! :great:
Yup. It's a quality, alright. We're just not sure what KIND of quality it is. :bigcheese:
I'm pretty sure it's a negative one.
I know the irritation of the 'you're next' routine...it almost sounds like a threat...and if they're not being prophetic, then why bother saying it? Do they know for sure that I will be the next person, amongst all the attendees of the wedding, that will get married...the art of wishful thinking at its best....*sigh* But if they are being prophetic...that's another matter entirely.
Ok I don't mind all *that* much...more often than not, it's amusing...but not if they try to set you up with someone....that's when the amusement ceases abruptly and irritaion and embarrassment sets in....but that rarely happens (if it's ever happened at all)
The best course of action in any an every situation is to pray.
Before I met Stevebert, my dad would keep saying I needed a man in my life and that I needed to get married. I wasn't dating at the time. I was concentrating on everything else BUT men.
I finally got mad and said, "I'm not dating anyone right now, what do you want me to do, go down to [Main} Street and pick someone out and say, "I have to get married, my dad said so?"
He quit bothering me about it after that.
I am tired of looking, I think, you know when your over 40 you just kind of give up. :-?
I don't think that you should give up hope....if that's your thing!! My sister just got married to a very, very nice guy that has really been a blessing to her and our whole family!!! She turned............ *shhhhh.... don't let her know that I told you her age* ...... forty the year she married!!! *pssst..... that was two years ago* :hypocrite: I think that God has a very unique sense-of -humor when it comes to finding the right one....if you trust in him to consider the desires of your heart, and are faithful to him; I know that he is faithful to keep his promises! He cares regardless of where we are at in our lives!!! He has a plan.....some how I have a feeling that something very special, or should I say that someone very special is coming my way.... I keep getting people saying that God has laid a certain thought, in other words; the answer to my prayers on their hearts!
I know some people especially the world think it's kinda weird to wait, in other words, to not settle for less than what you expect when your starting to push the age issue!! Not that anyone has a right to decide what's pushing the age limit...lol WHY should there be a limit? There are no limits to LOVE!!!
Besides why should we settle for just anything?? :smirk2: I don't want some guy sitting at home playing gameboy while I work to provide for me and the family!!! Sorry I see too many women marrying boys that want to just sit it out on the sofa!!! ALL, because they don't want to be alone!!!! I want a man!!!!! I don't see anything wrong with the women having a job to help out; now days it almost takes two incomes to get anywhere!!! But a man sitting at home while the women works two jobs to keep things together....I DON"T THINK SO!!! :-?
I get a lot of pressure at work to start dating guys that aren't in church, and don't have lifestyles like mine!!! None of my friends or coworkers see anything wrong with settle for something just too have someone! :frustrated:
"Because, your not getting any younger!!!" :P WHATEVER To me age is not an issue...of course that is if you can find a guy the will act his age...lol ;)
Heaven help us....if your single there must be something wrong with you, right? WHATEVER..... Hello, I don't want to settle for a jerk just because I'm alone!!! LOL It's like people seem to think that you can't be happy being alone!!!! Life doesn't just start when you get married....although, hopefully getting married improves your life(IF you waited for the "right one")..LOL
I would rather be single and happy than married and unhappy!!!
I"m alive!!!! I'm single!!! Sometimes, I'm happy! Sometimes, I'm not!!! My life is in God's hands!!!
Good post. :)
Good post and all true. Don't settle. You'd be asking for heartaches if you do.
I wish I could copy and paste that to a few particular people without it being taken the wrong way!
:o
Quote from: iridiscente on March 04, 2009, 11:55:33 PM
I wish I could copy and paste that to a few particular people without it being taken the wrong way!
I'm tempted to print it off, glue it to a 2x4, and smack a certain friend of mine upside the head with it.
lol geek. Not sure that would be terribly effective.
Maybe if he wrote it backwards so he could read it in the mirror.
isn't there a scripture about being content whatever state you're in? . . . . hmmmm
it's really odd for me to hear, but people keep asking me when i'm going to start dating and if i'm going to various singles functions or have i noticed bro. so-and-so. i'm always like, "what? why are you asking me that." then i realize i'm single. as i have said before, it's easy for me to know that i'm not married, but tough to remember i'm single.
you are much better off without the title "Divorced" or "Unhappily Married One".
truly.
God will give you what you need when you need it and right on time - with or without a husband. thus saith the bapka! :pwink:
With or without people cramming it down your throat, too!
Quote from: newkris on March 08, 2009, 01:23:07 PM
isn't there a scripture about being content whatever state you're in? . . . . hmmmm
it's really odd for me to hear, but people keep asking me when i'm going to start dating and if i'm going to various singles functions or have i noticed bro. so-and-so. i'm always like, "what? why are you asking me that." then i realize i'm single. as i have said before, it's easy for me to know that i'm not married, but tough to remember i'm single.
you are much better off without the title "Divorced" or "Unhappily Married One".
truly.
God will give you what you need when you need it and right on time - with or without a husband. thus saith the bapka! :pwink:
Quote from: Sis on March 08, 2009, 06:15:58 PM
With or without people cramming it down your throat, too!
Preach it, Sistahs!! :thumbsup2:
:beret:
Quote from: Sis on March 08, 2009, 06:15:58 PM
With or without people cramming it down your throat, too!
exactly.
My dad did that to me and I finally got mad and said, "I'm not going out with anyone at the moment. What do you want me to do, go down to [main] Street and pick out someone and say, I need to get married, let's go?" He stopped for awhile. He was so sure I was too stupid to live my life without a man that he would be there all the time. To the point of no privacy.
QuoteHe was so sure I was too stupid to live my life without a man
Honestly, I've known more men who were hopeless on their own than women.
The Bible's true. :)
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone...
Thanx Geek!
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on December 24, 2008, 08:38:52 PM
I have this strange phenomenon that happens when all eyes are on me................I turn red......really red..lol Especially when I'm doing something people might think is funny! :smirk2: :-\ :-( I'm not sure the pictures would have looked good with my face, and the bouquet being red! :biglaugh:[/quote]I know what you're talking about, the red face thing is no fun.
Quote from: upcchris on January 19, 2009, 01:16:18 PM
I know the irritation of the 'you're next' routine...it almost sounds like a threat...and if they're not being prophetic, then why bother saying it? Do they know for sure that I will be the next person, amongst all the attendees of the wedding, that will get married...the art of wishful thinking at its best....*sigh* But if they are being prophetic...that's another matter entirely.
Ok I don't mind all *that* much...more often than not, it's amusing...but not if they try to set you up with someone....that's when the amusement ceases abruptly and irritaion and embarrassment sets in....but that rarely happens (if it's ever happened at all)
The best course of action in any an every situation is to pray.
Being set-up sounds fun!
Quote from: iridiscente on March 04, 2009, 11:55:33 PM
I wish I could copy and paste that to a few particular people without it being taken the wrong way!
I find that if I will say something in a kind manner; that even when the truth hurts, most people will at least listen to me..... I'm a very honest person...or I try to be... LOL Since none of us are perfect.... I'm not going to beat myself up if I slip...lol Most of the time I embarrass myself because I don't lie often; if you ask my advice I will more than likely tell you what you really need to do, even if it is just to grow up!!! :updown: :biglaugh: ;)
Of course, there are some people I find that I can't discuss certain things because no matter how you say something their going to take it the wrong way!!! :-\ I work with one person in particular that takes everything you say the wrong way!! GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes it is best just to not talk to her at all, which makes me feel bad; but that is slightly better than her getting her feelings hurt!!! WOW... totally off the topic!!
Quote from: Amelia Bedelia on January 05, 2009, 01:56:16 AM
just stamp "desperate" across herself why doesn't she
wish her the best.... after 42yrs hasn't she realized single is less hassle anyway?
:laughhard:
Not giving an opinion isn't dishonest. And telling people you don't know isn't dishonest. It's an evasion to keep from hurting someone's feelings.
There ARE people out there looking for a fight, and you have to watch everything you say around them. It's hard to work with someone when you feel like you have to tiptoe around them to keep from arguing, or at least to keep them from getting mad at you.
Quote from: upcchris on January 19, 2009, 01:16:18 PM
I know the irritation of the 'you're next' routine...it almost sounds like a threat...and if they're not being prophetic, then why bother saying it? Do they know for sure that I will be the next person, amongst all the attendees of the wedding, that will get married...the art of wishful thinking at its best....*sigh* But if they are being prophetic...that's another matter entirely.
Ok I don't mind all *that* much...more often than not, it's amusing...but not if they try to set you up with someone....that's when the amusement ceases abruptly and irritation and embarrassment sets in....but that rarely happens (if it's ever happened at all)
I guess it is part of being human when people feel they have to point out the obvious...
(The obvious being that "Yes, I'm single, and no I don't have kids..... Hello, I said I'm single; so that means there is no man in the picture, and that mean there is no ring on my finger, and yes that means I don't want to have a baby right now....seriously, why would I want to raise a kid on my own?" :o Sorry... I keep getting asked at work why I don't have kids
....."HELLO, I'm single" ....just needed to vent there a little bit!!! I feel better!!! :biglaugh:)
...or they have to spout off meaningless comments when they interact with others!!! I'm mean really how does "your next" help... ? I'm next after what? I'm next after who? I'm next when?? Who am I next to? LOL How about a name, a place, a time........? :updown: ;)
Quote from: upcchris on January 19, 2009, 01:16:18 PMThe best course of action in any an every situation is to pray.
Amen!!!!!!!!
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 06:30:26 PM
Not giving an opinion isn't dishonest. And telling people you don't know isn't dishonest. It's an evasion to keep from hurting someone's feelings.
There ARE people out there looking for a fight, and you have to watch everything you say around them. It's hard to work with someone when you feel like you have to tiptoe around them to keep from arguing, or at least to keep them from getting mad at you.
Sort of like"IF you can't say anything good don't say anything at all"!!!???
I try to practice that to a certain extent...but I have always felt that God has used me to be the one that others can come to with their troubles; if not their advisor, than maybe their confidant,or just their friend!!! I get people coming to me all the time with their problems, and for the most part it's just for prayer....but I feel that if God has put me in someone's path than there is probably some words of wisdom he has for me to share.... even for the most part if it is only to say "God can handle any situation if you will turn it over to him!!!!".
Discretion
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 06:30:26 PM
There ARE people out there looking for a fight, and you have to watch everything you say around them. It's hard to work with someone when you feel like you have to tiptoe around them to keep from arguing, or at least to keep them from getting mad at you.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!! For example: I said that the chocolate tastes different in the south because they have to put more wax in it because of the heat!!! A given fact for the most part....lol This certain someone decides that I hate the south because I'm always downing it!!! Another example, I said something about the local newspaper because they are always making mistakes... and a lot of them are really stupid, and sometimes funny; so this person says that people who are down on her town should just move!!! :o :biglaugh: :-\ :smirk2:
CHILDISH stuff...but it never stops!! Nobody is allowed to have their own opinion!!!! :frustrated:
Quote from: Jallen on March 13, 2009, 02:16:40 AM
Being set-up sounds fun!
You haven't been set up by my sister, or seen what the people at my work want to set me up with....LOL They don't get the "unequally yoked" part of my belief... my Lifestyle!!!
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 06:55:53 PM
You haven't been set up by my sister, or seen what the people at my work want to set me up with....LOL They don't get the "unequally yoked" part of my belief... my Lifestyle!!![/color]
No, you're right, that won't work. I was thinking within the body of believers (Apostolics).
My sister has always tried to set me up with apostolic men; but so far the experiences have me thinking that single may be the best state-of-being...so far!!! ;) Scary!!! :o But then my sister is a bit older than me and our taste in men run a little differently...lol Although, I will admit that she caught a good one when she married her husband...LOL
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 06:52:17 PM
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 06:30:26 PM
There ARE people out there looking for a fight, and you have to watch everything you say around them. It's hard to work with someone when you feel like you have to tiptoe around them to keep from arguing, or at least to keep them from getting mad at you.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!
For example: I said that the chocolate tastes different in the south because they have to put more wax in it because of the heat!!! A given fact for the most part....lol This certain someone decides that I hate the south because I'm always downing it!!! Another example, I said something about the local newspaper because they are always making mistakes... and a lot of them are really stupid, and sometimes funny; so this person says that people who are down on her town should just move!!! :o :biglaugh: :-\ :smirk2:
CHILDISH stuff...but it never stops!! Nobody is allowed to have their own opinion!!!! :frustrated:
OOOHHH! Know people like that. Hate that you have to walk around them so they don't fight with ya. *Shivers* Why can't people just try to get along for awhile? Especially at work!
You have to be careful because they're looking to jump on one little thing you say that they can and will take the wrong way. Even if you make a mistake. Then they call you liar and other lovely names. I'm VERY familiar with this. You're not allowed mistakes, either. Everything you say and do is intentional in their eyes. UGHHHHH
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 07:22:24 PM
OOOHHH! Know people like that. Hate that you have to walk around them so they don't fight with ya. *Shivers* Why can't people just try to get along for awhile? Especially at work!
You kidding? I love dealing with prickly people like that... I've never met one I couldn't win over (with time).
There have been people at work that I have befriended. People that can't get along with anyone else. I've had people ask me how I can stand them. I've been told that I can get most anyone to like me.
BUT there ARE those who refuse to try to get along. They WANT to be "prickly" and they thrive on discord. It's hard to break through to these people because their mind is made up. Trouble is, they're so sweet to others. They pick and choose who they want to be rude to or bully, if you will.
Or worse yet, the people who turn on you. Acted like your friend, then turned for some reason and blabbed everything you said in confidence because you thought they were a friend. I've even had some who PRETENDED to be your friend, and turned like that. They have even put down the others around then get you to say something, then go back to the others and tell what one thing you said. They don't tell what THEY said. And I don't betray confidences, so I haven't said anything, either. Just took the lumps and cried about the mess they created.
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 07:13:42 PM
My sister has always tried to set me up with apostolic men; but so far the experiences have me thinking that single may be the best state-of-being...so far!!! ;) Scary!!! :o But then my sister is a bit older than me and our taste in men run a little differently...lol Although, I will admit that she caught a good one when she married her husband...LOL
I've heard several women make the same complaint. Not sure what that means...
I know what she means.
Do I EVER know what she means! :lol:
*mumbles about being ever so thankful for her PC*
:beret:
To use the East Texas vernacular ... "Why're they doin' y'all that'a way?"
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 07:35:23 PM
BUT there ARE those who refuse to try to get along. They WANT to be "prickly" and they thrive on discord. It's hard to break through to these people because their mind is made up. Trouble is, they're so sweet to others. They pick and choose who they want to be rude to or bully, if you will.
Or worse yet, the people who turn on you. Acted like your friend, then turned for some reason and blabbed everything you said in confidence because you thought they were a friend. I've even had some who PRETENDED to be your friend, and turned like that. They have even put down the others around then get you to say something, then go back to the others and tell what one thing you said. They don't tell what THEY said. And I don't betray confidences, so I haven't said anything, either. Just took the lumps and cried about the mess they created.
I see... so you're quick to trust people.
Quote from: SippinTea on March 16, 2009, 07:41:18 PM
I know what she means.
Do I EVER know what she means! :lol:
*mumbles about being ever so thankful for her PC*
:beret:
Maybe it's a female thing??? :lol: Seeing as how we both understand without the details...lol
Quote from: Jallen on March 16, 2009, 07:39:23 PM
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 07:13:42 PM
My sister has always tried to set me up with apostolic men; but so far the experiences have me thinking that single may be the best state-of-being...so far!!! ;) Scary!!! :o But then my sister is a bit older than me and our taste in men run a little differently...lol Although, I will admit that she caught a good one when she married her husband...LOL
I've heard several women make the same complaint. Not sure what that means...
You mean to say that you have never met an apostolic lady that made you want to run quickly in an opposite direction!!?? ;) :biglaugh:
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 07:59:36 PM
Maybe it's a female thing??? :lol: Seeing as how we both understand without the details...lol
No, I understood what you were saying, several women have told me similar stories... what I can't understand is why a woman's friends and family members would try to set her up with someone who is (dare I actually say it?) "beneath" her. (strictly speaking on a marriageability scale)
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 08:01:38 PM
You mean to say that you have never met an apostolic lady that made you want to run quickly in an opposite direction!!?? ;) :biglaugh:
There was one time.. it still hurts me to think about it. I was visiting a friend's church and they wanted to introduce me to someone. I was a little annoyed by the whole thing and when I saw her I wasn't impressed. I didn't mean for it to, but I could tell by her facial expression my displeasure showed. In an instant, without a word said, her feelings were hurt and I was ashamed of myself... still am. From then on I always keep a guard up when being introduced to avoid that scenario again.
Quote from: Jallen on March 16, 2009, 08:03:12 PM
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 07:59:36 PM
Maybe it's a female thing??? :lol: Seeing as how we both understand without the details...lol
No, I understood what you were saying, several women have told me similar stories... what I can't understand is why a woman's friends and family members would try to set her up with someone who is (dare I actually say it?) "beneath" her. (strictly speaking on a marriageability scale)
Ahhh...
More than likely they didn't see that person really well!!! In my sister's case she often overlooks things; I think because she has a big heart!!! But then I have always had a spirit of discernment about me....that is when I'm allowing God to lead in all areas...sometimes I miss judge people, or I judge them too harshly!!! Most of the time I'm a pretty good judge of character!!
Plus humans are sometimes good at pretending to be what they really aren't...LOL ;) Mainly I don't want a "Professional Pentecostal" man... I think that most people understand that term? I want a man where God's spirit really dwells in his heart.... and God's truth shows in his walk!!!
I don't think "Professional Pentecostals" know what they're missing.
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 07:59:36 PM
Maybe it's a female thing??? :lol: Seeing as how we both understand without the details...lol
*giggle* I'm thinkin' you might be right.
Quote from: Assuredbyfaith on March 16, 2009, 08:14:13 PM
Ahhh...
More than likely they didn't see that person really well!!! In my sisters case she often overlooks things; I think because she has a big heart!!! But then I have always had a spirit of discernment about me....that is when I'm allowing God to lead in all areas...sometimes I miss judge people, or I judge them too harshly!!! Most of the time I'm a pretty good judge of character!!
Plus humans are sometimes good at pretending to be what they really aren't...LOL ;) Mainly I don't want a "Professional Pentecostal" man... I think that most people understand that term? I want a man where God's spirit really dwells in his heart.... and God's truth shows in his walk!!!
Good post.
The other issue I saw come into play in my own life was when well-meaning friends and family sensed I was lonely, and tried to 'help' me not be lonely anymore. It didn't work, because they often didn't really know what makes me tick, and (obviously!!) had no idea what kind of man I enjoy being around. :updown: I often wondered what made them think they knew me so well. It was only too apparent they didn't. :smirk2:
Oh well. I don't have to worry about that anymore. :pwink: Thank God!! :lol:
:beret:
:highfive: Ruby and :hyper: about not worrying about things like that anymore
:chairspin:
Elona, Deb says "HI" and she wants to know when your coming to TX? :biglaugh:
Quote from: Jallen on March 16, 2009, 07:44:37 PM
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 07:35:23 PM
BUT there ARE those who refuse to try to get along. They WANT to be "prickly" and they thrive on discord. It's hard to break through to these people because their mind is made up. Trouble is, they're so sweet to others. They pick and choose who they want to be rude to or bully, if you will.
Or worse yet, the people who turn on you. Acted like your friend, then turned for some reason and blabbed everything you said in confidence because you thought they were a friend. I've even had some who PRETENDED to be your friend, and turned like that. They have even put down the others around then get you to say something, then go back to the others and tell what one thing you said. They don't tell what THEY said. And I don't betray confidences, so I haven't said anything, either. Just took the lumps and cried about the mess they created.
I see... so you're quick to trust people.
Nope. Not at all. But I DO give people a lot of room.
Quote from: Sis on March 16, 2009, 07:35:23 PM
There have been people at work that I have befriended. People that can't get along with anyone else. I've had people ask me how I can stand them. I've been told that I can get most anyone to like me.
BUT there ARE those who refuse to try to get along. They WANT to be "prickly" and they thrive on discord. It's hard to break through to these people because their mind is made up. Trouble is, they're so sweet to others. They pick and choose who they want to be rude to or bully, if you will.
Or worse yet, the people who turn on you. Acted like your friend, then turned for some reason and blabbed everything you said in confidence because you thought they were a friend. I've even had some who PRETENDED to be your friend, and turned like that. They have even put down the others around then get you to say something, then go back to the others and tell what one thing you said. They don't tell what THEY said. And I don't betray confidences, so I haven't said anything, either. Just took the lumps and cried about the mess they created.
:sigh: maybe one day I will be more like you and learn to do that.
Quote from: SippinTea on March 16, 2009, 08:45:37 PM
Good post.
The other issue I saw come into play in my own life was when well-meaning friends and family sensed I was lonely, and tried to 'help' me not be lonely anymore. It didn't work, because they often didn't really know what makes me tick, and (obviously!!) had no idea what kind of man I enjoy being around. :updown: I often wondered what made them think they knew me so well. It was only too apparent they didn't. :smirk2:
Oh well. I don't have to worry about that anymore. :pwink: Thank God!! :lol:
:beret:
God save us from well meaning family and friends...lol Although, without them my sister wouldn't have met her husband; as I'm sure that others wouldn't have met their spouses! LOL Although, you would think that friends and family would be a little more understanding when it comes to what you would like in a guy!!! :smirk2:
How could they be if you don't draw up a list of requirements? j/k ;)
If I had to pick just one thing that I look for in a guy, just narrowing it down to one requirement for a potential life partner....apart from the obvious (same faith)
It would have to be someone who is kind.
Someone who is a genuinely and unpretentiously kind-hearted man.
I was thinking about it the other day and that one quality struck me as the quality I'm most attracted to.
Some modicum of physical attraction is also, regrettably, necessary
:hi:
Hmmm...
John :waving:
Quote from: upcchris on March 22, 2009, 11:25:22 AM
How could they be if you don't draw up a list of requirements? j/k ;)
If I had to pick just one thing that I look for in a guy, just narrowing it down to one requirement for a potential life partner....apart from the obvious (same faith)
It would have to be someone who is kind.
Someone who is a genuinely and unpretentiously kind-hearted man.
I was thinking about it the other day and that one quality struck me as the quality I'm most attracted to.
Some modicum of physical attraction is also, regrettably, necessary
I have a list of requirements....LOL It's just that friends, and family want me to be happy(married) that they sometimes want to over look those things that they think that I could live without! I'm not sure that there are somethings that I could just overlook though... :smirk2: I'm trying to be open to God's will....because I'm sure that we see things differently.... :updown:
"I do, could it be that's a phrase you thought never could faze you well, baby, you'd better hold on tight!"
Harry Connick Jr. vicariously through Sir Chairspin.
Quote from: The Purple Fuzzy on January 02, 2009, 07:55:18 PM
Here's an idea for you. :hypocrite:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=6564990&page=1
Woman on a Mission to Marry in 52 Weeks
Neenah Pickett Launches Web Site to Help Her Find a Husband in a Year
Lots of people made New Year's resolutions this week, but Neenah Pickett is really a woman on a mission -- a mission to find a husband in 2009.
Neenah Pickett is determined to meet her future spouse by year's end.Pickett, a 42-year-old media consultant from New Jersey, launched a Web site Thursday called www.52weeks2findhim.com to help her meet her future mate by next New Year's Eve.
cont...
This was in the news again today.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/04/22/love.on.a.deadline/index.html?iref=t2test_livingwed
I wonder how she's doing with her search!